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writes:Hi im having a bad time at the moment my brother pasted away 12 years ago and my family cant get over it my brothers daughter came to see us and she stayed with me because her mum only trusted me to take care of her and not say how he passed away because he took his own life and she is too young to take it just now so all my family r really angry at me because my brother had 2 daughters and they didnt no each other so my family told them her mum got made and i was angry they done that so anyway i woke up to the phone ringing and my big brother calling my a bitch i should have told her and he said he didnt want nothing to do with me ever he was swearing at me and everything i didnt no what to say he is 32 i think he should have been abit more grown up she was only 1 when he passed away she doesnt understand thank u for reading this and what should i do about it because my husband wants to move away from them all now because they keep coming back they dont say sorry they just turn up now i take panic attack and im in early pregnancy Reply to this Question
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (26 October 2009):
Move- and be around to support these little girls later in life. They're going to need a safe harbour and someone they can trust later... save yourself (and you immediate family) so you can be there for them later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Yes move away fast and stay out of it. You can tell the girls the truth later in life but the 2 girls derserve to know they are half sisters... Dont ruin your marriage or baby over them. Take care of yourself and your family. Your husband is so right, he cares about you so listen to him. Move away.. Your health is more important. Your brother will get over it. Yiou are entitled to your opinion.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 October 2009):
They have been a bit heartless towards you. You did the right thing by not telling her. You're not her mother, so it isn't your place at all. So explain that to your family when they just turn up.
Also, I'm going to say that I have to agree with your husband here. He's right to want to take you away, because you're in early pregnancy, and your baby will sense all the stress and anxiety you feel. You are pregnant, and you need to put yourself first here otherwise you're going to have a stressful pregnancy that in turn coul cause your baby to be stressed in your womb. You haven't done anything wrong at all. It wasn't your place to say anything. Is there any way that your husband could say something to your family if they won't listen to you? Sometimes family members listen to a harsh reality check from the son in law. Other than that, I'd say move away for your sake and your baby's sake. you and your baby must come first now.
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