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writes:Well thing between be and my boyfriend are going good now but he is moving out of his apartment this friday with no where to go. He's goal is to find a new place but hasn't yet. Until then he wanted to stay at he's sisters house whom he had lived with last year and because of his sister daughter, he and i started having trouble in the relationship, so i told him no way. i love his sister but i am not going through that crazy roller coster ride agian because of his niece. So now he wants to go live with his ex wifes brother. This all makes me want ask if he has a brian in his head. He has a son with his ex and i have kids with my ex but some times it feels like i know where the line is and he uses his son as a reason to cross the line. What do you think?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 I think he needs a place to say and has very few options. What are you doing to help him find a place? Or are you just vetoing the ones he manages to find?
If he just needs a place to stay temporarily until he finds a new place, I don't see what the harm is. It may not suit you, but then you're not the one who has to live on the streets if he doesn't find a place.
This whole situation sounds extremely stressful and I get the feeling you are adding to the stress. Why don't you put your energy into figuring out a solution?
If you are concerned that he's cheating or going to cheat, do you think banning him from a house is really going to keep him from doing it?
Sorry, shelter is one of the most basic needs a human has in this world, along with food, air, water, clothing and sleep (Google Maslow's hierarchy of needs for more info). Let him find his shelter so he can sleep as well. "Well you should have thought of this sooner" isn't helpful at this time.
I hope things turn out for the best for him and for you as well. Take care.
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reader, SugarBear +, writes (30 October 2009):
 well help him find a place to live fast or if you want him to move in with you right now just ask him its fine if you really like/love him and want him to.
Maybe he is waiting for you to ask him or maybe he already planned to move in with you. Decide whats best for you, but if he has no other choice it will have to be with either of them...you might have to deak with it. Its probably time you two take the next step anyway.
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