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writes:Oh dear, hoping some people can help me out here.I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago. I felt really bad about it and tried to let him down as best I could but it was hard as I think he is a good guy. We are on a committee together and I assumed we could be on good terms but it seems that my actions upset him so easily. He says that every time he sees me I do something to upset him. I know I had a little too much to drink at a Christmas party and said some things I should not have. I wish we could be friends but he does not want that...it is a struggle for us just to get along. He is not rude, it is just still so awkward. Why is he being like this and how can I fix it. I thank anyone in advance who replies to this.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Some people find rejection hard to deal with, so he may need some time to lick his wounds and move on.
What was it you said at the Christmas party that upset him so much?
He may still have feelings for you which is why he cannot be your friend at the present time, that's not to say he won't be in the future. Give him some space, be polite but wait for him to approach you.
Sure things will work out o.k.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): If I were you I wouldn't even worry about it. You have better things to do than to worry about an ex who is an occasional brat around you. Unless you're feeding off of his bitterness? It's possible that you get a ego boost from his bitterness.
I don't know how old you are but as an adult you should understand that when you end a relationship with somebody its very hard to be friends, especially on their part. Its not an excuse for either of you to be bitter or mistreat the other but I don't think its fair that you are trying to be anything to this man other than just plain cordial, considering the circumstances. And if he chooses to reach out to you then let him reach out. But given the circumstances, that's not your place. You may think he is being insensitive but I think it is insensitive on your part to expect him to be anything to you. He doesn't want to be your friend and I think that is completely understandable. And you need to respect that. And as a "mature" adult this should not be a shocker to you and you should be understanding and sensitive to that. So let him be. You do your thing, let him do his, and leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): well it sound to me that he still has feeling for. IF HIS A good guy than why did u let him go. i believe u should tell him the reason yall broke up and if u move on tell him that you'll wish he moves on as well and give it some time than he might consider being ur friend bcause it's fresh to him.
WISH U THE BEST.
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