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writes:My good friend and i accidentally fell for each other while he was in a relationship with a miss 6 years younger than him. regardless of their indifferences, i knew my friend loved her and worked to keep the relationship going. we exerted hard to hold back our feelings for each other to pay respect for what he had going. but as denial months went by between us, his relationship with his girl eventually withered apart. his girl asked for her freedom which he hesitantly gave way to in hope to still save the relationship. weeks gone by, i found my friend knocking at my door, bolder to speak his heart for me while i hadn't known about his break up. to my wonder of his dauntless effort, i pushed for him to tell.and that's when i knew how he made way to give the two of us a chance. it broke my heart to know how they fell apart though inside me i knew i wanted to keep him. i knew his love for his girl and because of that i cowardly led him away from me in fear of just taking the rebound.i realize he may have made way for us and i honestly wanted to give in, but i couldn't. i feel i hurt his ego by not taking him despite his effort which i regret. im so confused, i dunno if i did the right thing of leading him away despite my wanting for him or if i had just done the dorkest thing of not grabbing the chance he made for us. Reply to this Question
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reader, popeye78  +, writes (7 February 2010):
You did the right thing, there was too much going on in his life at that time to start a relationship, you know time is a wonderful thing when it comes to matters of the heart. Give i time, maintain contact as a freind and just see how things turn out..
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (7 February 2010):
 If you didn't feel comfortable being in a relationship with him at that point then you that's not your fault.
He had just broken up with his girlfriend and he probably wasn't in the best place either.
You probably made the right decision.
Talk to him, he may understand why you made the decision. But if it wasn't right for one of you then it wouldn't have been right for either of you. That's the thing you have to remember, because otherwise neither of you would be happy in the relationship.
Good Luck x
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 Well, you would have said no to yourself if you had said yes to him. If you weren't ready/sure, fair enough. I'm sure you rejected him in a kind way. He should understand the choice that you made, have you not talked since then? I hope you managed to maintain some sort of friendship, you don't specify this. If you have changed your mind and want a relationship with him now, you might as well suggest it, or you can firstly gather from him more information before you decide if you want to give it a try or not. Supposing you can get together sometime for a talk... or who knows, to pick up from where you left off. Good luck.
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