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All work and no play, with no end in sight...

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Question - (25 October 2009) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A male India age 36-40, *mgold writes:

Hi friends, sorry but you'll need to read a bit long. Okay, I am 22 and I have a sister who is 24 and I have my mom-dad. We are living together. The main thing is all about my father. He never earned a penny and he never bought us any single thing even a pin. WHile my mom has helped us a lot and she earned for us and we face too many challenges in our lives due to my father.

In childhood, I have seen thousand times my parents fighting for money, for fod etc.

I have seen my father is treating my mother very badly. I have seen my father has zero love for us and till the time he never ask us how we feel or even if we are hungry.

The only thing is due to the society, my mother never left him and my father is just sleeping all the day and eating.

Due to this my mother has tried to give her best and we somehow able to cop-up and raised till this age.

Now I am very happy that from two years I am earning so good that I stopped my mother to go for work. I have given my mother her life back..she is now free all the day I am working instead. My father is still sleeping!

Till the age of 22 i have never enjoyed anyting, any day or even any celebration due to lack of money and all that stuff. I have only seen sad moments and away from others. Now in this age, I am working 12-13 hours day to make sure my family is running. I pay bills from rent to telephone bills. I feel tired a lot that I sometime don't eat. I need tp buy home, need to accumalate money for my sister's marriage and even for mu future. I am even studying my MBA distance.

Now at this age, I have thousands of responsibilites and if I stop thinking or working even for a moment, my family would stop. I feel so much stresses and due to past problems, when I sleep the only thing in my mind comes is all about bad days and how my father is band for us.

Even if I close my eyes for a minute, what I see is how my ftaher was bad to my mom. Even while I am writing this from my home, he is still sleeping and it's not time for me to go to my office.

I don't know how to be free from this and I don't know how to sleep well. Sometimes, even I can't sleep for a whole night becuase i lack my father's support.

Please I need some thoughts here!

Second one :(Also at this age, you know sexual drives go high but due to these responsibilites, I don't get chance to meet girls and just have fun as I need to work and study. So, I masterbute daily and sometimes i watch porn due to stress. Is that bad and will affect my marrige?)

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