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writes:I don't know how but people think im too flirty. I barly have any guy friends and the ones I do have I don't love them like that. And one person called me a bitch about it. I don't know how but people think I am and I never liked a guy before or kiss a guy or anything! What should I do? How can I stand up for myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): It's interesting to me that a superflirty female personality wouldn't have Hoardes of guy friends! Usually it is the girl who gets along with all the guys (in a feminine, non- tomboyish) way that the other chickadees envy. My sister is this way and she has enough galpal drama to Last. She stays cooool, however, doesn't really let it bother her, and it doesn't.
Be friends with those who support and love you; be polite to those who do not. Don't bother with them; they're green in the face; no need to rise, no need to whip out snappy comebacks; don't satisfy their puerility in that way.
You can't change your character, and why would you want you?
-Tante Victoire
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 It's hurtful when people say things like that, but you have to just let it go - it may sound wierd but if you show them that it's getting to you then they'll probably feel more satisfied by it and keep doing it. Just try not to care what other people think of you, because you yourself know that it's not true.
Defending yourself, if you've never done it before, will be hard. It may take a lot for you to actually do it - it's like an adrenalin rush kind of thing. If you're like me then it takes a lot to make you that angry before you say something.
I wouldn't worry about what these girls are saying. Just stick with your friends and I'm sure you'll be fine.
Hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): You forget about getting hurt and don't think about what other people will think of you. Just do and act on what you feel is right.
Standing up for yourself is one of those times where you don't talk about how it's making you feel; it's a time when you show people your guts. Defend yourself already!
It feels really, really good too.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 They are probably jealous of you cause you might get more attention from guys and are prettier then them. Just ignore them or say thank you when they insult you. There's no point in getting in an actual argument about it because that means that what they said hurt you and by you reacting in a bad way, you are saying that they won.........they got a reaction out of you
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (14 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) They're just seeking for attention, don't let it bother you. They aren't worth it.. Be who YOU want to be, not who they want you to be. No one knows the kind of person you are so, and their impression is nothing spectacular. Don't change, xoxo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Well you might want to take in note what you do around them maybe it is your way of showing that your real good friends but when you see person backing up or grinnign or anything at all back away and try not move around to much when you talk. Another possibilty maybe is that you are super cute and really hot and they find the only way to forget about their jealousy is by gossiping and finding any flaw at all in any way. Try to show that your smarter than what you are and try to hang around girls. Even though I'm a guy some of my best friends that are girls have experienced this and many have been traumatized. (One of them actually ended being my girlfriend 'till today) Anyways, good luck and try not emphasize that your trting to avoid this because it will become noticeable and they will bother you even more.
-Best of luck ^___^
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