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... Send *rimson_kiss a private message | | | *rimson_kiss's profile:Hello friends. Thank you for reading about me. I am a 34 year old single mother, with 2 girls. One is 8 yrs old and the other is about to turn 1.
The only experiences I can pull from to help others is what I have lived through. I know, big shocker, my life has not been all roses and rainbows. I have dealt with domestic violence, being cheated on, trust issues, emotional abuse, self esteem issues, infertility, and some sexual issues as well. It doesn't make me an expert by any stretch of the imagination, but I have survived it and maybe I can help someone else survive as I did!
I have found the best way to work through the issues I am having in my own personal life, is to reach out and help others who need it. I know how frustrating it can be to search your mind for days and never find the answers you are seeking.
If anyone of you ever has an issue that you are not comfortable with asking publicly, my box is always open to you. I may not give the best advice around, but I will give my opinion on the matter and do my best to be a good guide specific to your situation.
Many blessings of happiness!!
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Half penetration sex, am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hi, My BF's penis went in me about half way, the head was fully in and we did this a few times. He didnt push all the way because I want to keep my virginity but i cant help but think have I already lost it from what we wer doing. We tested ...
A. 28 April 2009: To put it bluntly and answer your question: have you lost it? OH YESSSSSSSSSSS... (read in full...)
I'm scared that my friends will hate me if I date him.
Q. i am really in love with this guy, and he really loves me. but we're not together because i am scared. he split up with his girlfriend (one of my best friends) a few months ago, and i am scared all my other friends will judge me if we start seeing ...
A. 28 April 2009: You really should take the time to talk to your best friend and explain the situation. It is showing her some respect for your friendship and her feelings. If she has a problem with it, you will have to decide and make the choice between a best ... (read in full...)
Why won't this serial cheater marry me?
Q. hello...im trying to figure out why is it that my boyfriend of 15yrs (he's 40 and im 39) first off will not marry me and make a formal commitment and second of all will not leave this other woman alone? i've forgiven him for having a baby on...
A. 28 April 2009: wow, I know this topic like the back of my hand. Girlie, a serial cheater will NEVER stop. STOP letting him do this to you, wanna know how? LEAVE THE SITUATION!!!
I know its hard because you want to fight the other women. Do you realize this is ... (read in full...)
How can I come out to my parents?
Q. i first realised i was gay when i was 17. i had a brother who was gay as well who lived in london but died of aids in 1995. which made it difficult for me to come out to my parents, subsequently i have never come out to them as they blamed ...
A. 28 April 2009: I would have to agree. The best way is to be blunt about it, kind of like tearing off a band aid. Just state the facts and get it over with, don't prolong the agony.... (read in full...)
He blames me for cheating! Does he not want me?
Q. What do i do if my boyfriend is always blameing me 4 cheatin but I'm really not??? Do it mean he don't wanna be with me or just what.... ...
A. 28 April 2009: I agree with Jez..he could have low self esteem. Its obvious he has trust issues as well. Talk to him to get to the bottom of this ASAP or it could ruin what you have.... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to think I'm pregnant?
Q. Someone please help me is it stupid to think I'm pregnant? I was rubbing on my bf's penis with my vagina. It was stupid to do that cause I was jerking him off with my hand too this was 3 weeks ago. I know it was stupid so please don't lecture me. I ...
A. 28 April 2009: How do you know you lost it? Did you get that confirmed?... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. Ok So Here It Goes My Boyfriend Finger Me So I Returned The Favor and he wiped his thing off then he fingerd me could i be pregnant i never slept last night thinking about it im sick to my stomach please help me im flipping out...
A. 24 April 2009: Gonna need more info hun, where are you in your cycle, did you take a test, when he wiped off how did he do it? These all play a role in it. Private message me if you dont want to post publicly.... (read in full...)
With all these questions, are they signs that he's cheating on me?
Q. My husband of 8 years have asked me following questions recently( in last month or so not all of them at the same time but in b/w conversations) which have no connection with me personally: 1. What is an IUD 2. why do women douche 3. what ca...
A. 24 April 2009: Sweetie, sounds like you are seeing signs that are making you very uncomfortable. Yes, I have been there myself. Did you do what Eve suggested? She is TOTALLY right on it all. You need to investigate and if you can't do it personally, hire a ... (read in full...)
Does this seem weird to anyone else?
Q. Hello! I have not been in many serious relationships, but I need advice. I have been dating a girl now for 4 months. I like her a lot and our relationship has moving quite nicely. I recently found out though that she still talks to an ex boy...
A. 23 April 2009: So glad to have helped...Best of luck to the both of you, sounds like you are well on your way to a mature and happy relationship!... (read in full...)
Is he over his ex?
Q. I am really into the guy in my life, we have both been divorced for over three years. the problem I'm not sure he is over his ex. Whenever anyone mentions anything about what their ex's did that ended the relationship he walks away. He seems sad ...
A. 23 April 2009: It takes 2 to make or break any relationship. I am sure he is feeling bad about the things he did in the past. Maybe talk to him and get him to open up to you and find out why he might be so sad about things that get brought up about the ex. Getting ... (read in full...)
I don't know what things would be like if we DID start dating again.
Q. I dated this girl for a while, and I fell in love with her. She also fell in love with me, but she later dumped me because she hated how hurt I always was and she hated the pressure that my depression added to the relationship. It's been about tw...
A. 23 April 2009: Yes, it is possible to go back and try again. Sounds like you got the major issue taken care of, but be careful not to slide backwards again.
You are going to need her support in this as well. Being the friends you are now sounds like you are ... (read in full...)
My friend's ex boyfriend has a crush on me
Q. Okay, I have a problem. There's this guy that I really like, and he's also one of my closer friends. But he dated my friend Cindy. See, I didn't have a problem with them being together, he didn't even know I liked him. But I thought that the...
A. 23 April 2009: I would take a minute and ask your friend how she would feel about you dating her ex. She might just be ok with it. If you value the friendship at all, you will take that time to find out.
I would have to agree that you shouldn't let others d... (read in full...)
I have this guy at work that likes me but...
Q. i have this guy at work who likes me alot he does most of my work for me and does his work he buys me lunch all the time we talk and he is fun but the only thing is he is about 320 pounds and black as the marker your lookin at..he keeps telling me ...
A. 23 April 2009: HONESTY, hello? Doesn't anyone know this word anymore?
I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but try explaining to him just like you did here, tell him that you don't feel you and he would be a good match for each other, but if you change your... (read in full...)
How can I confront her in order to make things better?
Q. Sorry in advance that this is so long. Here's something I'd like some advice on. I've been thinking about this a bit, and it's just been something on my mind the last few days and something I'd like answered. I started talking to this girl the...
A. 22 April 2009: Nick...there are some grown MEN who could really use you as a model for their own behavior. First, you stated "shes a very sweet girl, beautiful smile and laugh. Great personality. And I would like to even just be friends with her, because she... (read in full...)
How come guys always change when you get too close to them?
Q. How come guys always change when you get too close to them? This guy that I know at school always trys to make me laugh and when I'm sitting with my best friend and he's trying to talk to me he will try to dodge her head to talk to me face to face. ...
A. 22 April 2009: Yes, he likes you. Sounds like you and he are playing a little game of cat and mouse. Stop the petty stuff and ask him straight out if he likes you and wants to go out with you. Its really that simple. If you like him in return, go for it. ... (read in full...)
Does this seem weird to anyone else?
Q. Hello! I have not been in many serious relationships, but I need advice. I have been dating a girl now for 4 months. I like her a lot and our relationship has moving quite nicely. I recently found out though that she still talks to an ex boy...
A. 22 April 2009: Let me tell you, cell phone texting is the cause for a lot of mistrust now days.
It doesn't sound like you trust her all that much. Not sure if I would be too happy myself hearing that my bf was still talking to an ex on a regular basis.
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Unjust dismissal!
Q. I started at a new job, my boss made it clear he was interested in me and wanted sexual things from me. When I denied, he then has always treated me differently than the rest of the employees, and has always looked for reasons to fire me. Now 3.5 ...
A. 22 April 2009: Its called SEXUAL HARASSMENT and there are laws against it. File charges immediately!!!... (read in full...)
He smelled awful!!!
Q. Hi aunts, I really need some advice, I've been going out with a boy for a while and tonight for the first time we discovered a little more about each other and when he pulled down his boxers a horrible smell came, it was so ghastly that I wanted to ...
A. 22 April 2009: The one and only way to handle this is being straight forward and telling him the truth. Put it bluntly. Hopefully he will make the corrections that need to be made!... (read in full...)
Why is he continuing to pursue me... if I'm just a fling, or the "other woman"?
Q. I've been messing with an attached guy (not married) that I've tried to end it with, but haven't done it yet. I informed his gf... but she forgave him, and told me I wasn't the first. He still continues to call... I ignored him for 2 weeks (cal...
A. 22 April 2009: Just tell him that you can't handle being the "other woman". I applaud you for even wanting to end it in the first place. I have seen some women just continue with the guy even KNOWING he was in a relationship. This shows you have morals and I am ... (read in full...)
Only 3 days to prove to him that I love him!
Q. Okay here it goes i will have three days to prove to him that i love him and want to be with him and to make him see that we can be happy together!! Tell me what to do ! please! WE will also be around other people so help me please just give me the ...
A. 22 April 2009: Why in the living hell do you have to prove to him that you love him and in 3 days?
This guy sounds like a control freak. I've been there!!!!
I wouldn't do it. I have done this before for an ex and let me tell you, it DIDN'T work. They either ... (read in full...)
Its all the same but we're not in a relationship?
Q. Question. My bf of about 4 months broke it off about a month ago. He said he was feeling guilty about not always being there and he felt he wasn't doing his duties as a bf. He was having a hard time balancing his personal life/business an...
A. 22 April 2009: One sure fire way to find out what is really going on...ask him this:
if we were out in public and ran into some of your friends...how would you introduce me?
You will get your answer about what you are to him! If your his gf he will say that... (read in full...)
What are these noises during sex?
Q. hi recently when my boyfriend and i make love there are funny noises in my vagina ,like air and its so embarrassing . It never use to happen we have been together for two years now.Please help....
A. 22 April 2009: I know its embarrassing, he can control this from happening any farther, exactly as satin states, ,tell him not to pull out so far during his thrusting, also, you might want to try a new position. I have found that certain positions cause more of ... (read in full...)
The girl with "chubby cheeks!"
Q. Hola, I was just wondering why people (mostly guys) perceive me as a "cute" person and compare me to a baby or something. Whenever I smile I get these huge cheeks suddenly appearing from nowhere and it really annoys me. I get people poking them all ...
A. 22 April 2009: I gotta hand it to Steve again, he hit the nail on the head here.
I was always the one with the "chubby cheeks" growing up. Now, I grew up in an ITalian family, do you know how often my cheeks got pinched and called "bella".
Its a phase o... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to think I'm pregnant?
Q. Someone please help me is it stupid to think I'm pregnant? I was rubbing on my bf's penis with my vagina. It was stupid to do that cause I was jerking him off with my hand too this was 3 weeks ago. I know it was stupid so please don't lecture me. I ...
A. 22 April 2009: He wants you pregnant? and if you are not he will leave you? Am i reading this right?... (read in full...)
I'm enjoying the best of both worlds...
Q. I'm cheating on my husband with his best friend and I don't want to stop. I love him very much and our sex life is great... but I enjoy sex with his friend too. What should I do?...
A. 22 April 2009: OMG, Get your act together! Childish. You have commitment issues and YOU are killing your marriage and a friendship all at the same time. Shame on you!
Pretty soon when you are found out, you won't have to choose..you are gonna be ALONE!!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated... should I forgive?
Q. Okay so here is my dilemma... I have been dating my boyfriend now for about 3 1/2 years. He cheated on me once when we first started dating with a girl he has always had a crush on but never got the chance to see if it would work with her. All h...
A. 22 April 2009: I have to agree with my friends here. If he wants to go and sow some of his oats, then he should NOT being doing it while still in a relationship with you. Explain to him that you understand if he wants to see if the grass is greener on the o... (read in full...)
How do you make a man feel appreciated?
Q. My husband always says you don't appreciate me. He is a hard worker and I always tell him what a good man he is. Our sex life is awesome. I just don't know what more he want. Does anyone have any suggestions?...
A. 21 April 2009: Ask him what you can do to show that he is being appreciated! Its really the only way, tell him you are not a mind reader and want to show him he is appreciated.... (read in full...)
Would you forgive him and take him back?
Q. I have a live-in boyfriend of three years. Here's my problem: I want to know if I can trust him today to be what he claims he is. But I don't trust him and wonder if I should give it a shot or walk. In the first 1.5 years, he hated my thr...
A. 21 April 2009: In two words...HELL NO!!!!
You answered your own question...what do you want? according to your statements you want to seperate and want him away and all of it done. If this is what you want, then do it.... (read in full...)
How can you make a woman feel sexy?
Q. Hi there, Simply put, I'd like some ideas on what can you do/say to make a woman feel really sexy......
A. 21 April 2009: Buy her some lingerie!!!!... (read in full...)
We're getting married in 3 weeks time! Is he always going to be a liar?
Q. OK... I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. He use to always look at porn, I asked him to stop because it hurts me and he promised he would. I caught him doing it again! He then put a ring on my fingure and promised again he would not look at ...
A. 21 April 2009: Not really the same, sweetie. His fantasy involves women who are not "in the flesh" right there for him to touch...yours is!!! It would make any man nervous!... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to think I'm pregnant?
Q. Someone please help me is it stupid to think I'm pregnant? I was rubbing on my bf's penis with my vagina. It was stupid to do that cause I was jerking him off with my hand too this was 3 weeks ago. I know it was stupid so please don't lecture me. I ...
A. 21 April 2009: The next logical step to take is call the DR and go see him. Most dr offices use the same tests that we do at home. He will want to test you to be sure, but if its says + then it most likely is +... (read in full...)
We're getting married in 3 weeks time! Is he always going to be a liar?
Q. OK... I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. He use to always look at porn, I asked him to stop because it hurts me and he promised he would. I caught him doing it again! He then put a ring on my fingure and promised again he would not look at ...
A. 21 April 2009: Hun, he has to lie about it, because he knows it hurts you and that you will be upset if he watches it. Why not watch it together? It will both give you pleasure in the long run. Don't sweat it so much, its not as if he is cheating on you with these ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating/losing interest/ or generally just busy with work.
Q. I don't know, I have quite a weird feeling that things are not going well with my boyfriend. We've been together just over four months. Firstly, he's always at work and is always so tired when he gets back that we can't really do anything (he is a ...
A. 20 April 2009: Just by the sound of things I would be suspicious as well. Have you asked if he might be BI sexual? He very well could be and doesn't know how to say.... (read in full...)
My boyfriends stares at other women constantly.
Q. My boyfriend stares at other woment constantly. He makes sure they know he is looking my making obvious suggestive eye contact with them. I am hurt and embarrased by his behavior. I have told him how I feel and he promised to do better. That ...
A. 20 April 2009: Wow, been there and done that. I don't think men will ever understand just how distasteful doing something like that is. Its a very big disrespect to the woman you are with.
I know, it makes you feel as though there is NOTHING special about you,... (read in full...)
Waiting for him to break up with a g/f?
Q. Hi. Have any of you ladies out there ever waited for a guy to break up with his current g/f to be with you? If so, I'm wondering how you handled the waiting; did you still date other guys or stay faithful to him? Did you put pressure on him or ...
A. 19 April 2009: NO way I would wait around for that to happen. DO you realize you are the OTHER GIRL in this situation? Why is he holding on to you and her as well? Sounds to me like a selfish man to me. If he was done with her, he would have ended it and stopped ... (read in full...)
Miserable, no social life -- Help!
Q. ok, where should I begin... HELP!!!!! I have no life! I'm miserable. I mean, I'm a frikkin 20 yr old w/ no damn life! I have no social life whatsoever. the only socializing that I do is on my Playstation 3, I mean come on! I've never ever had a ...
A. 19 April 2009: Don't be so hard on yourself first of all. Second, I would suggest just get out and do something...the more you go out into the public, the faster you will make friends. How about a gaming club in the area? Then you could combine BOTH, your love for ... (read in full...)
Tired of him being the only satisfied one!
Q. How many times do you need to have sex before you have an orgasm? I've had sex over 10 times and have come close but never been fully satisfied.I like knowing that I satisfied my partner but I'm tired of the guy being the only one who gets the happy ...
A. 19 April 2009: Wow, wish I could say I don't know what you are talking about, but I do. When I was with my last partner it took him awhile to "figure out" what I liked. I actually had to open up and tell him what and how. Even though he was experienced, he didn't ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me with two of my friends should I go back with him?
Q. My problem is that if madly in love with my ex boyfriend. We seemed like the perfect couple we were always happy.. We were together for 3 years 8 months and after 2 years of dating i found out he was cheating on me with my bestfriend in the whole ...
A. 7 April 2009: Just walk away. Believe me, you will be better off for it in the long run. Find someone who appreciates you, cause this clown obviously doesn't!!!... (read in full...)
Am I just having trust issues?
Q. I recently got back with my ex. We had broken up before because he cheated on me, and it has taken us a long time to get to a good place to start over. However, the girl that he cheated with is still in our lives. We hang around all the same groups, ...
A. 3 April 2009: Why are you two hanging out with the same people if you know she will be there? If you are trying to let go of the past, everytime you see her, it is going to bringall those old feelings back to you. STOP hanging out together and find other friends ... (read in full...)
I'm craving the life I had, but not to get back with my ex.
Q. I was in a realtionship for five years from the age of 15. I ended it about five months ago, I felt we'd grown apart but also had feelings for a boy who was also my friend. Things didn't work out with that, and I felt so hurt and let down. I ...
A. 3 April 2009: If you want back the life you once had, you are going to have to work for it. Get out, find a therapist for the anxiety and depression and take this time to work on yourself. Adjusting to life on your own is tough, but with the right support system ... (read in full...)
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