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anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do about this situation! First off Im 15 and live with my mom. My mom's boyfriend recently moved in, and he's got this friend of his. This friend is 23 I think? I don't really know, but 23-25 years old. First time I met him I was in a flirty mood I guess, even though Im really not a social outgoing person at all! I don't know why I did it, but at the dinner table we were sitting next to each other and he was looking at me and it looked like he was flirting, so I flirted back. We were "foot-flirting" under the table, my feet bumping into his. I wasn't being serious and I'd never want to have anything to do with this man, he's far too old for me, I don't even know him. Plus he's a friend of mom's boyfriend. Anyway, I thought it was just for fun and giggles. But then when I was getting ready for bed, he came knocking on the bathroom door. I was done so I opened up to let him in while I walked out, but then he trapped me! He held me so I couldn't get out of the bathroom and I tried to think he was just joking and tried to laugh it away, but told him to let me go. But he didn't and then he grabbed my ass and squeezed it. I got out of his grip, I didnt expect him to do that! So I went to bed and I locked my bedroom door, because I was afraid he'd try anything. I never lock my bedroom door usually, I never have to! But Im so glad I did because late at night I woke up by someone trying to get into my bedroom. I hear footsteps coming from where his bedroom was and over to mine and then he tried to open the door, but since it was locked he gave up and then went back.After that I told my mom and said what he had done and that I didnt want him in the house with us anymore. But she blamed me saying I had been flirting with him so it was my own fault! I called a friend and told her about what had happened and was allowed to spend the last night the "friend" was visiting at her place. I really tried to talk to mom and tell how uncomfortable this made me, half of what I said she didn't believe. Like she didnt really believe he had tried to get into my bedroom at night! And then the other half, the flirting was just my own fault! And she'll continue to let him stay at our house. I don't know what to do because I don't want to be anywhere near this guy, he creeps me out! And it doesn't end, another time he was just visiting during the day, and I didn't know he'd be at our house, so when I came home he was there and my mom was sitting in the living room with him when I entered. He got up and then he lifted me up! I said to him to put me down, and I was not laughing because I don't want him touching me. He didn't put me down and I tried to ask mom to tell him to put me down, and I tried to get loose, but what happened was we fell over and he was laying on top of me, and I tried to get him off, but he's a lot stronger and heavier than me. And mom did nothing!I just don't know what to do, I can't stand this man, and I definitely do not want him touching me, but just because I flirted with him the first time we met, mom thinks it's okay that he does this, and clearly so does he! How can I make it stop?
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reader, Stranger.  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 OMG!!!!!!?what the hell is wrong with your mother?!girl you need to tell another family member that WILL DO something!if no does anything go to a trusted teacher!you NEED to tell someone NOW!before its too laTE!!PLEASE GET HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Dear 15 year old with creepy man after her.If your mother is not going to believe you then might you try talking to a teacher or counselor at school. what will then happen is they will send an authority to talk to this man. My dear you have been Molested and it is negligent and abusive that your mother is not protecting you, so you have to protect yourself so that there is no more harm done. when the authority's get involved trust me not only will this man stop!!! but your mother will get a real wake up call as well.Please take care of yourself and stay safe... also no more flirting with men that are too old for you it is very very very very very very dangerous.
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reader, KANDIWRPR +, writes (29 November 2009):
 OMG!!!! no u better get help!! trust me!! i had something like this happen to me..xcept it was my moms bf!! get help!! since u r young and cant really move out on ur ownplease please get help!! i dont want to hear tat a young girl like u..u noe..mite get rape!!...he was tryin to do something to u wen he was tryin to enter ur room!!omg!! this is wat happened to me tooi dont mean to ask but wheres ur dad/? cant u go to him? make sure u have a weapon (not gun or knife) but something tat can protect u until u get help..like a stick or something..idk..how come ur mom is bein like tat..ok so wat if u were flirting..u stopped!! goshplz get help ASAP..umm..try police..closest friends parents
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 If your mother wont believe or protect you please go to your nearest police station and report it now. If your country has a "kids help line" ring them as well.
I am sorry if my reply sounds terse, but better than have me get angry at this man (and even perhaps your mother), online.
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