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writes:okay so i have this problem with my boyfriends motheri hate hate hate her with a passion!!!she has the worst parenting skills in the world , she screams 24/7 and she moves things and then accuses my boyfriend and his brother of stealing them , i hate her parenting skills so much its more like a fail then anything . like a week ago screamed in my boyfriends face and told him he was fat and shit like that till the point where he was telling me that he wanted to change what he looked like cause he was un attractive and fat and he almost started crying ... he isnt fat at all for the record , he has gained like 10 pounds since i met him but weve been dating for like a year and a half and weve been best friends for 2 years before that ... i really want to just sit his mom down and scream in her face everything i hate about her , but i no shes just gonna kick me out of there house if i do that , i no at 16 i cant say much but his parents defiantly cross a line , my boyfriends 18 and still lives with them , i want him to move out so badly right now but he has a really shitty job and is terrible with money and would never make it on his own , and i can move in with him till i grad , i need advice cause i can barely go to his house with out wanting to punch his mom in the face.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Hey,
I'm sorry to say, there's not much you can do without disrespecting your boyfriends mother, and you have to remember that because she is his mother he will most likely be inclined to side with her because of that.
You've said you can't stand her, so unless she does something completely over the line then you should probably stay back and try and ignore it.
You should be there for your boyfriend and keep him happy. It's not right that his mother is bringing down his self-esteem like she is however, you will need to be there to reasure him that you love him and that he looks fine.
Every parent deals with things differently. What does his father say about all this?
I'm sorry if this hasn't helped much but, like I said, there's not much else you can do without putting yourself and your boyfriend in an awkward poisition.
Just try and be there for your boyfriend, make sure he knows that the things his mother says or does isn't true and doesn't affect your relationship in the slightest.
If things get really bad mabye talk to him about it and see what he wants to do.
Good Luck x
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