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writes:Hello everyone, There is a girl I had a relationship with, but for the most part we've stayed good friends. We broke up because she liked another guy, and i got pretty angry at her, but then apologized, and we went back to being friends. However, recently we have had fights about many things, and she began ignoring me because she was afraid to tell me the problems she has with me because shes afraid ill get mad. Unfortunately, being ignored is something that just drives me insane, and i made matters worse by writing some bad things about it on my myspace, because she doesn't have one, so i thought she wouldn't know about it. However, her friends read it and told her everything, and she was furious yesterday, and i tried to apologize and tell her that i didn't mean any of what i said, i was just really frustrated because she was ignoring me. She won't let us be friends anymore because of these fights, and she refused to accept my apologies, and instead told me that she will never speak to me again. At first I thought it was just that we needed some time apart, but she blocked my AIM screen name and email, and de-friended and blocked me on Facebook. And I don't want to call or text her because that may make the situation worse, and I'm not sure if she'd respond. I am wondering what move I should make next, or how to get our friendship back, or even get her to talk to me again and forgive me. I mean everyone is telling me just to give her some time and shell come back, or give her some time while "the heat dies down" and then approach her again, but she sounded pretty sure of everything yesterday. We were like best friends, i mean like as close as a guy and girl could possibly be without being in a relationship, and i just want it to go back to normal. I am willing to try about anything right now so any ideas are welcome thank you.
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reader, Viper001  +, writes (4 January 2013):
Sorry, but I've been in her situation, and it a situation of disgust towards the other person. I doubt she will ever talk to you again, and if she does you'll never be "friends" again.
You actions have shown her yiu are untrustworthy (by posting on fb) and emotionally unstable.
However once you meet someone else you won't care what she thinks anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): You have to do this.....
Do not contact her, do not try to bump into her, do not speak to friends about her, do not write letters to her or text her or anything, try not to even think about her too much.
You have already apologised let her have time to actually think about things and let the anger calm down.
Just disappear (in her eyes), drop off the face of the earth. Concentrate on yourself and just been you. She will contact you at somepoint, when she does dont be over eager just be cool, calm and casual and take it from there!
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 It looks to me although you say you want your friendship back to how it was, you in fact really want to give your relationship another go and feel it will be easier to judge when the right time might be to approach her about this if you're still friends.
Saying, writing and being mean towards her have made her feel that she does not need someone such as yourself in her life, it's hardly the way to treat your friends even if you were mad with her and wanted to hurt her. It looks like you achieved what you set out to do, but it has backfired and now you have lost her completely. Only time will tell if she'll forgive you, leave her be for a while and hopefully she'll calm down and contact you herself, if she doesn't you only have yourself to blame.
Good luck.
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reader, itssosimple +, writes (5 July 2008):
here is how i look at it....the woman started liking another man while with you....blow her off and dont ever talk to her again....if you were true to her while with her you have nothing to regret and shes the one that lost a good thing...i personally would not communicate with her again....as far as it all goes tho, and you do want to stay friends with her, just be open with your feelings towards her, text and even if she doesnt text back its fine...you said what you had to say, it doesnt mean that shes ignoring you, but maybe thinking it all through....shell come areound when shes ready to...they all do, trust me i speak from experience.
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reader, Truly Devastated +, writes (5 July 2008):
Hi,
I'm sorry you're going through this. i have no idea what you said about her on Myspace, but it must have been pretty bad!!! Nonetheless, that's the way she found out about your feelings then and maybe you should post a heartfelt apology to her on Myspace and see if her friends relay that to her. make it good and make it count. Hopefully they will tell her about it and it will soften her heart towards you. good luck with her and the friendship.
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