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writes:Well ive been dating this guy about a year. And about three months ago i found out i was pregnant. Things were going good. Well he suddenly wanted to start going out with his friends and then recently his ex fling has started having contact with him. And then more recently is that he doesnt want to touch me or be intimate with me. Weve always not had much sex but i didnt really understand. Well one morning i was sleeping and he got up and pretended to be in the shower instead was in the other room jacking off. I was so upset and hurt i could not control my anger or emotions. Im so insecure and i feel so imbarrassed and ashamed. Well we argued and he blurted out that he cares for me but does not love me. He also said he likes to jack off. So i finally told him then i was leaving and i wasnt coming back. He asked me not to leave and to work things out with him and that he doesnt want to be with out me. I love him but this is really taking a toll on me. i feel so empty inside. i have even had thoughts of suicide. Is there help for this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Dear Poster
I feel so sorry for you dealing with all this emotional issues whilst being pregnant. Pregnancy does have an effect on our hormones and that often effects our emotions; I suggest that you take it very easy and don't make any quick decisions. Think about it all very carefully;
take in consideration as I the influence of the pregnancy on your hormones.
If the guy is loving and caring and supporting you with the pregnancy do not just dump him now; so what is he does masturbate occasionally? Most men do!
As for him going out with his friends, well talk to him in a nice and calm manner; he is probably trying to get over the pregnancy "shock or reality"; but I suggest you explain to him how much you need him to be there for you and the unborn baby;
I don't think it will be good for you to sit all alone and get depressed and feel lonely; getting bigger and more uncomfortable with your growing belly and cannot go out on your own, NO, have a good chat to this guy.
If he is not going to be there to support you with the pregnancy you need to get support from family or friends, but do not make any decisions on impulse.
Talking about suicide or even allowing thoughts like that is not doing your health or pregnancy any good. I suggest you consult with your doctor to prescribe you some medication to assist with the feelings of depression; a lot of this can be caused due to hormonal changes, but your doctor will know how to treat it.
Please contact your doctor and have a good talk with your boyfriend.
Take good care of your health and that of your unborn baby.
Keep us posted.
Best wishes, lots of hugs and SMILES.
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