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writes:How do you deal when a friend w/benefits breaks-up with u via email and gives no reason. I'm in a world of hurt?Is it normal for me to feel depressed, suicidal, and devastated being dumped over email with no explanation?I dont date a lot. I'm very picky. My friend with benefits, whom I fell in love with, "dated" for 3 months and was always the one initiating calls all the time. He recently sent me an email which said: "we cant talk anymore..dont ask" and then he blocked me from myspace. Now i cant email him or view his profile since it's private.Obviously he KNOWS how it's going to affect me and it's like he could care less. How can someone go from an intimate friendship, calling you almost every day, having sex, and being so close... to completely ignoring you, cutting the cord, and discarding you like youre a piece of trash overnight? I sent him an email (from my other myspace) and he doesnt even bother to open it up to read it. He just deletes it and completely ignores me. Is this a normal way to end a friendship with any person and give no reason?I left him a voicemail today, but since he doesnt even read my email I have no clue if he listened to my voicemail or just deleted it.All my friends say: "what an a**hole", "you deserve better", "hes not worth it", "move on" , "let it go", "its his problem not yours", "hes a bastard", "just find someone new", "dont contact him anymore", "hes immature", "thats mean, cold, cowardly awkward way to break up a friendship over email with no reason", "he wasnt a good friend to treat you like that."But the fact remains he WAS a great person when I knew him. Thats why I'm so confused as to what could trigger someone to suddenly stop ALL communication with someone overnight like that? If he found a new love interest why didnt he just tell me and say: "hey, its been great, youre a nice guy, but i found someone new so we have to cool things off for now"If hes not opening my email i guess that means hes sending the message that he never wants to see me again for the rest of his life. Forever? And I will never know why.I just cant believe someone could treat another human being that way when I treated them like GOLD for so long and we shared so many good times together.There's absolutely NOTHING i can do anymore if he refuses to communicate with me. It hurts so much...Since he broke up with me via email i guess that means i mean absolutely nothing to him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 September 2008):
Well if you were only friend with benefits then he owes you nothing.
You weren't in a relationship with him yet you let yourself fall in love with this guy.
All you can do is learn from this and move on and if someone tells you that they only want to be friends with benefits then take them at their word and don't get involved if you want more.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (9 September 2008):
 I dissagree with confronting him. He didn't tell you upfront because he's a coward. He took the easy way out with less confrontation. As hard as it is, you have to let it go and let him go.
You're friends are right..why do you want to know this loser anyway? Anyone that treats another person like this does not deserve any of your time and thought.
Getting dumped is painful because you question yourself and start having a pity party. But you cannot let this guy bring you down. Move on with your life, and in time your heart will heal. Just think of it as he's doing you a favor by letting you go. That way, you will be available to someone who will treat you right and give you the love you deserve.
This is the reason why i don't believe in FWB relationships. Someone always gets hurt.
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reader, BaileeKS +, writes (9 September 2008):
OK, so to clear this up... this is a gay relationship correct? And are you sure you were on the same page, I mean maybe you thought things were going somewhere and you more than just FWB, where he thought that was all you were. Just like any relationship, communication is extremely important even in an FWB relationship. You should probably give it time, and if things are still bothering you after awhile go to house, confront him. Don't give him a way to avoid you. Hope everything goes well hun. XOXO
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