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writes:I am Divorced and live alone, I met a married women in a local pub and asked her to call for a coffee one day when I wa off work, As she was married I was suprised one day when she turned up at my door. We chatted for a while and nothing happened at our first meet, However the secong time she came we started kissing, The 3rd we end up in bed together and had a sexual relationship for several weeks untill we had a row and the relationship cooled a bit, We found though we could not avoid contacting each other and we fell in love, We texted each other many times a day and have met for lunch once or twice, She says she loves me but also loves her husband, and wont leave him. I am frustrated and am considering writing to her husband anonymusly telling him she has been having an affair, Only because my ex wife cheated on me and some one told me, I believe the truth should be said, he has a right to know his wife has cheated on him. I was told. Does nayone have an opinion on what I should do. I am not in any other relationship at present.
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reader, Seeker  +, writes (9 September 2008):
Your lover's infidelity is between her and her husband. It's not your place to tell him about it, especially since you are just as guilty as she is. It takes two to have an affair. If you're hoping he will leave her so that you two can be together, understand that if the two of them have a fight about it she may feel so guilty she never comes back to you. If you really love her as much as you say you do, leave her alone and let her work things out with her husband, for better or for worse, and proceed from there. If she stays married to him, it's time for you to find someone who doesn't have to break her marriage vows to be with you. If their marriage falls apart of its own accord, you are morally free to proceed. Please think before you do anything rash.
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