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Archived questions from: September, 2014 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I've got my wall up and I don't want to let anyone in, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I had been with my man for 2 years before we broke up and I went travelling for a year.. Got back a month ago and we've hung out for the entire weekend every weekend since I've been back and have been hooking up.. I still have feelings for him and I ...

So I like this guy, but I have a boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3702 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - So, I like this guy. A lot. And I think he might like me back! But the thing is, that I have a boyfriend already, and we are kind of growing apart. I never see him anymore, and I think we both just want space... Should I tell him that it isn't ...

Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3705 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...

Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do sugge...

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3702 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

Should I reconsider? And try to work things out with him? Or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work thi...

The break-up is affecting my work and my life

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I have recently split up with my boyfriend, it was mutual. We still love each other dearly, but there were circumstances outside of our control. Although it's difficult, I'm confident we made the right decision for each other. My ...

My older boyfriend said horrible things so I would call him! Do I end the relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is lovely sometimes. He is so loving, caring and has a good sense of humour, but he says horrible things sometimes and takes things too far. He really took it too far over the last couple of days. He was angry with me because I haven'...

I'm afraid or ever get in a relationship with a woman again? I suck and don't deserve one.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I'm a shitty person and an asshole. I can't treat a girl right and even though I would want a good, committed relationship, I would just fail and hurt her. When I was 17 and a senior in high school, I met a just newly turned 15 year old sophomo...

My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...

Am I obligated to spell out that it's over? We haven't spoken in a month

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

26 September 2014 (?) - We just stopped talking to each other after an almost five year relationship. Literally. I suspected him of cheating after I found out he was going on a trip with a female co-worker and even if it was purely innocent, he never told me and this was a ...

Breaking up with an abusive partner..anyone else have that experience?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - I just got out of a rather long relationship, and am feeling like I'm finally looking at it for what it was rather than what I forced myself to believe it was. I felt unsafe the entire time we were together. Not physically. I mean emotionally...

What do I do with the expensive gifts my ex gave me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

24 September 2014 (M) - my question is very simple and small that I have broke up with my gf last night in a legal way ....now I don't know what shud I do with the expensive old gifts she gave me....should I through them out so that I cud fully forget her ...

Ever since boyfriend showed me naked photos of him and his ex girlfriends things have changed

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

24 September 2014 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now and things started out beautiful but that something beautiful is dying now. We met through an social network dating site and when we first decided to meet up, I was reluctant and scared, but I went ...

I'm not entirely sold on us "getting back together"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - I was in a "relationship" (with no labels) with this guy for about a year and 10 months. Last month, things ended when I got really angry and went off on him about all the grievances I'd felt throughout the relationship and especially this summer. ...

He doesn't seem interested in me or our new baby

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - I would like to hear some of your perspectives on what I'm going through: I used to live in a foreign country (as an expat) and I met another guy (also an expat from a different country). We started seeing each other and in a short time I got...

I was going to break up with him but then I fell for him again

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I have an on and off relationship with my bf for past 4 years. He always verbally abuses me, belittles me, ignores me for long period of time, make sure my esteem always stays all time low.... Coming to the current happenings, he wa...

I'm still hoping we can make it work but I'm jealous of his ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - Hi all, I was in a long distance relationship for over a year with a guy who I thought I could really see myself with in the future. However, we recently broke up due to fighting a lot mostly from trust issues and my insecurity. We agreed to tak...

Boyfriend is always breaking his promises to me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - So my boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together at the end of next month. I've had a hard preganncy and am currently on early maternity leave my doctor ordered because I am at risk of going into labor preterm. It hasn't even been a week ...

I'm really hurting after getting a break up text. I don't know how to deal with it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - I was just broken up with over a text message from this guy who I was dating for close to 3 months and we had spent 24/7 together. Over the course of these three months we had gotten really close and he said he had never had a gf that was as carin...

I think I need to leave him, but I also want him to see that he's wrong about me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Ive written here before, and I know I think I am looking for an answer that doesn't exist. I've been with a man for over 3 1/2 years. We got engaged last year and broke off the engagement about 6 weeks before the wedding. Every time I get upse...

I wanted a relationship, but he wouldn't commit! Should I have waited longer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I wasn't expecting or looking to find anyone as I had got out of a serious relationship at the start of the year, but in July I met this guy through a friend. We just instantly hit it off, and we swapped numbers etc. Since the first day I met I ha...

We broke up and he wants me to leave immediately, but I have nowhere to go

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and half years. we have just split up and now he has gone 2 work until late tonight, I have to be gone by the time he gets back. Here is my dilemma I have no friends or anyone who I can move in with and I ...

Love him so much, Is he taking notice of his friends who claim that he can find a better Gf than me? Is he really the Bf for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - My now ex-boyfriend and I were dating for 3years but he broke up with me a week ago, saying that he needs to find himself and what he wants out of life and that includes me. We had an amazing relationship but over the last couple of months we have ...

Am a making a bad choice in marrying this man? We do fight constantly. He can be controlling.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - My fiancé and I have been fighting constantly about everything but our last fight earlier today made me question if I'm making the right choice to marry him. I guess I'm looking for an outsiders view as to weather or not I should continue to purs...

The ex: should I be concerned that I have been told that I am not "good in bed" ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Dear Aunts, My worst fear has come true. I was told I was bad in bed he said I'm not freaky enough. I like romantic slow passionte sex he likes rough play. I feel like I cant do the things he wants so the connection is fading away in other dept ...

If I resume with my original BF (who cut contact for months) will he be able to tell that I had sex with a bigger guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I have a boyfriend but he went abroad in jan 2014 and he hasn't contacted me anymore. After 4 months, I called him and asked if we're still together, he said yes. So i still hope that we will still continue to communicate but he never chatted ...

I'm suspicious of my LDR and his ex-girlfriend, and we've been fighting about it. Is there any chance this relationship can be saved?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Hi all, I was in a long distance relationship for over a year with a guy who I thought I could really see myself with in the future. However, we recently broke up due to fighting a lot mostly from trust issues and my insecurity. We agreed to tak...

Should end our relationship now, or try one more time to save it? She doesn't want children.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - My partner and I have been together almost 4 years. However our sex life has been non existent for about a year now. I've tried talking to her about it but nothing ever really comes of this. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a...

I'm over my ex, but I feel emotional about his new baby with another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - Hi I will try to condense a long complex story .I split with my sons dad three and a half years ago .it was a painful and messy split .we had a very intense 5 years together where we were either deeply in love of fighting. We were over the moon when ...

I love him but not his tattoo! How can I convince him to erase it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are both 25. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I've ...

After everything I did for him, LDR guy breaks off with me through a text!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - I met this man over this past summer in June that I thought was amazing. He was here for a 3 month internship and was going to leave to go back and finish his last year of school in a town 6 hours away (45 min plane ride). I met him through my ...

He broke the engagement by accusing me of cheating

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3716 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - I am so unhappy! My boyfriend asked me to get engaged, for which i was over the moon and Said "yes" this lasted 6 weeks then he accused me of cheating. He has always accused me of this untruths for which iv always got back with him and reassured ...

Did I really love him? We are now divorcing. Why don't I feel worse? I'm not crying over this breakup.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - 6 months ago I thought I married my best friend and love of my life. We were together for 3 years, lived together for the last 2. It was practically love at first sight! We waited to have sex for the first time. Even our first kiss took time, li...

Friends together a long time. Then broke up. Are there factors that suddenly make people unable to stand someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

18 September 2014 (M) - hello there this is not really a dating question but some recent events got me thinking.. Recently two of my best mates broke up for the slightest of reason. They always had been close and inseparable. Always happy in each others company and ...

Why are they rubbing their relationship in my face?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - I have been divorced for 3 yrs. I didn't have a great marriage as my ex husband had an affair with his older child's mother. I took him back knowing what was going on and stayed in that crap for 8 yrs. One day I filed for divorced and never ...

Is it a good idea to tell my now-ex that I was in love with him when we were dating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - I'm looking for people's opinions about telling an ex that I was in love with him while we were dating. We broke up just under 2 years ago. We are not in regular contact. He told me that he was in love with me 2 months into the relationship and...

Is it alright to like get back with your ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - Is it alright to like get back with your ex? Some people say it's not a good idea but I feel like there isn't any harm in giving a second chance. However, I asked my teacher whose quite an expert about it and he said that people tend to fall bac...

I'm terrified of throwing away something which has been so great but I also don't want to cling on to something that is irreparable

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3719 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - A quick summary of my relationship with my boyfriend: We've been together for 4 years since we were 17 (and were friends long before that). We live in the same area, have many similar friends, lots of shared interests, he feels like part of my famil...

Am I right to set him free and move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3719 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - I really like someone I met recently...we've not known each other for too long...It has been around 2 months...BUT he's left the city we are currently staying in because he got a new and better job somewhere else. We always had a good time together...

How can I let the anger towards him go away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - I know (or think) I don't love him anymore, but there is still anger towards him, because he didn't treat me right, partially it was my fault because I loved him and hoped one day he would love me too. We were friends, then we dated for a short ti...

I'd like to discover more about this guy at work and have some fun. Can I consider that, and yet not hurt my Bf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend now for over 2 1/2 years. I love him and that I could possibly have a life with him. But over this past year those feelings haven't been as strong and I've thought about leaving him at times. I have now found out th...

Does he want to be in our child's life or not? His new Gf says he saves pictures of his son that I post on FB

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - I was with someone for only a month before I found out I was pregnant. At first he wanted nothing to do with me or my child, but two months into my pregnancy he decided he wanted to be there, however, this soon changed a month later when he left ...

Should I move on and find someone new? Or should I find out why she broke up with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

14 September 2014 (M) - I used to like a girl a lot. We were in a relationship. A long distance one. One day she just broke it off. Didn't tell any specific reason. From that day I have had no contact with her. Now I'm really lonely and need someone. What do I do ?...

What does he want from me? I rejected his FWB request 3 times. But I do have feelings for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3697 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - Hello everyone, before asking my question, I'll give a 'little' background. I'll try to make it short :) Last year around winter I became closer to one of my friend's friend, and I fell in love, and after awhile he kissed me, and we started dating. ...

We've broken up yet again. Should I forgive or forget?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - Advice please. My boyfriend of 3 years has just told me he want us just to be friends. We have broken up quite a few times in the yearswe have been together due to him accusing me off being unfaithful. For which i have never. Should i forgot him? or ...