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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

I feel he is cheating but I need to be sure before I confront him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - my mate leaves real early every morning and stays gone for 10 to 12 hours a day he is retired when he comes home he goes to sleep and he phone is ringing for awhile but he wont answer it he shower shaves and smell good but dont pay me any ...

Can another person make you anxious or be the cause of irrational behaviour?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi, my question is, can someone make u anxious or be the cause of irrational behavour. My boyfriend is a good person but i hav noticed that i change when i am around him. Wen we were together i had problems with anxiety then after we split it seemed ...

His bit on the side is returning to work in the summer....how do I stop these doubts?

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30 April 2009 (F) - Need a bit of advice to cut a long story short my h/b had an affair with a married girl at work i found out he finished it straight away he was off work himself for 6 months we spent all these months together 24/7 she stayed with her husband and ...

Please tell me if you can think of anything I can do to try and make up for what I did.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - About 4 and a half months ago my wife cheated on me. The affair had been going on for almost two months before I found out. When I found out I instantly forgave my wife and asked her to stay with me. She was going to leave me for him. However he ...

We agreed not have watch porn, now I've seen he's been searching it...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend told each other that we would not watch porn when we weren't around each other - a mutual agreement... However, I have watched porn once and literally by accident just now, I have seen on his past searches that he has been loo...

My husband revealed my secrets and completely broke my trust

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have always been in some ways disliked by my family in law over the last 15 years and for the last 5 years I have removed myself from their insulting comments. I have not once expected my husband to cut any ties that would be wrong and have ...

He dumped me, I went on a date, now we're back together but he keeps throwing it in my face!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Here is my situation – my boyfriend and I live together and we each have one child from a previous marriage (ages 3 ½ and 2). We have been together for about a year and a half now. In September (prior to us moving in together – we moved in ...

My boyfriend told his lover that I was a homeless transient who slept on his couch!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend through my brother in law and he came from NC all the way to MO to meet me. We fell in love and he wanted me to move to NC with him. I quit my job that I had for a long time and left my family and friends to be with him. ...

To all married men who have cheated.....please help me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I know I may be asking you to step outside your comfort zone here, but I'm sure you'll be doing more than just ME a favor by answering these few (not so)simple questions as HONESTLY as possible. What makes you cheat? (Of course everyone has thei...

Pretty obvious she has been cheating but I cant bring myself to break up with her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Ive been with a girl for a month or so (known her for alot longer) but recently ive had my suspicions that she might be cheating on me. Things like saying she was at a friends because she wasnt feeling well and needed to stay with her(i heard guys ...

Trust is not possible for me without evidence!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have been through one hell of a difficult few years and so has my little 8 year old son and his sister . My second husband was dreadfully abusive and we were quite ill by the end of it. Now I am with someone who seems to care about me very muc...

Lied to him about smoking and now he doesn't trust me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - when I met my boyfriend we were both smoking until I fell pregnant and decided to stop for my babies sake. a year ago my Mom passed away and the stress made me start again, I have have been smoking for a year now, lied to my boyfriend that I have ...

He slept with someone else after we broke up and I can't shake it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I am a twenty-two year old, single female whom just earned her Bachelor's in English. This past Fall, I started work at a local high school where the majority of faculty men are either already married with nearly grown children or in some way ...

My heart wants to work this through but my mind tells me different... Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost 3 months cheated on me. I found this out recently when his 'girlfriend' called me after an apparent argument they had and tattle-taled on their affair. I was crushed! He admitted to their relationship, (supposedly an old ...

My wife of 20 years wants a threesome...I may want a divorce!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for twenty years. she would like to have a threesome or swap with a couple. When she told me this i was shocked and hurt. i would like someone to help me understand this. She is forty im forty ...

I just found out my boyfriend has his own pornsite and sells viagra over the net.

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28 April 2009 (F) - I work as a accountant and have just found out my boyfriend has his own pornsite and sells viagra over the net. He also films and recruits women from a local chat site. Hes making millions but im scared becuase we work for the same company. His site ...

She's hot...then cold and I want to avoid getting hurt again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

28 April 2009 (M) - Yeah im confused right now...so there is this girl who i used to date 3 months ago and i really liked her but the last time i saw her was on our last date back in january. Since then she hasn't been so close anymore she would text every once in a ...

He admitted to a bi-sexual experience on our anniversary!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I could be here all day writing...But I'll try to sum it up a little. My husband and I were celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary the other night and we got to talking pretty deeply. We are always very open with eachother(so I thought) and always ...

I sent him nice photos of me but I worry he will not like me in reality!?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - ok so where do i start?? i am 20, nearly 21. When i was 13 i met this boy who was 14 on a chatroom. we used to text all the time and really really liked eachother. for just over 7 years we have kept i contact on and off. i hadnt heard from him for ...

All I wanted was to be loved and so I let him use me, any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - Ive stupidly let my ex boyfriend use me for the last six months! Ive being so silly and and fool. Ive been so in love with him ive let him do whatever he wanted so i was afraid of losing him. We spilt cos he wouldnt give me commitment. We were ...

He says he only cheated for sex...can this be true?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - My question is can a man (or woman)who cheats on their partner with the same woman and says it was only for sex nothing more over seveval years can it be true? He would go to her house for coffee and sex,and have gropes in the car if he gave her...

Having a child with a man who doesn't know what his sexual preference is!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5634 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I started dating this guy about three years ago before we ended it. We dated 3 months before we had sex and after that we only had sex once a week for about 2 months. I asked why were we only having sex once a week or 4 times a month - his answer ...

Am I being emotionally and physically abused here?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5689 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I'm about to be 19 in a couple days and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We have frequent amount of arguments every other day. Our most recent one was about me getting a tattoo of my youngest sisters' name for my birthday. He ...

My bf is very jealous of my guy pal! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - I am 21 and my boy friend is 23. We have been dating for 18 months and we have a great relationship except for one thing. He is so jealous of my best friend Matt. Matt and I have been best friends since we were 16. My boyfriend has been ...

He blames me for cheating! Does he not want me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

28 April 2009 (F) - What do i do if my boyfriend is always blameing me 4 cheatin but I'm really not??? Do it mean he don't wanna be with me or just what.... ...

She cheated, and I left but now she will not leave me alone!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - I just recently broke up with my girfriend of 5 years. She had an affair with a co-worker last year, and I almost left her then. But I confronted her about it, and she begged me not to leave her. Well we worked things out, and I thought things were ...

My girlfriend's best guy friend trouble

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

27 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm new at this sort of thing and I'm not used to talking about my relationship issues but I have been having a lot of trouble lately and I need advice. My primary issue in my relationship is trustworthiness. I know I am an easy going guy a...

How do guys feel when a woman acts like she isn't interested anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - I have a thing for this guy, and as far as what i'm getting from him, i think he had good intentions in the beginning, i missed a few signs, like him inviting me to party with his friends, him telling me personal info, just things like that, we ...

DID I MARRY A SERIAL CHEATER ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts My husband who is 49 had been having an affair with a younger women(28 years old)he said he was going though a mid life crises i belived him and gave him another chance,he is no longer seeing this women but i have found out that this was...

Emotionally Hurt......should I send the letter?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - My man and I had an nasty breakup for reasons unbeknow to me. He just stated that I was very disrespectful towards his feelings. We are both adults, and I wanted to talk but I was blamed for something I never did, he went through a terrible event ...

Help me figure this guy out!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - What the heck is this guy doing and what does he want from me?? Is he just playing games? Does he miss me? What is his deal? A quick bit of background info: I was seeing this guy from October last year to middle of January this year. Then we ki...

I am tearing my hair out trying to understand him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

27 April 2009 (F) - Help please I'm in a relationship with a guy but he is so hard to read when it comes to his feelings that i am always tearing my hair out trying to understand him. He always txts me in the morning but today he was late so i sent him a txt that said ...

My boyfriend is in prison, and I missed his calls!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - HELP!! - My boyfriend has just been recalled to prison and both times he has tried to phone me I have been out and missed his calls!! - What shall I do? - I want him to know I'm there for him and not deserted him!! - Help! - The whole situation is ...

I need your advice... How can I ever trust him again?

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26 April 2009 (F) - I asked a question here at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/his-comment-to-the-porn-and-dvds-i.html (however, I lost the password to the account, and can't remember the email address I signed up with, so please delete my old account!) Gina su...

Mental illness/trust issues

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

26 April 2009 (F) - I am looking for advice on what to do about a relationship which seems to have become very complicated due to mental illness/trust issues. The main thing is that I love him a lot and it would have been 8 years together this year and to me it see...

Why doesn't he treat me like her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5680 days ago

25 April 2009 (F) - i've been talking to this guy for over two months now just msn and phone we are close we know alot about eachother and i do love him tbh he is like a good friend to but he doesn't want a relationship or anything.. hes 28 im 18 hes nearly going ...

I masturbate much less often since I turned 20, is this weird?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

25 April 2009 (M) - why is it that when i was in my teens, i would masturbate at least once a day and now at 20 years of age, i don't as much? now i do it at least once a week instead of once a day? what is up with that? i just don't get that feeling to do it ever ...

Traumatized that my girl had sex with another guy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - I'm cutting this really short. Basically my girlfriend got very drunk and let a guy have sex with her. She didn't say no but she wasn't exactly saying yes and the cops say it isn't rape. I can't stop playing what happened through my head constant...

Love is still not happening for me! Is my personality not that attractive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - it really annoys me that who i am is holding me back in life! i really just want to find someone to enjoy life with. I am a bit overweight, and have already lost just over a stone. and i will continue to loose weight... but love is still not hap...

She said she feels trapped..and now I'm worried about her making poor decisions!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

24 April 2009 (M) - Alright so I've been with my girlfriend for a year now. We live together and love each other. I have a 11 month old son and she doesn't have any kids. The problem is that I get him twice a week. Once during the week and once during the weekend. The ...

I have the worst luck with men

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - I have the worst luck with men. All my relationships that mattered has been when I don't look and all of a sudden it comes. I get swept off my feet, fall head over heals for the man, never expecting anything from it all in the beginning. It's hard ...

With all these questions, are they signs that he's cheating on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

24 April 2009 (F) - My husband of 8 years have asked me following questions recently( in last month or so not all of them at the same time but in b/w conversations) which have no connection with me personally: 1. What is an IUD 2. why do women douche 3. what ca...

My boyfriend seems deceitful

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2521 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 4 month old daughter together. In the past 2 months I have found flirtatious emails exchanged between a couple of girls. My friends then told me they heard he had been cheating. When I ...

We broke up over my friend. How do I get my ex's trust back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - I moved from Michigan to Maryland 2 years ago to be with a man I truly loved. We were supposed to get married but it never happened. Whenever it was close we would argue and call it off. He travels a lot for his job or just to go back to Michigan to ...

I just paranoid of being hurt again or do I have good reason to be as such?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5695 days ago

23 April 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for a little over 5 years and we have had our ups and downs as far as it goes. She has cheated on me in the past and I am still suspicious of things that she does, my question is am I just paranoid of being hurt again ...

I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5674 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...

I'm in a LDR but I have trust issues...what can I do about them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5695 days ago

23 April 2009 (M) - Im in a long distance relationship, which is hard enough on its own, but I have trust issues too. Its not just her, I've never really trusted anybody. With all this distance between us, my imagination runs wild about what is she doing. I love her, ...

My boyfriend affair has shattered my world and I need to know how to pick myself up!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - Dear Agony Aunt's My boyfriend had an affair on me in may of 2008. I found out about it in January of 2009. It shattered my world, I am now trying to put my life back together and I can't seem to stop thinking about it every day and every night,...

I'm too naive and I always seem to make myself to vulnerable to guys

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - I had and on and off relationship for about 5 years. It started when we were quite young, so it was nothing too serious and neither were our arguments. But as it went on, just him breaking up with me and getting back with me when he felt like it. i ...

Is it possible to tell if someone is trustworthy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

23 April 2009 (F) - in my life iv been back stabbed by a few people. like for example one friend kept asking me who my other friend liked and she annoyed me so much it burst out! then she told another girl. the thing im asking is how can one tell if a person is trus...