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*hristian
writes:I just had a baby and my bf who i live with and plain on marrying is paying the bills right now. he complains becouse every thing is in my name. only becouse my family helped us get on our feet since we was living with his family for over a year. should i expext him to take care of us till i get a job. i got laid off from my job. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 October 2009):
Yes, he should. You're his girlfriend, and you have a child, so for him to moan when none of this is your fault, and when he's made a commitment, really is rather childish. Remind him of his duty towards your child.
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reader, Christian +, writes (24 October 2009):
Christian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh ya its 24 7 im breast feeding so he has to eat every two hours. and i wont to stay home home for a while at least till he is 4 months old. when he is 3 months he is having surgry on his privite area and i wont to be home then he will need me.
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reader, Christian +, writes (24 October 2009):
Christian is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell acualy we are paying 300 dallors a month back to my grandmother. we could not get a loan becouse we have no creadit. i will be going back to work and collage after my 6 weeks is up. its only been 3.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): You both need to be responsible for your life. You've brought a child into the world and the two of you need to focus on that child, and then yorselves- being selfish is no longer an option- selflessness is now a requirement.
You need to do what you can to take care of the child and work when you can- he needs to man-up, if he can make a baby, he can make a rent payment. Play time is over.
If he wants things in his name, he needs to earn them, being handed something by your parents because they're scared for their daugters well being is not earning it.
BUT, you need to contribute too, relying on your parents is not contribution enough. Don't have another kid unitl the two of you can rear it in a healthy enviroment, and don't expect to prosper from handouts from others- good luck.
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