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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was with this guy for two and a half years, we lived together throughout the whole relationship and hardly spent any time apart except when we went to work. He treated me quite badly at times and I began to get very resentful - he'd come home with marks on his shirt and with it unbuttoned all the way and he'd hide his phone or keep it in his pocket when he went to sleep. We'd go to the beach and he'd say "don't you wish you looked like that girl". I got sick of it and I went to see an old friend of mine who took us both in. I told my boyfriend that I thought it be best if he didn't come along and gave me some space for a while but he got on the train with me and came anyway. I wanted to break it off but he never listened and followed me everywhere no matter what I said. So, I saw my friend and the first night I was there we got drunk and infront of my boyfriend at the time we were rolling into each other and giggling about old times. We started going out and spending all our time together and my friend had a pick up truck with only two seats so we'd go out without my boyfriend and have fun together going out to old haunts. After two weeks of my boyfriend hanging around like a bad smell I'd already kissed my friend and told him I'd always really liked him and that I didn't want to be with my boyfriend because of how insecure he made me feel. He almost got me locked up thats how much he messed with my head. So I fell asleep one night with my friend in his bed upstairs from mine and my boyfriends room and he found us in the morning - it was an accident I just fell asleep on the bottom of the bed while chatting and drinking - easily done. But I sent him home and began the wonderful relationship I have now where I feel special. The thing is my boyfriend at the time was good at coming across as mr innocent and my now boyfriends family who live in the same house felt sorry for my ex and said he was very sweet and that what I did was cruel despite me telling them what he did. I'm not a slut I was very committed but I'd had enough and suddenly the friend I'd liked for years liked me too and made me feel special. I feel bad even though I think I shouldn't cause I was so good to my ex until the end but I did try and break it off cause I didn't want to hurt him the way he hurt me. So now my ex doesn't talk to me he did at first cause I didn't mention for four months that I was with my friend so not to add insult to injury. I feel annoyed that he blocks me out when he made me turn on him and made it seem worse by not leaving til I had to literally throw him out. Help!! Was I wrong to do what I did?
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reader, claireleatherdale +, writes (9 September 2008):
 no it's very clear that he only cares 4 himself making sure he's the good guy in all this but when most people hear what u did at the end they wont listen 2 ur side because he's like the little kid who didn't get all the sweets he'll make out that things were far more worse than they really were and that they were all ur fault ur better off without that childish man and stay with the man who makes u happy ignore his family they'll realise what this guy is like soon enough and then every thing will be perfect
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