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writes: Im sure all of us have had this happen to us. Ok, let me start off with an example: Scenario: You just got pulled over for speeding. The cop is a male. The driver is a female. The woman flirts her way out of getting a ticket. Now if it were the same scenario but the driver was male, certainly he wouldnt get off by flirting with the cop. See. If a man has a ton of girlfriends then most likely he has respect from his guy friends. But if a woman sleeps with a bunch of men she is considered a whore. This is called stereotyping. Stereotyping isnt just with sex. Its with many things. At some point in our life, im sure we will all be stereotyped against. We are put into categories in other people's mind. Example: Wierd, Fat, Hispanic, Ugly, or Dumb. I think this is how most people make friends. They see whats on the outside first, decide they like what they see, and talk to that person. I believe its human nature to judge by the first sight. Example: If you see a person pointing a gun at you, surely you wouldnt go up to that person and be like "Hey man, what's uuuppp!?". I dont believe though in people seeing a person that is "ugly" and hating their guts just because of what they look like. Let's face it, if you want to get a job you have to have looks. I think this is wrong. Who gives people the right to discriminate against other people? The answer: ourselves. Our mind, everybody has their own opinions about everything, which isnt a bad thing. It only becomes a problem when it gets to the point of hate for other people. I wont lie, I have stereotyped people before, im no saint, but I feel bad when I do that because I know im put into a category in peoples mind, and it doesnt feel good. So my question is, have you ever been stereotyped? Or have you been the one to judge someone? What are your opinions? I expect people to say how they feel on this subject, considering that I have. All opinions are greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): everybody makes assumptions of other people like if i were to see this gurl kissing this guy on the street in public i wld think whore but you knoe what you cant always judge somebody u cld be wrong most guys look at me n think sexy not a virgen a slut n a choola which is a gurl gangster but you knoe what ppl change there mind bout you when they get to knoe you i once saw this black gurl she was pratically throwin herself at this young teacher with her tits all out laughing i thought whore fuhqkin hore tryna get a good grade but you knoe what i started talkin to her turns out she pretty cool n she has guys u knoe but that doesnt mean she gets around so dont judge people before you get to knoe them
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (14 September 2010):
If we were all raised to accept and view each other as just another (lovable) human being or another (unique) creature just like our self, there would not be such a thing as 'stereotyping' BUT...
I(and probably you)was taught, trained, conditioned, programed, influenced, FORCED, and learned to take a very difinte view and attitude towards everything and everyone BASED on the attitudes, beliefs, and outlook of my parental role-models and other influential role models. And they, like their kids, (me) received the same type of programing and conditioning from their trainer/parents (throw in some genetic traits) and this has all been happening FOREVER!
I suppose there is a positive and a negative aspect of this conditioning so it's not all bad or all good.
I received very intense conditioning to look down on, hate, fear, suspect: blacks, Asians, American natives, Jews, etc. and just about anything that wasn't white or didn't look or act like us! It is a miracle that I shook off much of that early, hateful/fearful, programing but it still rears it's ugly head when I am off guard. That's the terrible thing about conditioning, it just operates automatically UNLESS you take a stand against it (and those who programmed you).
I acknowledge that some of my programing was good and useful, but the racial/social stuff that my parents and their parents whole-heartedly embraced was and still is INSANE, to say the least!
God help the person who is an unwitting childhood victim of rotten parental programing (that's most of us!). And god bless anyone who has seen through their filthy parental programing and finally breaks free of it!
And god bless the child who is never given this dirty, ugly conditioning at all.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Everyone get's stereotyped and everybody does it. I hate it (I've written an article about it myself) but it's the way we are.
We stereotype people because it's the way our brain forms a perspective of a certain group - we may not know anything about the individuals but we know that in a group of particular people there are a lot of things they will have in common according to that group.
I think we stereotype because it's just our brains way of making sense of things and of people we may or may not understand.
Anyway, I have no idea if this made any sense - just a thought =)
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reader, Odds +, writes (13 September 2010):
 To a certain degree, making assumptions about the people around is the only way to get through life. If I don't know a woman, but have to get her a gift, Conan the Barbarian is not going to be my first choice (though it is an awesome one, Oldersister). Fact is, those types of girls are the minority.
Similarly, I would assume that any racial minorities out there would take offense if I used a racial slur against them; the belief that they would get offended (possibly even violent) is something I'm just going to assume unless I have reason to believe otherwise.
These generalizations are what allow us to get through life interacting with people of wildly different cultures and backgrounds. Positive or negative, they give us a frame of reference. It's impossible to treat someone as an individual until you actually know something about them. Besides, stereotypes come from somewhere. It would be foolish to assume all stereotypes are automatically untrue simply because it's politically incorrect. Each of us needs to examine our own beliefs and decide which ones are closest to the truth.
Where generalizations become bad is when we continue to believe them even in the face of evidence that one individual does not conform to it. Every rule has exceptions, every group has its differing members. This is yet another reason it's important to listen to people around us.
People have made assumptions about me based on my appearance - and, really, most of them were pretty close to the truth. The second I open my mouth, people know I'm a nerd - and, again, they're correct. I've been wrong about other people before, but they're rarely wrong about me. Maybe I'm just too transparent.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 September 2010):
 The British and their tea is not a stereotype.. that is real, we like the stuff, it helps you deal with anything in life.. and yes, we also like queuing..Some stereotypes can actually be real.. lol
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reader, lolsmileyface +, writes (13 September 2010):
i've been stereotyped because i'm mixed. people see me as hispanic, indian, or morrocan and then they are surprised to see that i'm not. my mom is black and my dad is white but some rude afro-americans came up to me at a party once and said that i'm not mixed black and white but i'm mixed african- belgian(my dad is belgian and my mom is african)as if nationality is a race. they think of africans so low that they wouldn't respect me any longer. but i'm proud tho. i'm glad with what, no who i am. and i hope that bing mixed becomes a race soon.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 September 2010):
I get stereotyped.. I'm either a nun, or I'm promiscuous woman with tons of experience. Sometimes I'm seen as dizzy and stupid, sometimes I'm seen as a bookworm who is innocent about life.. it depends on what I'm wearing or how I act..
I'm just me, and I always surprise people when they know more about me.
I try hard not to judge or stereotype, I try hard but often fail.
YO!! FOR CONAN THE BARBARIAN AND SCIENCE FICTION ... Worst is when they think all women only like girly crap and give you useless gifts. Glad that women now like computers, it was so lonely being the only woman geek around.
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