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writes:This is the picture.I am 56 my partner 53My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my 12year old child and my partner so much so that my partner has left the home stating she still loves me but cannot live with me, but is prepared to date me.My partners daughter(step daughter)38 has always visited the home and frequently entered into arguments regarding these problems and supporting me and my young child against the bad attitude of my partner, much to the annoyance of my partner,causing further bitterness between them. My partners daughters relationship with her mother has never been good with throw backs of past problems which have never been resolved.Over the past 4 years I have supported her daughter needs and endeavored to counsel and bring about love and friendship between them, and to put the past behind them, but the problems persist and seem to run too deep for them to overcome to complete reconcile. Since my partner has left the home I have been very sad and depressed and lonely with a job and child to attend to and on numerous occasions I have shared these sick feelings with the step daughter who is very sympathetic and supportive. I have asked her Why has her mother became so oppressive towards me and my child, asking her advice. In short, I am heartbroken of the whole event,and her daughter (step daughter)has come to my aid.Unfortunately the step daughter has given such comfort to me that I have now slept with her and become very intermate and she has declared that she has always loved me and my child since I met her mother.I fear now for her, of the outcome within her family, I know that the relationship with her mother would certainly be a complete severance and split,if this was ever known.However I still love the mother despite our differences of opinions towards my young child.What should I do ?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 September 2008):
I think if you really loved your partner you would have found it a lot harder to sleep with someone else.
There is a big difference between a kiss in a moment of emotional pain, and then foreplay and full sex. You could have stopped but you didn't.
I also think that if your partners daughter wanted you then taking your side in arguments would be a great thing to do to split you up.
Talk to your own daughter - she is 12 now and old enough to be responsible for her own actions. Let her see how miserable you are being a single parent because she was horrible to your partner. She can help a lot more around the house if you are having to work full time.
I can't advise you on your partner and her daughter. There is no way to keep this secret, as the daughter will tell on you if you reject her.
I'm sorry to say but in my opinion you have pretty much blown it.
Good Luck!! xx
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