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female
age
41-50,
*avender
writes:How can I finally say I am done My husband has a drinking problem and addicted to pornografy. Today he slap me and left to a adult entertaiment I know because I call him he was there
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reader, Zoe6  +, writes (25 October 2009):
There are numbers you can call for help and advice, I would first seek advice from a proffessional if your husband is violent.
First when he's not home, pack your bags and all you will need, passport, money, clothes, important documents?? etc. Make arrangements with someone as to where you are going to stay.
When confronting your husband you need to decide whether you are doing it face to face or over the phone (i would choose over the phone, probably safer if he is prone to violence), If you chose face to face make sure you chose a room with access to an exit incase you need to make a swift exit, not a bathroom with only one door, or the kitchen as it has access to weapons.
Tell someone that you are planning on breaking up with him, and when, so they know you may need help from them, if he becomes violent again.
Then just tell the man staight, you are a beautiful, independent, strong woman and you don't deserve to be treated like this. It is completely unacceptable that he uses pornography when he has you at home, it is completely unacceptable that he goes to strip clubs, and tell him that you won't stand for it any more, your gone, and leave.....
It won't be easy
It will be the hardest thing you've ever done in your life. But if he's violent to you once he'll do it again.
Once you've left, change your number, and only give it to people you trust, screen your calls. Save any evidence that you can use against him in court (if you wish to take the matter further, photographs of your injury, documents,contracts, or messages)
Change your locks if your husband has had access to the property.
I wish you luck, and remember, you don't deserve this..
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