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My name is Nicole, I am 17 years old, I'm single and live in the UK.
Nothing really qualifies me to help people. I haven't had much serious problems in my life or life experience so I can't say that I can relate or understand to what many people on this site may be going through however, I do want to help people with their problems and give advice to which people can use or not. |
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This question has 11 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 December 2008: Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
Be yourself, don't change for anyone
This question has 10 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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9 November 2008: Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :D I believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and diffe...
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Is it wrong for me to date other races?
Q. Hey peeps, Is it wrong for me to date other races?? I'm black and my friends always talkin about sticking to our own culture but I find white and chinese boys SERIOUSLY attractive :s. I also want to know if dating other cultures last long ...
A. 25 January 2011: There's nothing wrong with dating someone who has a different cultural background, your friend has his/her own preferences and you have yours, there different but that doesn't make either of them wrong.
To answer your other question, it's not abou... (read in full...)
I need advice, I want to have a baby, I am 14, please help??
Q. hey im 14 and i really want a baby i have wanted one sence i was 11 and i dont know what to do my family and friends say i am a natual when it comes to looking after children and careing for them i really don tknow what to do please help x...
A. 20 October 2010: There's a lot to take into account when bringing a baby into the world. You need to consider the baby's needs, if you had a baby at 14/15 where would you get the income to provide for it? It's not just about what to do when taking care of a baby or ... (read in full...)
I am so angry he cheated on somebody with me!
Q. So i invited this guy from my college round for a party, by the end of the night it was just me and him, we spoke for ages and felt closer to him, which later led on to the most amazing sex i've ever had. a couple of nights after i went to talk to ...
A. 18 October 2010: Sucks what happened, if it were me I'd be sharpening the pitchforks right about now.
Ok maybe not that extreme ...
So, in life we live and we learn, in this case you've learnt that not everyone is what they seem to be, you said you were so... (read in full...)
I can't stand being single anymore!!!
Q. Hello I am 17 years old and still in high school. I can't stand being single anymore. I really can't. I have never kissed a girl before never been loved by a girl before I can't take it. I see all these other people getting all this love but for ...
A. 17 October 2010: I'm in the same position, 17 in college, never been kissed or never been in a relationship.
I'm going to say, don't rush into it - I assume a relationship can be the most amazing thing in the world however, you don't want to be in a relation... (read in full...)
Does this make me a terrible person?
Q. Im a really spiteful person. Today my boyfriend text me, asking me to get ready and meet him in town. I got ready, drove halfway to town when my phone started ringing. I pulled into a street, stopped and answered it. It was my boyfriend tellin...
A. 16 October 2010: As the others have said it is natural to be a little annoyed when someone has decided to change plans at the last minute. t doesn't make you a spiteful person, it makes you human. Emotions are tricky and very confusing at times.
Try and see it f... (read in full...)
How can I stop supporting my sister's family?
Q. hey guys this wil be long but i need help.i hate my big sis and when she comes to visit its like i want to die.shes 33 and has 3 kids.2 are staying with me and mom.i buy food and suport the family while shes staying at my grams waiting for welfare.i ...
A. 16 October 2010: Your sister is old enough to look after her own family and get a job to support them.
Your mother, I really don't know what to say, I don't know whether she's trying to defend her daughter or what.
They're obviously not listening to you... (read in full...)
Why is my husband always putting me down?
Q. my husband always put me down for everything. even in front of his brothers. he always attacks me on my weakness. i have try so hard to please me. but i see that it is not working. i really love my husband so much, but what i can understand is that ...
A. 16 October 2010: You do need to talk to your husband about this, it's not right that he always puts you down and focuses on your weaknesses.
If you talk to him and get nothing out of him, maybe you should take a break - see how you feel. It will be difficul... (read in full...)
My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers.
Q. My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers. Her mother physically and verbally abuses her on a constant basis, She gets slapped around the face and dragged down the stairs. I have followed every legal course of action to ...
A. 16 October 2010: You need to call some sort of social services, this is just sick, 7 years old?!
You definatly need to do something before your son becomes a target of abuse as well.
Do you think your daughter could testify against her mother? As the others have ... (read in full...)
Be a Single mother searching or a in a false marriage?
Q. I am 19 and my fiancee is 25 we ave a 6 month old son, Our relationship began when we mt at work and at the time i was still honing over my first love whom i had been tryin to get back with for 2 years, so when he told me he loved me i think i was ...
A. 16 October 2010: Hey,
He's saying he doesn't mind if you don't love him, he's willing to make the relationship work but, it's not fair on either of you to do that. You both deserve someone who loves you, and in this relationship neither of you are going to find ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my inability to let go of my fairy-tale fantasy?
Q. Hi, so I am an almost-sixteen-year-old girl and I have known for some months now that I like girls. I have never had an issue with gay people or anything like that and I am comfortable with the realization that I myself am gay but at the same time ...
A. 14 October 2010: Knowing what to do depends on what happens at the end. Whether she has the same feelings for you etc. If it does come to the point that you may have to give up your fairy-tale fantasy then that may be what you have to do, but you don't have to gi... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 14 October 2010: First of all, no you should not change youself to please a guy. You have to understand that porn stars are made up to do that kind of work. For example they have had surgery, they have to work out constantly, they get everything done professiona... (read in full...)
How do you stand up for yourself?
Q. I don't know how but people think im too flirty. I barly have any guy friends and the ones I do have I don't love them like that. And one person called me a bitch about it. I don't know how but people think I am and I never liked a guy before or ...
A. 14 October 2010: It's hurtful when people say things like that, but you have to just let it go - it may sound wierd but if you show them that it's getting to you then they'll probably feel more satisfied by it and keep doing it. Just try not to care what other ... (read in full...)
Why do we stereotype men and women?
Q. Im sure all of us have had this happen to us. Ok, let me start off with an example: Scenario: You just got pulled over for speeding. The cop is a male. The driver is a female. The woman flirts her way out of getting a ticket. Now if it were the same ...
A. 13 September 2010: Everyone get's stereotyped and everybody does it. I hate it (I've written an article about it myself) but it's the way we are.
We stereotype people because it's the way our brain forms a perspective of a certain group - we may not know anything... (read in full...)
I caught my dad on some sites and I don't want to be the cause for divorce!
Q. i realized a few months ago that on my dad's computer there were sites for affairs in the top sites, but the history was cleared. i didn't say anything about it but cried about it and one day he caught me and i mentioned what i saw. he played i...
A. 13 September 2010: Honestly we can't give you the answers, you may have told us the situation however, we don't know your parents your your relationship with them or their relationship with each other.
We don't know your dad so we can't judge. However, before j... (read in full...)
What do you guys reckon... Does he deserve another chance?
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and we have been going out for 4 months. he lives 40 miles away from me. we have met up once every 3 weeks since we been going out. when we first started going out about a week into it i found out he was still talking ...
A. 13 September 2010: It's an on-and-off .. fairly long distance relationship where you've said yourself that you don't trust him.
If there's no trust in a relationship then it doesn't work, and in a long distance relationship it's even worse because you can't be with ... (read in full...)
She says she's against abortion, but has already had one in the past!
Q. Hi. I have a question with which I desperately need some help. I love my wife very much, but I have found out some information recently that troubles me. I found out, totally by accident, that my wife had an abortion before we met. The thing that ...
A. 22 June 2010: There may be something you're missing here, your wife may have left out that she had an abortion in the past but the situation may have been difficult, or maybe she meant she could never have another one but didn't want to bring up the past for ... (read in full...)
How can I be popular at school?
Q. Hi! I am a 15 years old girl and i want to ask how i can be popular in my school? I want to have a good hi5, i want to have style and i want people to come talk to me about everything.´ Please im desperate i need to be a POPULAR GIRL please h...
A. 29 May 2010: I'm going to start off by saying being popular isn't everything. I know it's an old saying that you may not listen to but it's the truth.
All you have to do is be yourself. I'm not popular however, I have a lot of friends from a lot of differen... (read in full...)
I can't come out to my parents but staying in the closet is hurting my relationship
Q. dear aunts and uncles. this is a bit long and im sorry but im having a really difficult time at the moment and would really appreciate any help that you can give me. ive been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half now a...
A. 24 February 2010: The best thing to do is probably tell your parents.
It will be hard, it's always hard to come out however, your girlfriend will be their to support you.
You never know, your parents may be supportive. They might be a little shocked at first how... (read in full...)
Does dating a guy from a different school work out?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, A couple of day of go, I met this guy named Oscar. He's dominican and we both speak spanish. He's so adorable and I love the way his face lights up whenever he smiles. We go to different schools though, but we live right next ...
A. 24 February 2010: I don't think going to different schools will make a difference in your relationship.
I have a friend who dated a guy when she was in the last year of secondary school (I guess that's High School in America)and he was in college and they had an a... (read in full...)
Loveless marriage - stay or go?
Q. I have posted previously on my situation and I have tried to stick it out but have reached the end of my tether. My wife and I are less than 2 years married and have an 18 month daughter and she is 7 months pregnant. Our marriage has become loveless ...
A. 24 February 2010: Seperation is probably the best idea.
Sorry but she has no right to think that she is above you in anyway.
If there is no love in your marriage then seperation is the best idea, it's not fair on either of you to be living unhappily.
Is... (read in full...)
There is a chance my girlfriend could be pregnant, is there anything I can do or say to help?
Q. I have been seeing this girl and she thinks she might be pregnant, I did what i thought was right and reminded her that I love her and that no matter what happens i will be there for her, is there anything I can do or say to help? she says i keep ...
A. 17 February 2010: I agree with the other two, find out for definate if she is pregnant.
The thing is if she is pregnant, it's not going to go away, she has to think about this and find out what she wants to do.
Depending on whether she is or not, all you rea... (read in full...)
Catholic girls are supposed to be saints, but I have ended up getting pregnant at 15
Q. Ok im 15 and pregnant.. But Im also Bi.. but Idk what I should do.. because I was raised to be a Catholic girl... Catholics are supposed to be "saints". I need advise, but dont need to be judged.. Please help?...
A. 17 February 2010: Hey,
You may be a Catholic but you're also human.
You have to focus on yourself right now. Figure out things such as whether you want to keep the baby, yes you're Catholic but it's your decision not your religions :)
There are many Christ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend thought badly of me when I got pissed at my sister.
Q. we had a dance last week and it was the kind where everyone was wearing dresses and had dates. i took my boyfriend. the problem was when my mom came she brought my sister with her and i just started acting like a jerk and i cant help it when my mom ...
A. 12 February 2010: Hey,
I wouldn't read too much into it. If you're really worried ask your friends and boyfriend if you thought you had been too harsh, maybe?
It's nature for siblings to argue, I argue with my sister all the time - my friends seem highly amus... (read in full...)
I'm only happy when I am chatting to him online, but I feel guilty because he has a girlfriend!
Q. i fall in love with a guy. but he has gf now. we met on the website. It’s happy time when I chatting with him.I don’t know why sometimes my feeling of guilt for his gf is so strong. I know I must be wrong for his gh. But I don’t wanna leave hi...
A. 10 February 2010: Hey, Don't trouble yourself over it =) if he has a girlfriend then it's probably best not to think about the romantic feelings you may be feeling right now. If you want to remain friends then you should, he may have girlfriend but that's no r... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to make friends in high school
Q. iv started high school and things havent gone very well for me. My biggest problem is making new friends. I had "best friends" in middle school who were horrible to me and im no longer their friend. and now im trying to become friends with new ...
A. 9 February 2010: Hey,
Instead of trying to make friends with one group of people, why not try with a range of groups.
Friends can't be forced, and really you make friends just by talking and finding commonalities.
So, like I said, try making friends with ... (read in full...)
I want guys to notice me and not just my friends around me!
Q. i'm a big gurl or you can call me fat i never had a boyfriend in my life each guy i like either had a gurlfriend or never think of me as a gurl at all i want to know how do i get guys to notice me and not my friends beside me ? ...
A. 9 February 2010: Hey,
I know how you feel, it's like every guy is either in a relationship or only sees you in the "friend" light.
I don't really know what to say except if you're not comfortable with yourself then try and do something which will make you ha... (read in full...)
I want paybacks on my best friemd!
Q. wow my "bestfriend" has always screwed things up for me but i always forgive her becuz she can be nice sometimes. she has started rumors and made fun of me and stabbed me in the back so many times i lost count. its too much stress when we fight and ...
A. 9 February 2010: Getting back at her probably isn't the best way to deal with this.
You say you've spoken to her, so she knows what she's doing. I agree with the other two, if it's causing you stress then the best thing to do would probably to stop contact ... (read in full...)
I can barely go to my boyfriend's house without wanting to punch his mom in the face! What can I do?
Q. okay so i have this problem with my boyfriends mother i hate hate hate her with a passion!!! she has the worst parenting skills in the world , she screams 24/7 and she moves things and then accuses my boyfriend and his brother of stealing them , ...
A. 8 February 2010: Hey,
I'm sorry to say, there's not much you can do without disrespecting your boyfriends mother, and you have to remember that because she is his mother he will most likely be inclined to side with her because of that.
You've said you can't st... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 7 February 2010: Ok, peoples main concern is that you're 15 - which is true, you're still very young.
However, what you also need to think about is the responsibility of having a baby. It's not easy, you're still in school.
You and your boyfriend may love each ot... (read in full...)
Do I carry on acting the way I am for boys to like me?
Q. hey, i always ask questions on this and either get just 1 answer or an answer that just doesn't help at all... i really need your help and to get that, i'm gonna tell you as much information as I can. The thing is, I really just want a boyfriend...
A. 7 February 2010: You carry on being who you are for your own happiness. If the boy you like likes you for you then that's great, it's basically a bonus, but don't try and change for him. Like you said, your grades are better, your family and social life is b... (read in full...)
I set up a boy as a backup in case the boy I liked didnt like me, but now my friend has decided she likes my backup guy
Q. ok so theres this boy i have liked for nearly a year now but im always really rervous 2 say anthin 2 him, so i came up wiv a "safty-net" hu seems quite interested in me so incase i didnt get with the boy i wanted to originally if i never asked him ...
A. 7 February 2010: If she likes him then you shouldn't do anything. It's not fair on the guy to be thought of as a "saftey net" if you like some other guy and don't particually like him.
If your friend likes him more than you then it's only fair that she should be t... (read in full...)
Ideas on teenage dating sites?
Q. Anyone got idea's for a teenage dating site? Im not too young to date and dont tell me to not get involved with guys cuz ive never had a bf and im ready. thxx. ...
A. 7 February 2010: Unfortuantly, for you, I can't recommend any teenage dating sites because I don't know any.
You may feel like your ready for a boyfriend, and the commintments of having a boyfriend however, dating sites probably aren't the answer to this.
You f... (read in full...)
I care about people a lot. But I'm feeling exhausted and am wondering...will anyone ever be there for me?
Q. Um, well...okay, I'm an agony aunt on this site, and I'm going through a difficult time. I like to help people. I care about people a lot. But I'm feeling exhausted and am wondering...will anyone ever be there for me? I try to help on this sit...
A. 7 February 2010: I think I know what you might be going through.
You feel that you're always trying to help people if they're upset yet you feel you can't tell them, because it isn't in your nature to tell others when you're feeling down. You're usually the one help... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my 16 year old son getting his girlfriend pregnant?
Q. I am the mom of 3 sons ages 18, 16 and 13. I just found out that my 16 yr old son got his 16 yr old girlfriend pregnant. We have been very open about sex and had MANY safe sex talks. I knew that he had a girlfriend but didn't know that they were ...
A. 7 February 2010: Your son obviously didn't mean to get his girlfriend pregnant. Have you spoken to him? He may have been using contraception, in which case he was being responsible, but contraception isn't 100%.
The only way for it to be 100% is not to have sex at a... (read in full...)
I want to get out of the friends zone
Q. How do i escape the friendship zone and get my girl?!?!?!?!? I think that this girl i like just considers me a friend how can i change that? advice is most welcome kind people!...
A. 7 February 2010: You should talk to her.
It may sound scary considering you don't know if she will feel the same way, but it's the only way you will actually know once and for all.
You also have to make sure your friendship with one another isn't affected by you a... (read in full...)
I feel I hurt his ego by saying no to being with him...
Q. My good friend and i accidentally fell for each other while he was in a relationship with a miss 6 years younger than him. regardless of their indifferences, i knew my friend loved her and worked to keep the relationship going. we exerted hard to ...
A. 7 February 2010: If you didn't feel comfortable being in a relationship with him at that point then you that's not your fault.
He had just broken up with his girlfriend and he probably wasn't in the best place either.
You probably made the right decision... (read in full...)
His parents interfere and he is losing interest
Q. dear cupid, what do u do when u hav been dating almost a year and the others parents prevent u from talking very often and it seems that the other is losing interest in you what do you do to keep them interested?...
A. 10 December 2009: Is it his parents that are interfering? and are you fearing that he's the one losing interest? If it is his parents and it is that fear, then maybe he's worried that you're losing interest in the relationship which is why you think that he is... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to work on my confidence?
Q. hi guys ive got abit of a confidence crisis. I think it started in primary when i was bullied alot for how i look because i was 11 stone, was wearing glasses and my hair was terrible and i have a lisp but i wanted that to change for high school ...
A. 10 December 2009: The bullying from your primary school has probably given you a bit of a knock - which is quite sad because you seem like a really nice person who people would know and love. I think you should just surround yourself with good friends and get ... (read in full...)
I want to participate in a beauty pageant but my parents won't let me.
Q. well ever since i turned 19 i had this strong urge to go into modelling and then acting.all my friends,family and even the people who just see me outside think that i am an actress.but i am not bragging ot anything but my family will never let me ...
A. 24 October 2009: Hey,
I think I agree with the other two posts. I understand you want to respect your parents wishes however, you are now an adult therefore should not need their permission to do something like this. Surely they should know this too.
You sho... (read in full...)
I hate my new stepmom!
Q. my dad re-married in august 2008. i hate my new stepmum. she is mean to me and everything! i tell my dad but he says that i'll just have to get used to her. but she is always talking about my weight and she thinks that i just want to have sex with a ...
A. 24 October 2009: You should talk to your step-mother and tell her that the way she's treating you is unacceptable. She might not realize she's affecting you this way and if you talk to her about it she might stop all the unnecessary comments. You and your step... (read in full...)
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