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writes:it really annoys me that who i am is holding me back in life! i really just want to find someone to enjoy life with.I am a bit overweight, and have already lost just over a stone. and i will continue to loose weight... but love is still not happening for me! i think my personality just isnt that 'attractive' for some reason.Which is a shame as i am caring, loyal, always up for a laugh and fun, and i consider myself to be clever, too. I do go out all the time and socialize. Its driving me crazy, there's nothing more i can possibly do! help please!
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reader, echomania  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 First things first: Don't worry about your weight. Focus on who you want to be, not what you look like. In order to have a great relationship with anyone, you have to first be comfortable with yourself. If you're really lucky, someone will come along that will love you no matter what you look like, weight included.
Also, you CAN try too hard. Just relax about what others see in you, and simply work at being you. It is essential to know yourself before you can truly begin to understand someone else. I myself was not really looking for love when it fell into my lap. He was just someone I knew from high school who had stumbled upon some hard times with his last girl and I was there to give him a shoulder and through time, we grew to support each other unanimously. Lastly: Never Lose Hope of finding that "Mr. Right". Until he comes along, just use the time to sculpt your own personality.
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reader, RonZ  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Well this aint really my forte but, self acceptance and appreciation is a must. If there was some personality issues what would that be? You need to understand first whats the problem rooting from.. dig deep. If you yourself find your personality to be a hindrance, then by all means sort it out. Then again its hard to move a mountain but changing ones character is much harder (although in reality, I find moving mountains would be quite a feat)
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reader, cattatonic  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Well, it usually happens when you least expect it...it hasn't happened for me yet and I am 28. I had a serious relationship with a woman for almost 10 years, but as far as men go I have not had much luck with the "relationship" part. I am not a size zero either, I'm about a 12 and I think if the man is confident with himself he will not care if you are overweight, and if he does you don't want him anyway.
But the best advice I can give is be patient, I am soooo not a patient person so I feel your frustration...it'll come don't worry. I'm sure your personality is just fine! :)
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