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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I feel as if he's now using our son as an excuse...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I really need some advice please someone! I caught my husband texting an old flame a couple of weeks ago and questioned him about it a couple of days ago he said he was really sorry, usual stuff but I feel so betrayed and worthless to him now, the...

Do you think I should tell my parents about my BF before I leave or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'll spare you all of the intracate details if you'll avoid wasting your time and asking me or telling me whether or not what I'm doing is smart, safe, thought out, etc.... In January '10 I'm flying out to my boyfriend's town to stay there for 3...

I'm truly in love with my cousin!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - well there's so much to say i dont really know where to start. from the very beginning will make most sense. i've known my cousin Adrian ever since i was born. he's a year oler than me and we've always been very close. we told eachother everything, ...

Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...

Any thoughts re my life or how I can get more from it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hey. Erm, I just wanted to say a few things really and get some advice? I'm sixteen and I live with my mother, who had me at a very young age, her husband and my much younger half-sisters. I left school a while ago because of bullying and just ...

Should I cut my losses?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have only been married a little over a year. I moved to be with him away from my friends and the area that I had lived for 13 years. So now I live in a place that I have no friends. He takes care of his mother who is mean and ...

Our kids sleep with us... how can I tell my wife I think it should now stop?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I have been married to my wife for 6 years and we have a great relationship, We have 2 kids a 4 year old daughter and an 8 month old son, my wife still exclusively breastfeeds our son and our daugther still nurses before bed and during the night. ...

Help! How can I make things better?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My fiance and I are extremely happy together and his family is really happy for us, and I get along great with them all except for his father. I am a full time college student and my fiance and I live an hour and a half apart. I see him only on ...

Help, my parents wont give me any freedom. What can I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My parent's wont give me any freedom. Im 16 and Im getting my license in a year which means I have to rely on my parents to drive me places the problem is they wont let me go anywhere without them. I can't go to the mall alone. I can't go to the ...

Opinions gratefully received. Should we stay together for the sake of the kids?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I met my fiance a few years ago after a divorce. I was working at a tattoo studio and was "making up" for all the fun I missed out on in High School and College (I had "saved" myself for marriage). When we met, it was her intention to hav...

Is there any way I can save this? Whatever I say is falling on deaf ears!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5532 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - (i posted a few days ago, but have reposted with extra details) my boyfriend of three years works very hard, and long hours. he has a son who lives with him, and money is tight. i also work but part time, i have three sons and we usually s...

How do I tell my dad about my girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with one of my best girl friends since early May, though we admitted we had feelings for eachother late last year. It's been about 6 months now, all our friends now know about us, after having kept it secret for around 5 ...

Should I go to Spain to be an Au Pair?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Hi. I hope you can help.I am 25 years old and i'm from England, and I have recently got a job as an Au Pair in Spain. I'm supposed to move next week! The problem is, my mum doesn't want me to go, as i haven't had any childcare experience, and i ...

Is he using his son to cross the line?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Well thing between be and my boyfriend are going good now but he is moving out of his apartment this friday with no where to go. He's goal is to find a new place but hasn't yet. Until then he wanted to stay at he's sisters house whom he had lived ...

Was her sick behaviour justified?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5055 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My names David, I'm a 21 year old white male. I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months. I have a serious problem with abusive. I have abusive patterns such as name calling and violence. By violence I mean I hit her once. So I felt bad, very bad ...

Not being able to help my husband in his time of need is killing me. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I am in love with this wonderful person who i just found out is a very sick man, he has a few mental issues, anger managment has helped him get over his anger but worst of all the doctors think he may have testicular cancer. I love this man very ...

We have decided to move it together. Good or Bad idea?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hey i turned 18 last month. Me and my bf have been together for 9months and hes 22 and has a secure well paid job. I live with my mum and sister but everything i have they pick at we dont get along what so ever and i spend majority of time in my ro...

I'm only 34 but I feel like my life is over

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - hey everyone i really need a sympathetic ear here. im 34 years old and feel life is over. im in a dead end job, in a debt programme for the next 4 years and am alone. everyone around me is happy engaged or married and i seem to only be with peo...

I am broken hearted, my boyfriend's children and I do not get along, should I stay with him or leave?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I have a serious problem. I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. His children say I am a horrible person and not good enough for their father. They have made it clear that I should not be in his life. They are mean, rude and ...

What is so gross about breast feeding?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Why do other girls give me looks when i say im breast feeding my baby? why does people think its gross? i mean thats way babys are ment to be feed. i think with it being flu season and babys die from the flu it would be selfish for me not to breast ...

How do I get my husband to feed the baby?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I just had a baby a month ago and my husband worKs alot and when he is home i wont him to care for the baby to bond with him and also so i can have a brake to get things done that i cant do while i am holding a baby. well the baby does not realy ...

I have cheated on my husband resulting in 3 abortions and now he wants a baby!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - its been 10 weeks since my abortion im trying for a baby but it keeps coming negative.iv had 3 abortions. Due to careless behind my hubbys back.but now my hubbys really desperate for a baby.please help....

Help me help my boyfriend. We've moved in together, but his misses his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - So I recently moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is great between us we are very much in love and the two of us have never been happier with our personal lives. The dilemma is that my boyfriend misses his parents. They really did not w...

I can't stop thinking about my mom sexually

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the ...

Are my parents doing the right thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and...

How to tell my pregnant mother that I might be pregnant too?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My mom is 4 months pregnant, and I think I might be pregnant also.. I'm 18 and live on my own but she still supports me a lot! I dont know how to tell her that I am pregnant, or that I think I might be. Help, please?...

I think he should have married me despite his mother's objections!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for 20+ years with my boyfriend. He is my best friend as well. It is positive in many ways, and that has been a strong glue for keeping us together. We laugh, talk, finish each others sentences. Time flies. We just ...

Can my male cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - i know this is not a relationship question but i need to know can my boy cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean...

I went off sex so allowed my sister to have sex with my husband, but now I don't see why they should continue this arrangement!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I gave birth about a year ago. For the first few months after, I was not up for sex at all (although I did allow him to perform oral sex on me). My husband was very patient with me, but I could tell he was stressed by this. I didn...

How can I deal with angry family members?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hi im having a bad time at the moment my brother pasted away 12 years ago and my family cant get over it my brothers daughter came to see us and she stayed with me because her mum only trusted me to take care of her and not say how he passed away ...

Sex with cousin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - i need some help am confused, i dunno if i love my cousion, we have not had sex yet but we've come close quite a few times,we've kissed and pleasured each other, this has been happening for a number of years this started when i was about 11 and she ...

Desperate to start a family! Am I rushing things?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hey im 20 years old and im desperate to start a familly i am in a serious relationship and living with my partner we get on amazingly and have been together for 2 years the only problem is i told him how i felt and all he said is hes not re...

What can I do to feel less lonely?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - I feel so lonely that I am starting to feel very down. My Mum and Dad are both from large families yet they very rarely do anything socially together. They aren't nasty people, they just aren't social people. I have 14 first cousins, yet only ...

I don't know how to make his family like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - My bf's family don't make me feel very welcome when I spend time with them. My bf can obviously see that me and his family don't really "connect" type of thing and this upsets him that I don't get along like as if I am part of their family. ...

All work and no play, with no end in sight...

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25 October 2009 (M) - Hi friends, sorry but you'll need to read a bit long. Okay, I am 22 and I have a sister who is 24 and I have my mom-dad. We are living together. The main thing is all about my father. He never earned a penny and he never bought us any single thing ...

I've hurt my cousin and now I feel badly

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - ok here it goes im 16 and mycousin is 19 we don't see each other very often but he is very protective the other day i went ouy drinking and my ex-bf(beater) texted my cousin he got really worried and told my aunt i got really mad i told him to fuck ...

Is this wrong for a Christian?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - Is my relationship with her wrong? So heres the thing. :) I'm 15. I've been told many times I'm extremely mature for my age. I've been best friends with her since we were 3. Every summer she's come and stayed with her family that lives here for ...

I can't stop thinking that our relationship is doomed!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (?) - Hi I am a 21 year old who is terribly in love with the girl of my dreams. I constanly think life will find a way of taking us apart and there is no chance in hell we can be together thoughts like these hurt me alot and I tell my Girlfriend ...

I wear the pants....But if I don't he sure as heck wont!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hi all. My name is Lea and I am a 20 year old newly wed. I am really confused about my husband at the moment, and to be honest alot lately. I am really independant outside of a relationship. I took care of two parents pretty much my whole life wh...

My husband slapped me and left for the titty bar!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5536 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - How can I finally say I am done My husband has a drinking problem and addicted to pornografy. Today he slap me and left to a adult entertaiment I know because I call him he was there...

I want to know how people feel about dating your cousin's cousin.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hello I'm a fourteen year old girl and I want to know how people feel about dating your cousins cousin. I'm currently dating my moms sisters husbands brothers son and I'm really starting to fall for him. I know there's no blood relation but is it ...

Since the divorce, my bipolar ex has made life hell for me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I am in dire need of help!!! I am a 47 year old female. I divorced my bi polar husband and we have been seperated for five years. I have not moved past the pain of the divorce. I have not accepted it and regret it. My husband was the love of my ...

I don't want his ex wife to be involved with him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I am in love with this guy who also says that he loves me and I know he does through his actions and all however, he was married about 2 years ago and has a baby from his ex wife. The thing is that she is always around; calling him, coming to his ...

Should I end my marriage or stay in it for my son ??

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

24 October 2009 (M) - 37 years old, successful doctor, married for 8 years and have only one child .. he is 6. I am in love with another woman for sometime now .... she doesn't want the role of being mistress ... she want a full relationship and to divorce my wife if I ...

I don't want my baby around his dirty family and now they hate me, am I in the wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I cant stand my boyfriends family. they are so nasty and i met them after me and my boyfriend had been dating for a while. there house has roaches and flees and he said they have had them since he was born. also they have 35 dogs in the house not ...

My sisters say I am going mad!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - HI!! I am a Pakistani muslim girl of 26 years. My problem is that i recently got devorced from my husband who was a complete jerk. We didn't have any kind of relationship and i only spend 8 days with him. I am now doing my ph.d in genetics and some...

Should I expect him to take care of me and the baby seen as I lost my job?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I just had a baby and my bf who i live with and plain on marrying is paying the bills right now. he complains becouse every thing is in my name. only becouse my family helped us get on our feet since we was living with his family for over a year. ...

Russian brides? Con artists?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Hello Here is my story about Russian Brides and would like to see if anyone can help me out I am 19 and in Feburary 2009 my father passed away at the age of 63. In 2006 he met a woman named Viktoria from Tibilsi Georgia, in Febuary 2006 on...

I hate my new stepmom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - my dad re-married in august 2008. i hate my new stepmum. she is mean to me and everything! i tell my dad but he says that i'll just have to get used to her. but she is always talking about my weight and she thinks that i just want to have sex with a ...

Ultimatium from family: Your ex or us!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5536 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I've been dating my best friend for a few days now. We dated about two weeks ago, but we broke up and he dated his ex girlfriend. Then he cheated on his ex girlfriend with me, left her, and now we're dating. My ex boyfriend comes back in town. We...