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writes:I have been with married for 1 year and together for 5 years with my husband and I don`t think I`m in love with him anymore. He is a great guy and treats me good most of the time, its just I don`t really feel it for him anymore. I just feel that we`ve totally drifted apart and I know I don`t feel the same way about him as he does about me. He adores me (he told me) and I`m pretty sure I don`t feel that way about him. I don`t know if I ever did, I just liked the way he made me feel. I know I`ve already hurt his feelings because we have been trying to talk about this but how can we make it work if I don`t feel the same way about him that he does about me??!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Life is not that simple...you cant just say oh i dont love someone and end it. You must look at your situation it could be stress, depression etc that can effect the way you feel. I was in a simular situation when i thought i didnt love my boyfriend anymore and if i had listen to someone who said just leave him i would have and lost the greatest man ever. Im not saying stay with him...but just look at the bigger picture. The longer were with someone we do drift apart we get stuck in a routein and thats what you have to break....and you gotta remind yourself the reasons you fell inlove with him in the first place. After you have talked to your partner about how you feel and try and change things to get things back on track if things feel the same then yes leaving him would proberly be the best idea.
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reader, Nat8124 +, writes (10 September 2008):
Oh my goodness it's like we are the same person! I'm exactly the same,, together for 5 and married for 1 and I feel like its the biggest mistake I ever made. I want out and I know that I'm going to have to break his heart to do it. You CAN'T stay if you don't love him. I honestly don't care about all these people that reply on here about being selfish and not trying hard enough - how could it possibly do either of you any good if you stay with someone that you don't love. It would be unfair on both of you. I told my husband at the weekend that I was leaving and he asked me to stay for another couple of months to try to sort things out and I agreed but I regret my decision already. I want to be by myself again and remember who I was before all this happened. I know that I can't continue to mislead my husband because apart from anything else its making me resent myself and I don't want that. Be strong and it will be worth it in the end. XXX
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