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*MGStephy
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, we're engaged to get married, anbd we live together. We both work FT jobs. We keep fighting about his friends. He would rather hang out with them then me. He has ditched me on several occasions for his friends and he even left me at the bowling alley once. I have asked him if he was gay, and it just made it worse. What do I do? How do I get him to spend more than a couple of hours with me and not his friends?
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reader, somebodyIknow +, writes (19 September 2009):
I have been with my husband for 13 years and he still prefers his friends over me. You know he and I just aren't friends. I think he see's me as a mother figure, never a friend. I'm just the person who forces him to "try" to grow up. But, he says all the good things that have happened have been because of me. Maybe I would feel good about this comment if I was his mother.
Get your own life now. The more you focus on him the more lost you get. and if you don't like it get out now. I promise it will NEVER change.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 September 2008):
Give him the ring back and tell him that you see that you are not a high priority in his life. Tell him you want to marry a man who puts you first and that is not him.
Then walk away. He may come after you and fight to get you back and change... or he may go out with his mates and not bother.
Either way you will find out what he really wants.
It's tough but if this is a guy you were planning to spend your life with it's better that you find out now if he's going to expect you to stay in the kitchen for ever while he goes off and parties.
Teach him some respect.
Good Luck!! xx
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