New here? Register in under one minute Already a member? Login

245057 questions, 1084625 answers

Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!

New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us . Articles . Sitemap

To browse questions by day in November, 2009, use the links below (in brackets, number of questions on that day in this category)

1 (5), 2 (11), 3 (5), 4 (11), 5 (4), 6 (7), 7 (9), 8 (10), 9 (7), 10 (9),
11 (8), 12 (9), 13 (5), 14 (10), 15 (2), 16 (7), 17 (15), 18 (10), 19 (8), 20 (1),
21 (4), 22 (8), 23 (10), 24 (11), 25 (4), 26 (4), 27 (3), 28 (3), 29 (5), 30 (9),

Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

I married in haste, and now he has changed for the worse

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5267 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I feel kind of weird writing this but I have no one else to talk to and I seriously don't know what else to do. I am 20 years old and just got married Oct. 9th at a courthouse to the guy I was in AIT training all summer with (for the army.) H...

Should I tell my mum and dad I'm gay?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5486 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I'm gay what's the problem with it? I want to tell my mum and dad but I know they will freak out, my parents are really homophobic, that's why the only people I let know I'm gay are the guys I date, none of my friends know because I know it will ...

I can't resist my cousin, is she leading me on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - Hello everyone,sorry, its a big question. So, i am 20.everyone say um handsome and all that. But i am single all the way,something happens when i am around girls i am interested in and i feel nervous.cant talk,cant flirt etc.ok, so In short my ...

How do I get "free" again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - hello, I have a problem, I used to be an exellent student I didn't repeat any class and everybody was respecting me and I was always the hard working girl, but in the beginning of my adolescence something changed inside of me, my parents and my ...

My boyfriend and brother don't get along... how can I change this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and my brother don't get on, I'm not sure why but apparently there were some messages sent between the two of them but neither of them are willing to say what they were about. My brother and I always fight after my boyfriend visits and ...

His family's jealousy is tearing us apart...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5500 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - I'm 18 and very much in love with my 49 year boyfriend of a year. We've had a lot of ups and downs through having so much grief from everyone. He treats me like a princess and the only issue we have with our relationship is other people. Six mo...

Should I tell my sister in law that I'm in love with her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3101 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I'm in love with my sister in law. My wife's sister. I think about her all the time. I'm just concerned about taking it too far. I am married with a boy and a girl. She is married with 3 girls. We are both in our late 30's but she is a couple of ...

Will she ever get over her divorce and show that she loves me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - I am not sure what actually should i put here...I am so sad, confused and depressed that it is all mixed up. I am in a relationship with a woman 2 years older to me. I love her a lot. She is divorced and I have never been married. She has this ...

How do I tell my parents I'm gay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - how do i tell my mum and dad im gay?...

My wife versus my mother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - My wife and mother tolerate each other but recently when I suggested that it might be nice for my mother if I made an overnight visit, my wife went off into a weekend sulk saying it was a snub. My mother is in her 80's and I have asked my wife ho...

The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...

I am foxy and gorgeous, and hot for my nerdy cousin

This question has 31 answers - newest was posted 5424 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - alright so im a pretty gorgeous 19 year old 5 foot three 105 pound outgoing hilarious fun foxy lady haha basically iv never in my life have had an issue in dateing. Guys love me i get them wrapped round my little finger haha :) my issue is i total...

His new wife and I just don't get along. What's the best way to handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - I have a new question, what I do? My ex is still in love with me, but i am not with him, it only goes as far as him staring at me at holidays ect, for instance we were married 19 years then i divorced him he was hitting me and jealous all the time. ...

He keeps me apart from his family life, and wont say "I love you"

No replies yet: Be the first to answer!

29 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year--but he has not yet said I love you nor has he ever invited me to any function or event involving his family (I have met his sisters through his mom because I work with her but have never been invited ...

How can I make him stop touching me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do about this situation! First off Im 15 and live with my mom. My mom's boyfriend recently moved in, and he's got this friend of his. This friend is 23 I think? I don't really know, but 23-25 years old. First time I met him I ...

I want to emigrate to US, but hubby wont budge

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - Hello aunts I have been hugely lucky to have had a job that allowed me 2 visit NYC, I have been in live with the place since I can remember, I think it's cause my grandad was a seaman and visited NYC hundreads of times and would come back to ...

I thought my life was full of love. I cherished every moment with him - now that is all destroyed.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - I have only married once in my mid 20's. It lasted 6 months. I never remarried until 17 years later. I have been married for 7 years, I thought I was careful with whom I married. After we married I found out I was wifie #6. I have just found out in ...

Help me... I want the life back that I just lost...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I am in hell. 2 months ago in one fell swoop i lost my partner of 2 and a half years, my job, my home (we ran and lived in a pub together), and my dog. I was left penniless, with 2 children (not his), nothing to focus on and living at my parents ...

I'm having problems with my mother, she is just too strict with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - Basically, I have issues with my mother. Don't get me wrong, I love her dearly and all but most of the times, she's just TOO unreasonable and conservative for her own good. To begin with, she won't allow me to wear make-up. I'm 16 by the way and I ...

Should my partner tell his daughter that he is her real father?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5503 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - im desperate for someone give some advice about my fella and his daughter.this is going to be long because if i give proper details then you might understand it clearer..my fella (mike) of 8 years told me when i first met him that he had a ...

Should I tell my family I am in love with my cousin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - I'm in love with my cousin.he has been living in my house for two years. I confessed to him about being bisexual so he confessed to me about being in love with me. I have always had feelings for him. when we were kids I even had a crush on him but ...

I'm married and my girlfriend let her ex sleep over. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

26 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend agreed to date me even though she knew I was married. I was honest from day one. You will have to believe me as she did that my wife and I stopped sleeping together 4 years ago. My Girlfriend has a two year old with a man that ...

I want to stop loving him so I can find someone who I can love and love me back!!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Ok where do I begin!! My ex husband and I were married 6 years together 10! I caught him with another woman which was his ex girlfriend! OH I caught them!! I divorced him and met someone new! He begged me and begged me! I realized that the man I was ...

I have a serious problem with eating... Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - hello. im 17 years old and for the past 3 months i have not been eating properly, i was a size 12 but im now a 10 i eat an apple a day and drink water, looking at food makes me want to be sick. my family have not noticed yet as im really clever a...

Awful step mum!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - This is going to be long, i really appriciate anyone who takes the time to read this and any advice I will be sososo happy with!(: Ok, I'm 15, and my mum and dad split up when I was 5. I've always been close to my dad. He see's me about one a month,...

Should I let my daughter visit her father for a week?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - Ok, my daughter's father and I have been broken up for about a year now. Since the holidays are coming up I decided to put all of our differences aside and let my daughter go back home with him.(Recently moved out of state) Now she has never been ...

My ex bf's new wife has a brother...and we are seeing each other! Is this going to be a problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - Ok where do I start? When I was 17 I had a child with my boyfriend/fiancee at the the time. As time passed we broke up. Dated for about 3 yrs. Now our son is almost 6 years old. My ex has married another woman that I know. No hard feelings. I'm ...

How can I know it I have what it takes to be a second wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - How can I know it I have what it takes to be a second wife? His first wife was his highschool sweetheart and they have two kids together. She makes his life a living hell now. They divorced because she cheated eight times. I'm just afraid I'll ...

My sister sent him naked photos, how do I get over this and him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - A year ago my bf lied about being home one evening. Something told me he was lying I went to his apartment stood in the middle of it and called him. I asked what we was doing he said cleaning his apartment. Needless to say I got back with him. I ...

In love with my cheating ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - I need help!! I split with my kids dad almost 2 years ago after his constant cheating, he ran me up loads of debt as well and at the time wouldnt help me with our 2 children. Since we split i have tried to rebuild our lives, I paid my ex's debts of...

I have a crush on my older sister!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

24 November 2009 (M) - i'm 14 and i have a crush on my sister shes 18 and i cant stop thinking about her i can think of something that has nothing to do with her and in the end i start to think about her again is this normal?...

My boyfriend's mother is a problem.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5361 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - hello i have a lil problem with my boyfriends mother. it seems that he can't cut the cord and it creates problems for us. i am close with my parents but my parents aren't clingy like his mother is. i have much love and respect for her and i am sure ...

I want my mom to move out once I get married!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I love my mother and we have been through a lot together. Now that I am getting married I want her to have her own place becuase sometimes things get a little ugly with us. Sometimes she doesn't respect my boundaries and treats me like a...

I am frightened about making a complete fool of myself. Am I ready for a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - I have been concentrating on my children for 4 years since I split up from my husband. This year I am finally learning to love myself again and do things for me. I started running and lost weight and I feel good about myself again. Only I feel so ...

It scares me that he will break my heart and go back with his ex...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - I need help asap. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 7 months. things started out going great, he even came to the point telling me that he loves me and wants to have a future with me since I am the only one with him through his hard times ...

Should I foster or adopt a child against my boyfriend's advice?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4191 days ago

24 November 2009 (?) - I have a boyfriend of six months who is against my idea of fostering a child. My idea is to adopt a child if i dont get married, and i would like to start with fostering. I realise i have been puting my plans on 'hold' waitng for marriage.I havent ...

I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...

How can I make our break-up easier for the children? They are very upset and confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - My husband of 16 years has left the family home, me and my two young children. He says he does not feel loved enough by me then says he feels suffocated by me. I am very confused and don't know what to do to get him home. We all miss him very much ...

I'm scared to go against Indian society and marry a white man!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - hi, im 25 yrs old indian female. i was in a livin relation with a white man who is 17 years older than me for about 8 months and we didnt have any fights or arguments during that period of time. this was in USA and after completion of my studies i ...

I am in love with my sister's boyfriend's son!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Dear Aunts. Please Help. A Few Months ago I Got together with my sisters partners son. Hes 16 im 20. it took a while for us to admit how we felt and 1 thing led to another. my sister then split from her partner and he and his son left. i ...

I'm Falling for a Married man, "my boyfriend"...I Need Some Advice.(affair)

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Im Falling for a Married Man,were having an affair. Ive allowed him to consider me as his girlfriend, and hes my "boyfriend" Ok, I will tell you all the informantion i think you need to know to understand what im going through, from beginning t...

I can't trust women and it's ruining my life!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I can't trust women (it's almost like a fear, I guess and yes, I am a girl). I know why, though: I was bullied when I was younger because I couldn't speak English very well, all my female "friends" have stabbed me in the back, and most of all my ...

We just met on the phone and he's talking sex, kids, and marriage!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I spent a whole night...last night...talking to a friend I know on the phone. I don't really know what happened, but we started talking about sex after I described the outfit I was wearing. We met through a mutual friend of both of ours and though ...

Is it wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Is it Wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin? I have liked him since i was very young, around 14 or so, first it was wishing i could kiss him(which ive never done) but since i turned 17 its been to actually have sex with him...(ive had m...

My Boyfriend's Brother hates me and its been violent!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend's brother hates me. They tell me he doesn't, at least at first they did. But eventually they all started to see what I've seen for a while now. I've know both guys for about 5 years now, we all went to high school together. Before...

How can we get to grips with these terrible rows we're having? I know it's just pressure...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I am having terrible rows with my partner. We have got to the stage where we row about everything. He is a really nice man with children from previous relationships and in the main is fair and decent. Try as I might I don't like the fact that he ...

Is he looking for a family or mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - Thanks for all the help. Ok so I have been dating this fellow for a year. As of three months ago he moved into my house with my son and I. I do think it's a bit fast however he lives a hour away and was here evey-night anyhow.. Most of his st...

I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...

Who do you turn to when your family isn't there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - What do i do when i cant even trust my family? well i have this issue that i have things to tell my mo but i wanna wait till the right time because if i just throw it all at her she not gone take it so i got to give it to her slow and at the right ...

I don't like or respect my mother. What is wrong with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

22 November 2009 (M) - OK I'll get straight to the point. For some reason i don't like or respect my mother. She never seems to stick up for herself and i hate the way she does things. Our home is full of junk that has come from her sister (my auntie) and she just doe...