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Archived questions from: 9 September, 2008 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I don't think I want children anymore but my wife still does. What can I do to solve this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5914 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Hello. Well where to start. My wife and I have been together for ten years and married 5. When we first started dating we talked about wanting to have children and I really thought that I did want to have kids then. Well long story short my...

We broke up a month ago and finding out he may be in a new relationship hurts me so much. What can I do to stop this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Dear cupid, My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about one month. He basically dumped me because he said we were having problems. We were together for four years. Now I sometimes go on his myspace page ... I guess because I really miss hi...

Should I tell him I made a mistake for breaking up or should I just try to move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - seven months ago i broke up with my bf coz he wasnt paying atention 2 me. since then i havent been able 2 date,am stil madly in luv wit him. i think abt him a lot n it is very painful coz i dont think he misses even though he calls me once in a ...

How do I cope with my husband's reaction to my past?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 5678 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I met my husband when I was 17. I told him I was a virgin but I wasn't. Below is the story. Its a bit long but you need to understand the circumstances. Please bear with it I really need some good advice. At just 16, I met a 23 year old guy ...

What's the best way to tell her I fancy her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5917 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - me and my girlfriend split up a few days ago, and now i have a full on crush with one of my girl mates. ive know this girl mate for 2 years she use to date one of my friends but we are both single now, her n her partner split up the same day as me n ...

These girls that hate me for no reason have been filling his head with stuff! What's going on with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - In order to answer this question, you have to read this one: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-no-clue-what-hes-thinking-does.html Okay, today something else happened. A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog on my myspace and there are 4 gir...

What can I do about the feelings I have for my teacher?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - well see im not very good or big with emotions but i think i might like one of my jrotc teachers i dont know why but i do and it hurts when he's not teaching that day. please help....

What can I do to solve this love triangle problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - theres is this guy that likes me. but i like his best friend and his best friend and i won't work out because he cares about his friend.. but the guy who likes me won't ever give me up to his friend. what should i do? should i just forget him and ...

What can I do to stop worrying about my boyfriend's fidelity?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Ok well I met this guy.. I fell in love.. Usual stuff really! Well he's been distant with me lately... And he is on holiday and not even texting me... Oh he is in the saem country so he can it is possible... And I know it is also possible that he is ...

What does the phrase "I did love you but I am in love with you" mean to a guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I have heard men say " i do love you but im not in love with you" but what does it mean opposite of that " I did love you but I am in love with you" What does that phrase mean to a guy? ...

What are his reasons behind joining this website?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - i had a child with a man who i not only loved but who i thought wanted to be with me and our daughter as a family. I have found out that after we split up he went on an adult websight and has ticked boxes in which he has said he is looking for ...

Should I tell my sister what her husband did to me when I was younger? Or should I just tell him to stay away from my children?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5921 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - When I was about 11 my sister's husband touched my breasts and asked me if I "want to have some fun and games". I knew instantly that this was wrong and said NO and moved away from him. He then said he was just joking and didnt mean anything by it. ...

She told me she only kissed him but I don't believe her. Should I give her another chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - i went out for town for the weekend and when i came back my wife said we needed do talk about our relationship. she said she loved me but was not in love with me and had no attraction to me any more. i was shocked and did not see this coming, ...

Would I do right if I tell her husband about her cheating?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - I am Divorced and live alone, I met a married women in a local pub and asked her to call for a coffee one day when I wa off work, As she was married I was suprised one day when she turned up at my door. We chatted for a while and nothing happened ...

Am I wrong for feeling upset about him looking at porn?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I don't know if it's just me or not but i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months and i found out that he was looking at porn on the interent when we first starting dating and a few times after that, I know its normal but it gets me quite ...

Am I wrong for wanting my own space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Right OK. Basically I want to know if I'm right. I feel that my girlfriend of nearly 2 years is expecting way too much from me. We only live across the street, and I'm a very private person who loves their own space. Tonight (but lots of othe...

Am I just a sex buddy for him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Hi, Please help me understand what a fuck buddy is and to clarify if my "boyfriend" is actually a fuck buddy. I met him about three months ago and he's been so busy with his work and business. I see him twice a week and sometimes once. Becau...

Is there any point in waiting for her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Okay, my ex broke up with me to get back with her ex because she said she was confused. She broke up with him recently, but now she tells me that she still cares a lot about me, but she just needs time to be by herself. Thing is, she still ...

My boyfriend would rather be with his friends than me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5549 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, we're engaged to get married, anbd we live together. We both work FT jobs. We keep fighting about his friends. He would rather hang out with them then me. He has ditched me on several occasions for his ...

He has been looking at porn since I got pregnant! How do I aproach him about this issue?

This question has 42 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - My husband and I have been married for just over a year. We dated for four years before deciding to get married. We seemed to be on the same page about all the big decisions, including having children young. I am now almost 6 months pregnant. I ...

Is it wrong to feel that "someday" I will be with him when I'm already married?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I have been married for 6 years. We have 5 boys (from different marriages). We love each other. Recently I met up with a past love and rekindled feelings, plus more. We know that I can't and don't want to divorce, but I really love this other ...

Should I confront my boyfriend about what he did to me while I was drunk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Last weekend I got drunk on my boyfriend's farm. I remember very little execpt for the part where I think he raped me. I remember being in the bathroom and him coming in behind me and making me lay on the floor. I told him I wanted to go back ...

What can I do about this person who is trying to blackmail me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5921 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Ok I'm a married bad girl. I've cheated on my husband 6 times over the last 4 years. I know I am wrong and I know I am bad. I've had intercourse with one of those people, the others I've just fooled around with and the last one that I’ve fooled a...

How can I get rid off the feelings I have for my first love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I dont suppose anyone could give me any productive advice on my situation but here I am trying anyway.... There was a boy who I went to school with who I had a crush on for the longest time I could remember. When we went to secondary school...

My boyfriend's friends don't like me! How do I talk to him about this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriends friends. When we first got together they kept saying things about me including his brother. I didn't let this get to me to much but one day it just really upset me and I cried in school. My ...

Are my lack of emotions getting out of hand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Is my lack of emotion getting out of hand? I'm younger and in the military, no I have not been to the desert, but I was in the meditteranean if that helps. But ive been married for about 5 months now, I knew my wife for about a year. Im still ...

I feel my husband and I have drifted apart even though he treats me well!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5921 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I have been with married for 1 year and together for 5 years with my husband and I don`t think I`m in love with him anymore. He is a great guy and treats me good most of the time, its just I don`t really feel it for him anymore. I just feel that ...

I'm pregnant and in despair! Is there help for our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5922 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Well ive been dating this guy about a year. And about three months ago i found out i was pregnant. Things were going good. Well he suddenly wanted to start going out with his friends and then recently his ex fling has started having contact with ...

Should I give him the time he asks for although I really want to marry and have kids??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I have been in a relationship for just over a year. We have known eachother longer for nearly a year and a half, but came together just a year or so ago. Although the relationship was long distance at first, we made time to see each other always, ...

Retroactive Jealousy: how do I overcome it?

This question has 69 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Right, so I am not even really sure how to start this. Basically, I suffer from what many other men (and few women) seem to suffer from as well. Retroactive Jealousy, or "her past"... Its horrible, its utterly disturbing and self destructive. I have ...

Triangle of love... I've become involved with my stepdaughter after her mother left, saying she could not live with me and my 12 year old daughter...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - This is the picture.I am 56 my partner 53 My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my 12year old child and my partner so much so that my partner ...

Caught up in lies and deceit.....how do I come clean??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I am bordering on desperation, I have read the articles on your site, my situation is at this stage hopeless, I am so caught up in deceit, lies and cheating I don’t know how to come clean. I’m 46 married to my hubby for 28 years he is 60 years ol...

My bfs family think I was cruel to my ex....was I wrong??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - I was with this guy for two and a half years, we lived together throughout the whole relationship and hardly spent any time apart except when we went to work. He treated me quite badly at times and I began to get very resentful - he'd come home with ...

How do I conquer my fears before they conquer my relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - This is so similar to the way i feel. Im extremley jealous of my boyfriends ex, not to mention im the jealous type period. They were together on and off since 5th grade (currently 21). They accomplished soo much together. They went to their prom...

My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to be intimate anymore!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Ok story goes like this.. I been with my boyfriend for about 15 months. At first he put me on a pedestal, he called me "His earth angel" sex was fun, loving was fun, and the care and respect i got from him was beautiful. However th...

What should I do if my family finds out that I still love the guy who broke my heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - ive been dating this guy and he cheated on me, and my family knows and they hate him...but i still love him with all my heart no matter what anybody says. im not desparate or pathetic i just know who i really love. but my question is if my family ...

Should I consider his odd behavior as cheating?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Is this considered cheating? Or am i overreacting? This guy I like/liked and have a past with still talks to me a lot even though he used me and lied to me while seeing other girls. Now he has a new girlfriend but she moved to another province...

I'm undesided on what kind of relationship I want with this guy...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5877 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - OK, so I don't know where I stand on this guy. He told me he liked me, we cuddled and got touchy at one point, but then this past weekend I pretty much gave him the idea that I wasn't really interested. Now I'm not so sure. He's like one of my guy ...

My best friend knows I love him but I'm confused about his feelings for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Well, I've been real confused lately, and i'm not sure what to do. . .usually I'm the one who gives the advice, but right now I'm at a loss. . . First off, I'm bi, I didn't know until just a few years ago, and I've only just recently accepte...

My ex want to have dinner with me but he already has a girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Ex once asked if I want to have dinner with him and his new girlfriend. I refused. yestoday I received his sms asking if i would like to have dinner with him for my birthday couple of days after and just him and I. I refuse him saying not want to ...

He suddenly cut me off from his life! I thought we had something special and I'm deeply hurt!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5923 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - How do you deal when a friend w/benefits breaks-up with u via email and gives no reason. I'm in a world of hurt? Is it normal for me to feel depressed, suicidal, and devastated being dumped over email with no explanation? I dont date a lot. I...

Why do I want to stay with this guy even though he cheats?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - so ok i know this is bad i mean real bad but ive dated this guy for a long time....but after our anniversary i found out he was cheating on me, and i know theres the phrase once a cheater always a cheater but i still love him alot and me and him and ...

Should my girlfriend accept all my flaws or should I change for her to prove my love?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5187 days ago

9 September 2008 (M) - Hey there aunts and uncles of Dear Cupid. I have a sort of problem from an argument i had yesterday with my girlfriend. She said that if i really loved her i should/would want to change some aspects of my behaviour to make her happy, but i argued ...

Why would my friend ignore me completely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5924 days ago

9 September 2008 (F) - Well, this isn't exactly someone I love. Actually, I'm not sure how I feel about him... Let me cut to the chase. I have this friend... Let's call him "Bob". Well, Bob and I went through a rough period a few months before school ended, but thing...