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writes:What the heck is this guy doing and what does he want from me?? Is he just playing games? Does he miss me? What is his deal?A quick bit of background info: I was seeing this guy from October last year to middle of January this year. Then we kind of just stopped talking. In February he attempted to contact me via phone but I let it go to voicemail. I texted him later, he text me back, then I sent another text and he never responded. Same thing happened in the end of March except the first form of contact was text message, but he still blew me off. Now, yesterday, at the end of April, he sends me a random text saying "Hi." I waited to respond till this morning, with just a simple "hi" back. Still haven't recieved a response yet. What is this guy up to and why would he continue to contact me like this?
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reader, curlysue83 +, writes (12 May 2009):
i just broke up with a guy that was doing that to me recently. Honestly, if he cant take the time out to contact you on a regular, consistent basis, then he doesnt give two flying sh*ts about u, i mean seriously, HOW HARD IS IT to pick up the phone and see if u are dead or alive. Definitely let him go. Either pick up the phone and tell him to f*ck off or just ignore him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): I am going through the same thing kind of. We just stopped talking, well he did, no closure at all and when I texted or called he wouldn't text until a day later with some blasé reply and he doesn't call me back. Total loser behaviour. Gone on for a few weeks now and it is getting on my last nerve as I have no idea what's going on. Hun for your sanity you should stop replying and draw a line under that relationship. Do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 April 2009):
 One of my friends had a bf like this. He didn't call her for three months and then called her one day expecting everything to be the way it was before.
Just ignore this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Thanks for the answers...they really help a lot. Would anyone else like to offer any input? Especially any males out there?
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reader, sunny123  +, writes (27 April 2009):
I'm taking my knowledge for this situation from the film "He's Just Not That Into You" i'm afraid! Apparently if guys are interested then they make it obvious they are.
If they seem to be playing games/not committing to anything, it is because they aren't that interested. I believe he is probably still attracted to you, however if he wanted more than this he would have called in response to your texting.
Best thing to do is find a guy who doesn't play games and makes you feel special. Leave the other guy to sow his wild oats (as that is probably what he is doing).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Likely, he's not sure. Next time he calls, wait a couple of days and call him back. Between 5 and 7 pm works well- off of work, not yet out with friends. I don't know if there was physicality to the relationship, but guys don't just turn off their emotions and are very visual- maybe he saw someone he thought was you and felt happy, maybe he was looking to call someone else and saw your name and missed you.If you'd like to give it another whirl, try this: the next time he texts you, don't respond. Wait until 5-7pm, call and say "Sorry I couldn't write back, and I'm actually on my way out, but do you want to meet up at *insert time* for *insert public activity like getting a drink*? Make it seem casual. Then see how he responds. Did he show up on time, or get there before you did? When he saw you did he get up to give you a hug? Tell-tale signs he wants you back.Bring a book in case he is late, and pay attention to his body language. Does he have a sort of relaxed, smirky smile on his face and say "Hey, what's up?" or does say your name? Does he try to avoid eye contact? Sit with his chest twisted or pointing away from you? Tell-tale signs he's not emotionally into you.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): stay away from him, he is a womanizer!trust me on this one i know!!this guy isn't interested in you it's obvious that he is a loser and a person that doesn't care..do not think about him it will only hurt you ok
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