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writes:Well, I've been real confused lately, and i'm not sure what to do. . .usually I'm the one who gives the advice, but right now I'm at a loss. . .First off, I'm bi, I didn't know until just a few years ago, and I've only just recently accepted it. . .I'm also a guy. . .Anywho, there's this other guy, my best friend to be exact. As you've probably guessed I love him. . .Now I have a story to tell, If you don't wanna sit around and read it then don't, but I would really appreciate another persons input. . .so here it goes.There was this other guy, another friend, who was gay and had the hots for me. I had kinda suspected it for a while and eventually I got him to come out, I'm the kind of person who doesn't want to hurt anyone, and will do anything to make a person happy. . .so naturally I said I loved him too. . .big mistake. We kinda got involved with each other, though in secret cause I am still not ready to come out. . .and a while along I realized what a mistake I had made seeing as I still had feelings for my best friend. I told him I couldn't continue with our relationship as long as I had these feelings, I pretty much ripped his heart out . . .and i still feel really bad. But then he goes and tells my best friend that I love him (to help me, not to be mean). And my friends reaction was mixed. . .it wasn't negative, but. . .i dunno. he was and still is involved with a girl. . .he told my other friend that "he's my best friend, I've never thought of him that way before, but I guess I could go for him if he asked. But there's nothing I can do now seeing as I'm invlolved with someone else." I talked to him a while later and asked him what if he weren't involved with someone else. He said "I dunno, maybe we could try something."And now schools started and things are pretty much going on like they always have. We're still best friends, and I still love him, the only difference now is that he knows it. But I still havn't gotten a clear answer as to how he feels about me. . .if only he weren't with this girl. . .but he's happy, and I just don't know what to do. . .
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (10 September 2008):
 he's keeping every option open-if he felt real love he would have gone for it but it seems like only his morals are halting his desire to have his cake and eat it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): The thing is he is in a relationship so it doesn't really matter how he feels. Even if he was clearer on his feelings the situation would be the same - you wouldn't be together as he is in a relationship with someone else.
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