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writes:iv started high school and things havent gone very well for me. My biggest problem is making new friends. I had "best friends" in middle school who were horrible to me and im no longer their friend. and now im trying to become friends with new people but it dose not seem to be working. I am talking to them in the morning and i see them all the time but they never ask me to hang out and i dont want to text them because i have a feeling that they dont want to answer me. Some of them are guys and they seem to like this one girl more than me ones about to date her and ones always texting her and i want him to be my friend and not make me feel like a loser each time i try to get closer to him and the rest of them.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Hey,
Instead of trying to make friends with one group of people, why not try with a range of groups.
Friends can't be forced, and really you make friends just by talking and finding commonalities.
So, like I said, try making friends with many people then you can find some friends within those groups who you'll have a great time with and will become best friends to you.
Just give it time. You seem like a really nice person and will, no doubt, have plenty of friends soon.
Hope this helps,
Good Luck x
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Just give them time. Entering a new school in 6th grade, I only knew one girl coming in and she was a neighbor. I had to start from scratch, literally, in making new friends. And while I was by far not the most popular kid in the class or wasn't in the "cool group," I had a nice group of friends and we'd eat lunch together and hang out. Just don't try so hard and just be yourself! If you see a girl sitting by herself at lunch, go have lunch with her....the two of you can start a friendship and the ball will start rolling.
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reader, ~darkfairyprincess~ +, writes (9 February 2010):
Sweetie high school is a very cruel place. I just graduated last year and I am glad to be gone. Just be yourself. Be friendly to everyone and don't try to limit yourself to one clique or group. Find an extracurricular activity such as band or drama club to join and you will meet people who share your interests. If you just be yourself and smile and be friendly you will make friends. Just remember that you will only be there for four years. It will fly by and it is only a tiny little portion of your life. Things change A LOT when you get to college. Just hang in there. Things will get better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): The more you get involved with activities and clubs that interest you, the more people you will meet so you won't have to rely on a small group of friends. The trick to meeting new friends is to slowly build up a friendship with them. It seems like you want to instantly make new friends, but it is going to take a little more time. You're probably looking for "best friends" because you are in high school and it is a difficult time, but maybe try doing your own thing for a while. Take this time to join art club, theater (even if it is just backstage work) or try a sport like a track or whatever interests you. The key is to be comfortable with yourself first and then you'll attract other people. It will take some time and persistence, but you'll build up friendships before you know it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): The easiest way is to become a part of a club. For example if you are into a certain sport than join a sport. Become a part of the drama club or the band. Find something you might be interested in doing and join. Or join more than one. You will have plenty of people to make friends with that enjoy doing the same thing you do. Good luck
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