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7 October 2012: Last time I visited DearCupid, I was a lonely teenager of about seventeen: never had a girlfriend, and moaning pathetically about it to all who would listen. Terrified that I was destined to be alone forever. Now, I sit and type to you as a twen...
Happy days... :)
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26 August 2010: Hey guys! I haven't been on DearCupid in MONTHS, and I'm happy to say that, upon returning, I can still see some really great advice being given and received EVERYWHERE! You haven't changed a bit :) Except... I was just browsing through the ar...
Valentine's day 2010...
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9 February 2010: For those who don't know or haven't read my posts before, my name's Josh, and the biggest aspect of my love-life at the moment is that it hasn't existed yet. To read more about this, check my column and my other articles out (Y) However, this ...
Not just a metaphor...
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16 August 2009: Two weeks ago I was in Germany. The Rhine Valley, to be precise. I went there on a trip with my Wind Band. I wont say what I play, for fear of discorvery, lol. Any one of the 66 people with me could be on this site! One of the other 66 people ...
More about the classic "Be yourself"...
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15 November 2008: "Be yourself..." classic advice on how to get a girl/boy interested in you. They should love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be to catch their eye. This is all well and good. But who is "yourself"? Is it the person at home: reasonably...
Prents!! Prime examples!! "Do you want a smack?" - "Are you going out looking like THAT?" No, of course I don't want a bloody smack! and Yes, I am going out looking like THIS!
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23 September 2008: Has anyone noticed, that for all their showing-off, their cars, and their "I'm-dad/mum-so-that-makes-me-right" attitde, that parents tend to be slightly ridiculous most of the time? I mean, I still dont know the answer to "Where did you lose it?" ...
Help wanted: extra agony aunts/uncles required
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17 July 2008: I've been a member of this site for a while now, and from what I've seen here, I can conclude almost every agony aunt/uncle here is a good person: someone who likes to help out, to dish out wisdom by the barrel. I have thoroughly enjoyed adding to ...
How do you define "love" ?
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11 July 2008: I read a question posted recently that got me thinking: Can you fall in love before sex? Well, the answer is plain and simple: of course! But what I started thinking about was, how do people view love and sex? I know for a fact, for instance...
You're probably luckier than you think!
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24 June 2008: Guys, how old were you when you first entered a relationship? 11? 12? I know one guy who went out with a girl at the age of 7 years old. It tends to vary, of course, but it's normally around 10-13 these days. Perhaps some of you decided to wait lon...
Know who it is you think you love!
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23 June 2008: About a year ago, when I was 14, a girl found out that I liked her. This goes back to almost four years ago; when I first met her, thoughts went buzzing to my brain: "she's beautiful... she's smart... she's cute... she's funny... she likes to ...
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Oh, how things change.
Q. Last time I visited DearCupid, I was a lonely teenager of about seventeen: never had a girlfriend, and moaning pathetically about it to all who would listen. Terrified that I was destined to be alone forever. Now, I sit and type to you as a twen...
A. 21 October 2012: Yeah, I was much younger when I made this account; my spelling in general wasn't exactly... well, it was pants :L... (read in full...)
Please help.I'm not sure what to do with me and him??
Q. i really want to know what to do... me and my boyfiend met on the internet on begginging of 2008 and met on 14th of august, and were still together, we have soo many memories and so much more i know will become, we do so many different stuff, like ...
A. 26 August 2010: mizz.butterflies has a good point there. It's always nice to know when you care about us - and guys DO have a tendency to fight :/
Yet, on those grounds, I'm afraid I have a difference in opinion. I think perhaps ignoring him may tell him you'... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirts with all my friends, what should I take it as?
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 9-10 months and he flirts with all of my friends. He knows I'm sorta pissed at him right now-but he doesn't know why. So he's trying to think of a way to make it up to me. I love him and care for ...
A. 14 February 2010: What I don't understand is how you expect him to make it up to you when he doesn't know what he's done wrong! I think you need to make it clear to him that his flirting has to stop: it's getting on your nerves.
As for the btw bit, maybe if this is h... (read in full...)
I've never been kissed and worry that I'll be bad at it
Q. So this guy and I have been talking for a few months now, and hung out twice. We both like each other, but are not dating yet. The thing is I am 17 years old, and have NEVER been kissed!!! I kissed boys when I was like 5, but Ive never been truly ...
A. 11 February 2010: Seriously, he won't mind, as long as your breath is fresh :L
Brush your teeth before you go out, and all will be well: promise! It'll come naturally to you, and is pretty easy to pick up, so I'm told :)... (read in full...)
I am 13 and I am conteplating giving my boyfriend my virginity for valentines day
Q. ok. so me and my bf have been together for like EVER. we've been together so long that i lost count of the months. befor i lost count it was like 18 months. anyway i love him so much and i want to please him for v-day(if u know wat i mean) but im ...
A. 11 February 2010: Sex is possibly the biggest step to take in a relationship, short of actually having kids. Which, I might add, is still a risk if something does not go according to plan.
Not only would it be illegal for you to have sex at this age, but there are ... (read in full...)
I asked a girl to my prom, she accepted, now I am worrying about it all
Q. Okay so I'm in 11th grade and like a girl in 9th. So I ask her to go to the prom. She says yes with extreme happiness. So for a few days I think she must like me. But now it finally dawned on me that probably the only reason she said yes was because ...
A. 11 February 2010: I'd say she seems a little overwhelmed that she's been asked to go: I wouldn't worry at all!
It's unlikely that she'll ditch you: how many friends can she have that will be going too? It's more likely she'll try and stick with you. You're nerv... (read in full...)
How do I ask a 12th grader out on a date?
Q. hey how do i get a date with a 12 grader girl i am 14 and there are hot 12 graders that i want to go out with? well what i want to know is how to ask a 12 grader out on a date? ...
A. 11 February 2010: From looking at the age gap, I'm sorry to say I think your chances are pretty slim :( Sorry, mate. But personally I think it's unlikely that a hot 12th grade girl would consider going out with a 14year-old.
But hey, if you're still bent on goin... (read in full...)
I still can't get over him...
Q. Here's the situation. The guy i've liked for months knew I liked him, and told me he liked me back. (This was a few months ago) But like eventually, he told me he had family problems and problems with his friends and didn't have time for a relat...
A. 11 February 2010: It sounds to me like he was trying to avoid this awkward situation from the start: rather than do what he thought could seriously crush your hopes, he tried to let you down gently, and used his issues at home (whether they exist or not) as an escape ... (read in full...)
Should I date her again?
Q. Ok so I dated this girl during hoemcoming and I left a stupid text on my phone saying I was going to hug this girl friend thats just a friend and she ditched me for her ex right in front of everyone and she tore up a 20$ corsage that I did hours or ...
A. 11 February 2010: I won't dissuade you from trying again with her: people learn from their mistakes. It's how we develope and mature.
However, I'd advise you to be careful. If she dumped you for some silly text she found and hurt you like that before, then ther... (read in full...)
He keeps putting a lot of pressure on me, should I date him again or not?
Q. Ok so im a 14 year old girl. this kid i went out with before is 16. he keeps trying to go out with me again. he used to text me to try and get me to send him a pic of me naked and would get mad when i refused. he would tell me im weird and no one ...
A. 11 February 2010: Just ask yourself: if he really wanted to be with you, would he be acting so immature himself? He asks you to send him naked pictures of yourself? There's a word for that... begins with a P...
What I fail to understand is why you would even cons... (read in full...)
Now everyone thinks I'm gay and I'm not! Help!
Q. Hi i am blair and i am a 13 year old male. For some reason i had a fanasty of being attracted to a specific player on my hockey team. I dont know why i was attracted to him and i couldnt get the stupid thoughts out of my head. I kept on staring at ...
A. 11 February 2010: I wouldn't worry about it, mate: it'll probably all blow over in a while. If they're poking fun at you, just laugh along and let it slide: they'll get bored eventually. Plus, if you pull something amazing off at a hockey match, they might just ... (read in full...)
Valentine's day 2010...
Q. For those who don't know or haven't read my posts before, my name's Josh, and the biggest aspect of my love-life at the moment is that it hasn't existed yet. To read more about this, check my column and my other articles out (Y) However, this ...
A. 11 February 2010: Ok, apologies for the delay :L It wasn't intentional.
I have to say, alst night was fantastic! :D I was panicking the whole evening for reasons I couldn't quite put my finger on, but in the end...
I had the card and box of chocolates in a bag wit... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my voice has not broken nor has my penis grown.
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) Well I am 16 turning 17 on May 21st cant wait for it really but.. I am planning on going out more once I get a stable job and a car or bike most probably will be thinking more and more of having sex around that age. ...
A. 10 February 2010: Odds are it's all happening just a bit late XD There's no set time-scale in which this can happen: anywhere between 12 and 19, really. If you're that worried, though, I would also advise you to go and talk to a Doctor: I doubt it'd be too embarras... (read in full...)
Valentine's day 2010...
Q. For those who don't know or haven't read my posts before, my name's Josh, and the biggest aspect of my love-life at the moment is that it hasn't existed yet. To read more about this, check my column and my other articles out (Y) However, this ...
A. 10 February 2010: She texted back at 3:20pm today: "Well, I don't have a valentine... yet ;)"
We talked for a while: played a little game:
"You have anyone in mind? I know I do ;)"
"oh, anyone I know? ;)"
"oh, I think you know her very well :) My only concern is ... (read in full...)
A question for men on attraction...
Q. This is a question for men. Have you ever found yourself attracted to women that you may not have been attracted to when you first met. Or is the determination set from the moment you meet....
A. 20 January 2010: Yes: more than once I've found myself thinking of completely unexpected person I know. It can be quite bizzare, really. But I think real attraction springs from sources that you've known for a while: personally, I can't see how well anything... (read in full...)
I don't know what I'm doing wrong but I've never been kissed by a girl... Help!
Q. Hey I'm 17 years old and I'm a junior in high school. I have never kissed a girl nor have I had a girlfriend. I have no self confidence in myself even though girls tell me I'm cute. I am puerto rican and have guido spiky hair and am 5' 8''. Most of ...
A. 20 January 2010: Well, I'm 17, and I just moved on to higher education. And I'm in the exact same position: never had a girlfriend, never kissed or been kissed, never known what it's like to have that "closeness" with someone you really like. And I agree: it reall... (read in full...)
What's a good reason not to be jealous of people who aren't virgins?
Q. I'm 17 and a virgin, I've been madly deeply jealous of people who is sexual active around my age. You can say it's good to save V card to the right person, but wait, the right person could possibly be hooking up with some guys now. So what ? Get ...
A. 18 January 2010: Well said, celiaaletta!
Ok, ignore anonymous males 1+2: they're quite clearly idiots.
First off, I'm going to just make it clear that I, personally, am right there with you. Heck, assuming you've actually been in a relationship, you've got o... (read in full...)
Is she a woman or a man??? HELP!!!!
Q. I'm totally confused and I just hope somebody can help me make the right decision. I met this girl at work about three months ago. It was her first week in her new job and we got talking on our break. We hit it off straight away. After a few weeks I ...
A. 16 January 2010: I wouldn't call your sexuality into question at all here: you fell in love with a woman, and you fell in love to the extent that when this revelation came, you weren't put off. No matter her body, you will probably always see her as a woman in the ... (read in full...)
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
Q. So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
A. 26 November 2009: The assumption that men judge women entirely on their looks is mislead and, in most cases, untrue. Unfortunately, you only ever really hear about the situations where a guy may have broken up with his partner because of a physical attribute. I thin... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend faces prison for what he did, should I continue case against him?
Q. I stupidly met up with an obsessed ex boyfriend reasons I do not know nor can explain. We met up and returned home to his house by taxi around 11.30. On entry into the house I went to the toilet. During this time he had taken my mobile and proce...
A. 26 November 2009: I can't tell you why you feel guilty: what is it that you feel guilty about? Pressing charges? What (unknown) did is assult, harrassment... any number of things. A guy like that should not have the chance to get at you or anyone else again. It may... (read in full...)
He said if I died he'd move on. Does that mean he doesn't really love me?
Q. Im in a comited relationship with a guy since 4 months. we both really love each other..but i feel he doesn't love me much..because just for fun i asked him a question. da question that i asked 2 him was, what wil he do if i die? he said after my...
A. 14 November 2009: He loves you: a silly question means nothing when it comes to that. Put yourself there: maybe HE has just died. You'd mourn for him, but after a while, you'd move on too. Either that, or you'd live alone forever, and personally, I'd rather be the o... (read in full...)
Why don't boys want to kiss me?
Q. so... i'm about to turn 16 and i mean ive had plenty of chances but whenever a boy wants to kiss me they either think i wont want to, think it will be awkward after because ive neve kissed anyone, or believe its better if we dont because i deserve a ...
A. 14 November 2009: Whoah! Slow down! Just because you've not had your first kiss doesn't make you a loser! I haven't been in a relationship yet, and look at me! Oh, right... Well, anyways, no you're not a loser. To me, it just sound's like bad luck: the guy c... (read in full...)
How can I make a girl fall in love with me?
Q. hello to everyone well i saw a girl on dating website i really like her,i wrote her couple of messages but she dind't reply me,i wanna make her mine as she is already looking for her prince charming,so plzzzzz i request u help me out if you can,i re...
A. 28 October 2009: Look mate, really sorry to burst your bubble, but if she's not replying to your messages, there's nothing you or we can do to help you. She's either not received your messages, or she's choosing not to reply. If it's the latter, then I'm sorry but ... (read in full...)
Taking advantage of Love
Q. Dear Cupid, I didn't think your aim could get any worse, but yet again you manage to surprise me. I look at his bizarre carnival sometimes and I wander if there is truly method to your madness. Maybe I am looking at it too closely. If I just z...
A. 27 September 2009: Your points made in this article are interesting, and well-observed. You're vocabulary is impressive, and you are grammatically perfect: something I admire. If presented in a different format, my opinion of these points would probably change ... (read in full...)
Should I approach him more... or shouldn't I?
Q. Hi everyone. I would like to ask for some advice. Recently I realized that I've fallen for a guy. Of course, I can't be 100% sure it's something more than a huge crush, but I find that I simply cannot stop thinking about him, my hands feel weak when ...
A. 24 September 2009: I say go for it. He sounds like a nice guy, and he enjoys your company: heck, he dedicated a song to you! I shouldn't worry hugely about your ex-best friend. You're right, it could cause some drama, but frankly, if they were never really a couple i... (read in full...)
Is there a more subtle way to get the conversation going than just walking right up to him?
Q. How do I talk to this guy i don't know in the year above? we don't share any classes but we walk home the same way from school. I'm a bit shy so I don't want to just walk up to him and say hi, so is there a more subtle way to get conversation ...
A. 14 September 2009: da da-dah! Facebook to the rescue! Find out his name (if you don't already know) and search for him on facebook! If not, then I suggest you find somthing out about him, and try to draw him into conversation about that. For example, say he'... (read in full...)
I think I have hit puberty, but why am I still small?
Q. I am 13 and I think ive already hit puberty and im 2.5" soft and about 4.5" hard why am I so little?...
A. 13 September 2009: Your thirteenth birthday isn't a cue for you body to explode straight into it's fully grown state: it'll take a good seven or eight years before you stop growing! Besides, at your age, you shouldn't have to worry about things like that: by the time... (read in full...)
I've had a crush on her since seventh grade but now she has a boyfriend, what do I do?
Q. So, in the the seventh or eight grade there was this girl who I always thought was really pretty and I kinda liked. I was always nice to her and besides her girl friends almost everyone in our class made fun of her. I never really knew why because ...
A. 24 August 2009: My first answer would be: let her go. If she seems happy, then there's no use waiting around, as it's not likely to end anytime soon, and it will start to really hurt. However, having been in a similar situation, I realise that the best solution... (read in full...)
Is there any thing I can say to him to see if he still likes me?
Q. i am in LOVE with this boy that went to my bible camp and he likes me too. we went out but we thought we were too young so we broke up. we live about 20 away from each other but i talk to him on IM. is there any trick of words i can use to tell if ...
A. 23 August 2009: You could just bring up "Old Times" in conversation. Get talking and laughing about it all, then just ask him if there's anything still there.
Straightforward questions really is the best way, but it's how you intergrate them into conversation that... (read in full...)
Am I in way over my head?
Q. HELPHELPHELP!!! ILL TELL YOU THE STORY! AND HOPEFULLY YOULL BE ABLE TO HELP ME okay so me and this guy ..#1.. were going out for three months, but he was to nervous to kiss me or anything, and he was 16! so i broke up with him, because i wanted...
A. 23 August 2009: Ok, so it sounds like #1 is out of the picture for now. Let's focus on #2.
You know he likes you, and you know you like him. And to me it sounds like those feelings are strong on both sides. I would normally suggest you ask him out: it doesn't soun... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, he wants to make love but I'm so scared!
Q. Well, I am really akward when it comes to boys, but there is this particular one who is sooo sweet, and he is just beutiful inside and out, but one day when we were alone, he began to touch me, it felt so good, but as he began to try and unbutton my ...
A. 23 August 2009: Simple solution: don't do it. If he says he will wait then he will, and if he won't then I suggest you stay away from him.
Just to clarify, are you two actually going out? Because if you are, and he won't way for you, then he's probably not the righ... (read in full...)
Not just a metaphor...
Q. Two weeks ago I was in Germany. The Rhine Valley, to be precise. I went there on a trip with my Wind Band. I wont say what I play, for fear of discorvery, lol. Any one of the 66 people with me could be on this site! One of the other 66 people ...
A. 20 August 2009: nah: my pathetic reserves of courage don't stretch THAT far, I'm afraid. But I'm hopeful now, lol. Thanks for the comment... (read in full...)
Revenge on your ex: not always the best option
Q. Leah learned great methods of harassment by using a website called "HOW TO GET REVENGE ON YOUR EX" Leah couldn't cope with an ended relationship, a relationship that was over for years before Bobby and I began our relationship. So...
A. 18 August 2009: Jesus Christ... that's one messed-up woman.
I too, am extremely impressed with how you and bobby have held on to each other. I'm surprised the police didn't take more of an interest in this: I was under the impression you could take people to cour... (read in full...)
What can I do for my boyfriend that is special but doesn't cost much?
Q. I have an amazing boyfriend and I want to do something special for him, we're going on vacation in a month so I don't have a bunch of money to spend. Any suggestions?...
A. 5 July 2009: One word: sunset.
Sounds cheesey and romantic, but I reckon if you find a nice place where you can both just go and watch the sun set at the end of the day with each other... I reckon that's pretty special.
Actually, it depends where you're goi... (read in full...)
I want an older boy in my life, is this a good idea?
Q. hey x Im in pickle.. i really want a boy in my life. I want a boyfriend. I hate all the boys in my year and want to get to know new boys a bit older. How? I have made friends with a popular girl who knows boys in higher years. Is this a good id...
A. 14 June 2009: I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing, since you hate all the boys in your year.
Just be careful that you becomes friends with these older boys for the right reasons: they might want something out of a relationship that you ... (read in full...)
What is love? What does it mean?
Q. i'm 16 and in high school. i was wondering what is love? i know its a strong feeling you have towards someone, but how do you know when your in love?...
A. 30 May 2009: You just... know.
I realise that that's probably not too helpful XD
But it's true. You just know, deep in your gut, that you love someone.... (read in full...)
He knows! And now I don't know what to do...
Q. Um... okay. I like this boy (call him Danny), that much is blatantly obvious. His best friend (my best friend's boyfriend) found out and has told him and Danny didn't believe him!! I suggested showing Danny the texts on his phone (but then he got ...
A. 10 March 2009: Maybe he's just out of credit. It happens and causes unbeleivable mix-ups, lol, trust me.
Anyways, I reckon your safest bet is just to talk to him. Dont necessarily ask him out: just find out how he's been, etc. Once you've spoken to him in perso... (read in full...)
Love Cheat Sheet
Q. Okay, okay - here's a cheat sheet. If four or more of these are true, then your boyfriend's being sincere: 1) He calls you as much as you call him. (Or texts you or IM's you or whatever.) If you're the only one initiating the convos, he doesn...
A. 22 February 2009: Brilliant article: very helpful :P
Now how to get partners to read it, without making it see as though we're implying something... any ideas anyone?... (read in full...)
She doesn't like me the same way I like her and now I feel so awkward around her.
Q. I like this girl in college but she does not feel the same way about me, because of this I started to avoid her/ignore her. She would try and talk to me but I would just shun her away. Well I thought that was immature, so started speaking to her ...
A. 31 January 2009: Does she actually know you like her? If she did, it could become a great deal easier. She would be aware of how difficult it is for you, and try to help, or, she could express similar feelings, and the whole situation would suddenly be resolved.
I... (read in full...)
How do I get him to ask me out?
Q. I have known this great guy for about a month and we belong to the same club at school. We flirt, joke and stare at each other all the time. I can tell that he is a nice guy who might be on the shy side at first. Is there any way I could get him to ...
A. 30 January 2009: It IS traditional for the guy to ask the girl... but nowadays, people tend to dispence with tradition and just go for it. It's not always a good thing. But in this situation, I think it might be. Ask him. If he's shy, you might have a bit of a wait ... (read in full...)
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