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writes:Im a really spiteful person.Today my boyfriend text me, asking me to get ready and meet him in town. I got ready, drove halfway to town when my phone started ringing. I pulled into a street, stopped and answered it. It was my boyfriend telling me he couldnt see me anymore, he had to go see his nan in hospital. The problem being, i was angry at him. I did my best to hide it, and just said oh okay then, not at all? (I havent seen him since sunday) and he said no sorry, it will have to be saturday now. (Because of work.) and that was that. I text him to see if he was okay, and he said he was, but he doubts he will see me at all.The first thing i thought was "im not being funny, its 2 in the afternoon, is he staying at the hospital for 7 hours' and 'for gods sake, could of just not bothered making plans with me'I was actually quite pissed off, what type of person is pissed off with someone for not seeing them because a relative is in hospital.Im angry at myself for being so heartless, yet i cant help feeling let down. That im ready to spend a night with my boyfriend, and all excited and now im spending a night in alone whilst he's with all his family.Is it normal for me to be slightly angry?! or am i terrible?
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (16 October 2010):
 As the others have said it is natural to be a little annoyed when someone has decided to change plans at the last minute. t doesn't make you a spiteful person, it makes you human. Emotions are tricky and very confusing at times.
Try and see it from your boyfriends point of view. If you were in the same situation, would you do the same as your boyfriend?
Hope this helps x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 October 2010):
I also agree with dirtball that it's natural to be angry or hurt at times like this when you're ready and driving there and suddenly blown off. But like him, I also have to say it's based upon the situation and also how you then handle the situation. I'm glad you said you'd hid it, because if you'd blown your top, you'd probably have been shown the door.
When you feel mad, put yourself in the position not of him, but of his nan. Let's say it was you in the hospital, and instead of coming to see you, he went out with his mates or something. You'd not only be hurt, but you'd be on the verge of killing him. That's pretty much the situation he was in. He was going to lose whatever happened. You've just got to look at it from his point of view, and try to understand it. If you can't, or don't, then you may need to look further into yourself at why you feel this way.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Yes it's natural for you to feel hurt by broken plans, even if you understand that there were good reasons for the plans to be broken. The key is how you handle it. You can't lash out at him or make him feel bad. Do your best to empathize with your BF. Think about how you'd like him to handle it if you were in his position, and do that.
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