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writes:Advice please. My boyfriend of 3 years has just told me he want us just to be friends. We have broken up quite a few times in the yearswe have been together due to him accusing me off being unfaithful. For which i have never. Should i forgot him? or forgive him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2014): He doesn't want to be friends. If he's the jealous type and accused you of being unfaithful. He just wants to be close enough to keep tabs on you. You don't have the strength to break the cycle of taking him back, after breaking up. He knows that. Being "friends" is just a reason to keep one foot in the door. Don't play naive. You know the score.
You can't be friends with a jealous man who accuses you of cheating. He is only waiting to see who you're involved with, to get in the way, or cause trouble. How old does a woman have to be, to learn that she can do bad all by herself? She doesn't need help from some aging abusive loser, to make her look foolish and desperate.
Time and time again. Mature ladies are often too forgiving and reluctant to give-up really bad boyfriends or husbands. They are old enough to know better; and have been through enough to know what's bad for them. The clock is ticking and you're living out your best days in hell. That just doesn't make any sense.
Does being over 40 mean we (men or women) have to settle for the bottom of the barrel? Don't let that be you.
You should set higher standards even for your friends.
Being a lady over 40 has not sentenced you to accepting just any two-legged creature with male genitals. You may not have the number of men lining up like you did at 20; but the quality should have improved significantly by now.
Dare you to stand in-front of a room full of other women and offer your excuse for taking him back. Even as a friend. They'd skin you alive. Go ahead forgive him, and forget him.
You got-up the nerve to put him out. Get up the nerve to break it off for good. You don't need friends who accuse you of being a cheat. You can do better. He's jealous; because he knows you can. Not while he's around and you're in his spot-light. Take three or four years to decide.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 September 2014):
 My adice is forget, life is too short to put up with idiots like that.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 September 2014):
 I'd "vote" forget him and move on.
Listen, he has been ACCUSING you of doing things you have never done, which means he doesn't trust you OR your word.
Why waste MORE time on this fella? If you want a partner, why not look for one who WANTS the same? This guy doesn't really want the same.
Say bye bye.
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