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female
age
30-35,
*ovesJamie
writes:I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriends friends. When we first got together they kept saying things about me including his brother. I didn't let this get to me to much but one day it just really upset me and I cried in school. My boyfriend never said anything to the about this and still spoke to them, I think that he should have been more supportive towards me as it was really hard. Today somebody told me that they were all saying the same thing about me just not in front of me and my boyfriend. I told him and he asked me if he should say anything, I said no because he should already know that he should say something to them to let them know its upsetting me. Any advice on why they are saying things about me and how to talk to my boyfriend about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, shiraz +, writes (9 September 2008):
hiyahh, it must be really hard! your bf probably feels torn, he loves you and is upset you mates take the mick but at the same time he still wants to be one of the lads and not feel like he has to stand up for you- the fact that he is remaing quiet throughout this and not talking to you about it shows this. you need to talk to him its unfair to ask him to choose but word it differently such as where his loyaltys lie etc tell him it upsets you when his mates are there slagging you off to his face and he remains silent! Turn it around and see how hed feel a girls mates have a huge impact on the guy you date, some come as a package and the guys have to deal with that and balance it out. its really hard but if he respects you enough when you approach this subject wiith him he may be more understanding and rethink his actions mates etc best of luck xx
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