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writes:So I recently moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is great between us we are very much in love and the two of us have never been happier with our personal lives. The dilemma is that my boyfriend misses his parents. They really did not want him to move out. He is an only child and he feels guilty for leaving them as they basically begged him not to leave. (He hasnt come out to them yet, they know very little about me, but they do however have some suspicions as there have been lots of hints.) He is also having a hard time adjusting with his new job. However, I think that will work itself out as he works with some great people, he just needs to come out of his shell a little with them to make friends. I'm afraid this will be hard for him to do if he's still feeling guilty and sad about his parents. What can I say/do to help this matter? The whole relationship game is new to me and this is my first long-term boyfriend. His too. We are both 21 years old and have been friends for almost three years now, we started dating back in May.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): If it was my son I would be mad. He should tell them the truth about you two. .Your living a lie to them. They have every right to be concerned. They think your roomamtes or something??? He has to tell them the truth very soon...
But you are very young to move into together.Its harder than you think, its not playing house or a game it takes real commitment and money and time together.
He needs to not be so dependant on his folks and they need to let him grow up on his own now. You can only tell him hes doing the right thing and support his own decisions and let him make some. You really cant help him to much or hold his hand. Life can be hard for both of you. The harsh reality of life will kick in. He can see or visit his folks anytime he wants and if he wants to hang out with them or spend the night or spend Holidays with them Without you remember its ok and dont put pressure on him. Let him ease into it... They need to let him be a man though and respect his life. He needs to pay all his own bills. The should not be so selfish to make him feel bad and they know it but cant let go.. At least he did make the move that should tell you alot...
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