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Archived questions from: September, 2014 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I would like to reconnect with my ex. Is it significan that he never changed his passwords when we brokeup?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - hi...i wanna know about my ex...we had broken about 2years but i still love my ex and i wanna get him back... i don't know his mind but he never changed all of the pass the accounts password even when we were apart...he blocked my acc but he never...

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3743 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...

My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with frien...

Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I fo...

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3741 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...

Could the abuse I suffered as a child explain my same-sex attraction?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3742 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I'm 24 years old. As a child and teen, I experienced sexual abuse growing up in Saudi Arabia. My mother is full Saudi and my father is an American military man. I was born in the U.S. and am an american citizen, but moved to Saudi when I was one and ...

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...

Is there any other way to handle the situation considering how strict my parents are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hello :) This guy really likes me and he even said "I love you" to me and I'm actually really into this guy. We started off really good friends and we found that we have a lot in common. We actually tried dating and it lasted for 7 months but a...

Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends real...

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do sugge...

We've lost our mojo. He's no longer affectionate. How can we revitalise our 13 year marriage? .

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi Cupid. I have a relationship question. My husband isn't very affectionate and is embarrassed my romantic gestures even when I make them. We have been married for 13 years and I feel like we've lost our mojo so to speak. Couples counsel...

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3740 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

I'm just having a really hard time dealing with my uncle's death and the guilt is pretty overwhelming at the moment

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey everyone, this isn't a relationship question but I've been using this site for over a year now and love the advice and help people give on here and thought you guys could give me some for my current situation. Unfortunately my uncle passed ...

Should I reconsider? And try to work things out with him? Or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3743 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work thi...

Trying hard to conceive, and horribly jealous of those who can

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - I've never been a jealous person, but up until now I have turned into a seething, jealous , bitter hag. My husband and I hit the one year mark of trying to concieve this week. It is so hard. We have both undergone initial tests (all fine, except a ...

I still seem to think that my low social status equates to my worthiness of a person.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - Recently I went to my younger cousins 18th birthday party. It was really great night. What I noticed though was myself feeling slightly bad about myself and jealous due to how popular my cousin is. My cousin got the looks on the family. She's ...

Is this rare that I love a set of feet? I'm fixated about my Aunt's feet.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I love a set a feet. I have never heard of a person loving a set of feet. My question is I love my aunt's feet. Is this rare to love feet? Has anyone ever heard of a person really fixated on a particular part of the anatomy such as feet? What c...

My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money! How can I change his opinion of me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money and I don't know how to change how to change his mind. He is 22 and I'm 21. I think I'm ok at handling money. Not great but ok. I constantly have not much money because I'm living on a student loan but I ...

My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...

How can I possibly introduce my husband to a man who tried it on with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3744 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - So I am in a predicament and I don't know what to do. About six months ago, I had a row with my husband and went out to my friends party and got really drunk. My friend's husbands rather ugly best friend was at the party, he was really drunk too and ...

Am I going for the wrong men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3743 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Hi. I am 37, 2 kids, recently divorced, fairly attractive, some men say very hot. My problem is that men get attracted though the ones I like haven't stayed. One fell for me at an office meal and after he bedded me, realised I was more senior and ...

Recently saw my Mum, when she was younger, in a commercial film, where she was topless. It has grossed me out. How do I get over this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

27 September 2014 (M) - I'm grossed out after knowing my Mum did a cameo topless scene in a film? Recently, I saw my Mum topless in an old movie. It was a cameo appearance but it shocked the hell out of me and disgusted me. I don't know how to deal to with it. ...

Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...

Its only been 3 days but I'm worried I'm not going to last on my job because of inadequate training

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3745 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - I started a new job on Wednesday, this is my 3rd day and despite me knowing and telling myself it's only my 3rd day and things may get better, I can't shake this horrible feeling of not fitting in away. I trained at a previous organisation tha...

S it normal and/or okay for a woman to want to be objectified?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - I frequently fantasize about being objectified by men. I don't go out of my way for attention, meaning I never wear makeup, have never been tanning, and I don't wear provacative clothing. But sometimes I still get attention, just not nearly as much ...

Dating is difficult because I'm too picky and lose interest too quickly

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3747 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - I seem to find dating rather difficult as I tend to be rather picky and not find connections with ppl straight away and I am finding it hard to get a partner. I have only been out on like 1 date a year for the past 3 years, and out of them 2 of...

LDR since Dec 2013. Plan to see each other in 2015. So why did she get upset about talk on intimacy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

23 September 2014 (M) - Hello, My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since Dec 2013. We met online and in one month, we will finally meet in person. She will introduce me to her family and relatives, and well even be going to an island resort fo...

What to do? I can't forget him. Yet now I am not the sort of girl he would go for.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3749 days ago

23 September 2014 (F) - *Am currently in a long term serious relationship* When I started high school I was instantly attracted to this boy who was not in my circle of friends or in any of my classes. He just started saying "HI" to me every time he saw me. In high school...

Was it a bet? Or was he genuine?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

22 September 2014 (F) - Met a guy on a train, he asked to share my seat, there were plenty of others spare. We talked he asked questions about my journey,job blah blah had a laugh, he asked if I wanted to go for a drink. He lived too far away, so I said no. He got o...

I enjoy my life but want to feel important to someone else

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I'm confused about why I want things/ people in my life... I have a group of friends who are quite loud and chatty and funny. I'm fairly quiet. If I speak up in the group - nobody hears me, and nobody ever responds to me. When we use Whatsapp to ...

My Gf has refused to see me for 7 months and despite the fact she is pregnant. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

21 September 2014 (M) - Hi! I haven't seen my girlfriend in over 7 months.. she has autism, bipolar and also cancer so she is pretty sick at most of the times, we also have a baby on the way and I love her but I don't know what to do as I'm always worried about he...

Am a making a bad choice in marrying this man? We do fight constantly. He can be controlling.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - My fiancé and I have been fighting constantly about everything but our last fight earlier today made me question if I'm making the right choice to marry him. I guess I'm looking for an outsiders view as to weather or not I should continue to purs...

Need help on how to handle my Bf's mixed feelings. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - This is basically about my ex-boyfriend. Recently I had came in contact with my ex-boyfriend The reason we broke up before is because he moved back to his hometown, and I didn't think a long distance relationship would have been fair. We were ...

If I resume with my original BF (who cut contact for months) will he be able to tell that I had sex with a bigger guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I have a boyfriend but he went abroad in jan 2014 and he hasn't contacted me anymore. After 4 months, I called him and asked if we're still together, he said yes. So i still hope that we will still continue to communicate but he never chatted ...

One month LDR, and one of my best friends does not like him. Does that matter? Was it wrong for me to have words with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3752 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - Hello fellow cupid readers, sorry a bit of background is needed for this. i am in an ldr with my bf of 1 month but we have been incredibly close friends since we were two and we are both now fifteen even though i only see him like four times a year...

Should end our relationship now, or try one more time to save it? She doesn't want children.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3752 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - My partner and I have been together almost 4 years. However our sex life has been non existent for about a year now. I've tried talking to her about it but nothing ever really comes of this. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a...

I love him and we've been together 5 years. But how can I convince him to erase his recent tattoo?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are the same age. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I...

I'm over my ex, but I feel emotional about his new baby with another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3752 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - Hi I will try to condense a long complex story .I split with my sons dad three and a half years ago .it was a painful and messy split .we had a very intense 5 years together where we were either deeply in love of fighting. We were over the moon when ...

I love him but not his tattoo! How can I convince him to erase it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3746 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are both 25. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I've ...

Which one of these places is more likely to be my g spot?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3753 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - I've been trying to find my g spot for years. I'm aware that the g spot is not a magical button and it takes practice but I'm willing to be patient! When I lie on my back and enter in my fingers i have found TWO areas which feel a bit different from ...

She has caused trouble for us and my friend and I cannot stand her. How can we drop her from our lives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3749 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - My friends and I have this issue that we really can't talk to an adult in our lives about without getting into trouble and we don't know how to solve the problem either. There's this girl who hangs around us who we really just don't like and w...

Will it help bring us closer and stop us fighting if I become more accepting about his pot use? I don't want to lose him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3754 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. He smokes pot everyday, all day. I hate it, but I'll do it every once in a while. I was sober from it for 2 years, up until June, then I smoked with him, towards mid/end of July, I smok...

Friends together a long time. Then broke up. Are there factors that suddenly make people unable to stand someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3754 days ago

18 September 2014 (M) - hello there this is not really a dating question but some recent events got me thinking.. Recently two of my best mates broke up for the slightest of reason. They always had been close and inseparable. Always happy in each others company and ...

He doesn't want kids, but I don't yet know whether I do or not

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3753 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is a dad of a two year old who he had with another girl. We have been dating a little less than two years now. He has always seemed ambivalent about having another kid at some point in his life and that was ok with me because I'm not ...

Why would an apparently happily married person claim that they are in a "complicated" relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3755 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - When somebody puts on facebook that they are in a complicated relationship, but they still live together, go to family gatherings together. What does it really mean? Obviously they are still going out as couple but is it that they are having p...

Could the fact that the clique ignores me reflect badly on me at work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3756 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - what if you have not much in common with a popular work colleague? you are queiter but you have tried,are nice, say hi, ask how they are etc, I am not rudr, they are cliquey. they dont seem to want to talk to you, not bullying you.. and you ca...

Yet another Christmas all alone. What do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3756 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - It looks like I am spending Christmas on my own this year as I am single, childless still since my divorce - so its just me and my dog! In the past I had Christmas's ruined by my ex husband and his family so now I am divorced I don't have that drama ...

How can I get over my fear of erections/seeing women naked?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3757 days ago

15 September 2014 (M) - I go to a very liberal college. At this college, the pool for the dorms is actually clothing optional. I went down to the pool last night and a few friends were celebrating a birthday. For a while, it was pretty fun... At a certain point, everybody ...

Am I wrong? Pot calling kettle black?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3757 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - Quick question. Am I in the wrong and he is right? I made a off hand comment to my boyfriend that men don't share their feelings (I was talking about a friend who is a guy, he seemed in a pissie mood so I asked him what was wrong to which he said...

Does he want to be in our child's life or not? His new Gf says he saves pictures of his son that I post on FB

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3756 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - I was with someone for only a month before I found out I was pregnant. At first he wanted nothing to do with me or my child, but two months into my pregnancy he decided he wanted to be there, however, this soon changed a month later when he left ...