My new wife ended up being a nightmare--how do I put this horrible marriage experience behind me?
Q. Hi everyone, well I have been here before and some very kind people have given me some very good advices. my story is very sad, it is like what it only happens in the films and I can't get over it, I think I am going mad. I married about si...
A. 26 October 2006: It is sad and really unfair when situations like this accure but we never actually know what someone is like or what they will do to us before we get involved with them.
I think sometimes you have to put things down to a bad experiance for you to b... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable to stay friends with an ex???
Q. HI I was wondering if people thinks its acceptable to stay friends with an ex boyfriend, even if you are unsure about whether he is over you? My ex finished it 6 mths ago after i made it clear i wanted marriage and kids (he is nearly 40 and ha...
A. 26 October 2006: Some people can't be friends with their ex's and some can..if your friendship is good and it's not interfering in your relationship and your boyfriend is fine with it and it isn't going to cause you any problems or upset him then you are doing ... (read in full...)
I feel he is ashamed of us because he never comes round when the kids are awake and hides the fact when he is here!!!
Q. i am going out with a guy for nearly 2 yrs i love him very much but there are times i feel he is ashamed of our relationship because i have 3 kids from an sbusive relationship he is divorced himself and has 2 kids. he never calls round in the day ...
A. 26 October 2006: It sounds like he is hiding your relationship and distancing himself from your kids maybe because he doesn't want them to get attached to him or because he can't accept them in this relationship..if he wants to be with you he should accept them as ... (read in full...)
His ex is making our life a living hell...what can we do?
Q. Hi all, I have asked for advice before. I feel i am going out of my mind. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now. We are really happy, apart from his ex. She just wont let go, even though she didnt want him. She keeps making up ...
A. 24 October 2006: If his kids are grown up I don't see why he is still supporting her financially and even if they weren't he should be supporting them not her, all the time he is allowing her to rely on him for things the more she is going to play a big part in your ... (read in full...)
Should I arrange to meet up with the ex again or will I be risking heartache?
Q. Do I arrange to see my ex? I am about to move back to the area I happily lived in for 5 years with my ex. I originally moved away when he left me because it was so sad being there without him but I actually missed my "home" as I've grown to see it. ...
A. 24 October 2006: You can't move and everytime you go out worry you'll bump into him as it could take a while to actually do so and thats a long time worrying, I would meet up with him but I wouldn't bring up the past you moved away because the breakup was so hard on ... (read in full...)
What are good romantic background music to play while making love? Any tips?
Q. when you have sex is it better to have romantic music on in the background? if it is why? and what songs would you have on?...
A. 24 October 2006: I've always found that sometimes music is good to take away the pressure of the other person or other people in the house being able to hear everything as some people can't relax completely while having sex if every noise they make can be heard.
I... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but all we seem to do is fight!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and i love him to bits, but all we do is fight and it seems like he doesnt care about me. Whenever he has a problem he wont talk to me about it he just takes his anger out on me. We have very little ...
A. 24 October 2006: You asking how you get the communcation back says it use to be there and that this is not just the type of person he is as some people can't communcate they need to walk away from the situation and take time out before coming back to face it but ... (read in full...)
Communication breakdown (long post)
Q. Yesterday morning my boyfriend calls me and He said he feels we need to take a break, or rather he needs some time to decide if he want's to be with me or not. He said his friends brought a couple girls over to his apartment and he flirted with ...
A. 24 October 2006: There really is no way of knowing whether he is being honest and really wants to work through the feelings he holds for you or whether you are being kept in background incase something else doesn't work out, and you may never know, he may have ... (read in full...)
He left and hasn't given me a satisfactory explanation
Q. i have been in a relationship for four years. We finally moved together three months ago, now he left because he said it is to much pressure for him, but diddn't really explain. He says he loves me and misses me but still hasn't said he wants to ...
A. 24 October 2006: Sometimes when a relationship comes to an end the person ending it either doesn't know the complete answer to why just something doesn't feel right nomore or they are not telling the whole truth as to spare your feelings either way we don't always ... (read in full...)
I can't stop masturbating and people are noticing
Q. hello- i am 15 years old, and this is going to sound a bit odd...but i cant stop playing with my vagina. i get the urge to just slip my fingers in, even at inapropriate times! its becoming embarassing and people ask what im doing......
A. 24 October 2006: I think when alot of people start learning to masterbate they enjoy the feeling it gives them so they continue to do it it's like a thing I'm sure alot of people go through and I'm sure there will come a time when you don't want to as much.
S... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and he's 33 but we aren't in each other's arms yet
Q. Iv'e fallen for a guy who im really sure likes me to, but for reasons apart from the age gap he can't make a move and Im to shy, plz help! x x (Im sixteen, he's thirty three.)...
A. 24 October 2006: Sorry what are the reasons that you can't be together?... (read in full...)
I want to continue this affair but don't have the strength to break it off
Q. I have a problem and i need advice. I met a man from Texas last month.He is a singer,songwriter. I live in Nashville and he has been coming here for the 12 months. Well the night i met him we had spent the night together. i then spent 2 more nights ...
A. 24 October 2006: Noone can tell you what you should or shouldn't do as only you know the answer to that question.
You have to think about what you really want out of this relationship as I'm sure you can't just carry on like this forever, once you've worked out what... (read in full...)
Unsure I love my wife, but I fancy a work colleague. What do I do?
Q. Have been married 11 years and have a son who is 9. I have recently been having feelings that I no longer love my wife or even find her attractive anymore. I have told my wife that I am unsure whether I love her or not and she pursuaded me to ...
A. 24 October 2006: If you no longer love your wife or want to be with her then you shouldn't be involved with her whether this other female returns your feelings or not, when you fall out of love with someone and realise that there no longer is a relationship there ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but I like this other guy. What should I do?
Q. Hi guys, I am 13 years old. I have a boyfriend, and there is also a guy that really likes me. I thought since I have a boyfriend I can't go with him. But later on I got used to him, and he was really nice and sweet. But in the past few days he's ...
A. 24 October 2006: You are only 13 therefore probably not ready for the committment of a relationship and nor should you be, at 13 you should be meeting new people and enjoying yourself not committing to one partner.
I would say you need to give yourself the abil... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex everything that happened with me and some guy???
Q. Should I tell my ex boyfriend, who I'm still associated with, the full details of what happened with me and some guy he knows? I met this guy at a local social event and we hit it off, he was a real gentleman, giving me his jacket because I was cold ...
A. 24 October 2006: If your no longer in love with each other why is there a chance of you getting back together? surely you would both be wanting to move on from the relationship?
Maybe you both hold a habit of being committed to each other therefore he still acts... (read in full...)
I like this girl and I'll be seeing her at my mates birthday what do I do???
Q. i fancy dis 14yr old gurl frm my school. i'm 16. we met on my mates birthday. she's been really nice to me and continues to talk to me at school although we only met for 3hours! my mate which is also her friend asked her if she is single. and yes ...
A. 24 October 2006: Once your at the party and abit into the night you could go over to her and strike up a conversation with her get to know the things she likes and enjoys doing seeing what interests you both share with possibly abit of light flirting and see how she ... (read in full...)
While we was friends and getting to know each other I was sleeping with my ex...do I tell my current boyfriend???
Q. Hi, Im a 22 year old who is in a good relationship with a 36 year old. age gap aside......... before we got together we were friends for a whole year. we shared a bed occasionally and sometimes got frisky but didnt have sex. meanwhile i was ...
A. 24 October 2006: I don't see why you should come forward with this information, like you said he says he sees you two as getting together after the last time you slept with your ex so before that time you was a single girl sharing the company of your now boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Is she really in love with me or am I losing her???
Q. my girlfriend has changed her mind on me saying that she needs a break,but i still love her and want her back.Is she genuinely in love with me or am losing her....
A. 24 October 2006: She could really just need a break or it could be her way of slowly easing out of the relationship.
I would give her time and leave her be if she loves you she will come back to you make sure you tell her how you really feel about her first as to n... (read in full...)
I want to know if we will ever get back together!!!
Q. I just returned from my ex boyfriend's house where I spent the weekend. We have been broken up now for 3 months and when I was there this weekend he was staring into my eyes and saying that he thought I was beautiful inside and out. I told him ...
A. 24 October 2006: This is a tough one as noone really can know what is going on inside his head, he could well be telling you the truth and waiting til he has got help is a great thing to do as you not drag you down with him but he could also not want to lose you ... (read in full...)
I get talked into things easily! How do I stop being a push over?
Q. How do i stop being a push over? I have been seeing a guy for 4 months and things are going steadily down hill. He comes to see me and we always end up having a good time, then he stays over, i don't want him too but he gets all moody and starts ...
A. 24 October 2006: I am a push over aswell, I always give 100% into a relationship and making that person happy is what makes me happy but in most times it's also what ends up making me unhappy because I get used or played for a fool when all I ever did was love that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps telling me about a girl that wants to have sex with him and another with a crush on him...he's quite ugly so I don't see how they would!!!
Q. hi im 14 and going out with this 15 year old boy. we went out to the cinema the other day on out first date and he kept telling me stuff about other girls. he said that this girl on msn asked him to have sex with her. why did he tell me this? im...
A. 24 October 2006: If he isn't that good looking and aware of it then maybe he is trying the jealousy thing you mentioned.
My ex was the worse one for it he would always be telling me about girls giving him their number and chatting him up and it was always for a jeal... (read in full...)
Can't read the signs here...does this guy really like me?
Q. Here's the problem, i have never really been good at reading the signs that boys chuck at us! So can sum1 help me out, he keeps looking at me when he thinks im not looking and has tried to catch my eye when there was about 3 of us in the room.(me, ...
A. 24 October 2006: I would say he does like you but maybe a little shy or worried that you don't see him the same way as he sees you.
Try talking to him and a little bit of flirting to see if he reacts to this.
Good luck :o)... (read in full...)
Are we or aren't we ...together? He acts like we are but says "No we aren't". I'm confused!
Q. Dear Cupids, Been seeing a guy for nearly two months, I am 25 him 29. We have been getting on really well, sex is good, we have a laugh together and there doesn't seem to be any awkwardness. We have been seeing each other a couple of ti...
A. 24 October 2006: It does sound like you are together as a couple by everything you have said but maybe you should just continue to go with the way things are at the moment and give it the time to get to that point, it's only been 2 months and maybe he is wanting to ... (read in full...)
Long distance romance-I'm annoyed because I make all the travel plans and huge efforts...he doesn't! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone... long distance relationship advice please???? My boyfriend and I see each other every two weeks - we live in different countries. We have been doing this for two years. I always feel like I have to be the person who organises w...
A. 24 October 2006: Sometimes one person in the relationship kinda takes over the main role to be the one that makes the plans in the relationship and when this happens the other person gets lazy as the job is being done for them, or it could just be he is one of those ... (read in full...)
I loved him but left him because I have fallen for someone else! Is it normal to do this?
Q. I've been in a relationship for the past two years and nine months. I still love him, but I had to break up with him recently because I have fallen for someone else. I'm not certain if I truly want to be with this new guy or not, but I couldn't stay ...
A. 24 October 2006: I think before you do anything you need to take some time out to work through your own head and work through your feelings for both your boyfriend and this new guy, love is never made to be simple even though we all wish it was.
If you got back with... (read in full...)
Do I follow the girl of my dreams in hopes that it won't become a nightmare?
Q. i need some help trying to figure out what exactly is going on in my relationship with this girl. we've been friends for a good while now, but have always had a weird connection with each other, but never got together because we both had ties to ...
A. 24 October 2006: No-one can predict what the future holds and we can't see how any situation will pan out in years to come.
If it was me I couldn't live with the what if's and I would have to give this friendship a chance at becoming something special if it does... (read in full...)
Should I dump this guy because he is a virgin?
Q. i'm 18 and i'm seing a guy who JUST turned 18 today. He's still a virgin but i've already had 3 partners and done other things with other guys. He doesn't know much about sex and I feel so awekard because my last boyfriend has been with 7 other ...
A. 24 October 2006: If your not really into him then you shouldn't really be the one to take his virginity, I don't know about anyone else but I still think someone virginity is a special thing and should be taken in a loving relationship something shared together.
Y... (read in full...)
My relationship with my ex has caused me to become cyncial and mistrustful! Is this normal and will I get over this?
Q. i need some advice i just broke up with my boyfriend he's being very depressed and changed alot when he dumped me it was like we didnt even know each other now thats fine ive accepted its over hes not the person i wanted to be with anymore. basica...
A. 23 October 2006: I've been in the same situation as I think most probably have at some point, you really don't want to go into the next thing with your eyes closed but you don't want to take your previous baggage in with you so the next person suffers for what the ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and don't like hugging anyone except the guy I have a crush on! Why am I this way?
Q. hi im a 15 year old and first question: all my mates at school hug ppl. basically if they see their boy mates they hug them to say hello. my boy mates hug me sometimes to say hello to me as well but i just dont really like it. i mean i dont min...
A. 23 October 2006: some people just aren't touchy feely with their friends only with their partners so there is nothing wrong with you just not something that you enjoy doing doesn't make it wrong your just you.
On most occasions people that like someone else drop... (read in full...)
Invited to two parties! Which one do I choose?
Q. hey, about 2 or 3 weeks ago i was invited to a girls halloween party and i said i would go... but yesterday i found out that my best friend was having a party on the same day for his birthday. what should i do?... im going to have to pick one but i ...
A. 23 October 2006: If he is your best friend I would say your loyalties lie with him and you should go to his party, a birthday party is more important than a halloween party and I'm sure if it was the other way round you would expect your friend to pick your birthday ... (read in full...)
Re: reply to feedback from my previous question given!
Q. Toria - I remember when i got home, cos i recall getting a cab back home that night early hours of the morning. And no i didn't log on to the internet when i got back either, i went to bed soon after getting home. .....Trying to think back over the ...
A. 23 October 2006: That picture he has got doesn't have to really be him it could just be one he found as to have a picture showing, when it comes to the internet you never know who you are really talking to and what they really want from you not only that sometimes ... (read in full...)
In responce to a reply from my question!!
Q. For the female reader 'Toria' who replied to my question yes i have seen a picture of him with sun glasses on in the pic with his profile. And no i dont have a picture with my profile online. I replied to his message asking him a couple of qu's eg; ...
A. 23 October 2006: I don't understand if you haven't a picture and he doesn't have anyway of knowing this was you and your a member to the site how he knows who you are.
Like I said by maybe it's a friend messing around but if it is they really need to stop as this... (read in full...)
I left him and now I regret what happened...but he won't have me back! What can I do?
Q. I have a problem that I hope some of you can help with. I have been seeing a guy for over a year and a half now. We went through alot together, job changes, travelling, graduations etc, and loved each other dearly. About 5 weeks ago, I told him that ...
A. 23 October 2006: There really isn't alot you can do if he won't give you the chance to prove to him that you won't do it again and do you 100% know you won't do it again?
You have to let him go, if he really loves you and wants to be with you he will come back but ... (read in full...)
I get overly emotional after we spend time together!!!
Q. Hi, This is probably nothing something silly, but whenever i stay at my boyfriends house or have an intense, intimate evening/day with him. I cant help getting emotional. For example last night I was really close to him and I just burst into tea...
A. 23 October 2006: Long distance relationships really do pull on our emotions as we aren't with them as much or we know when the time spent together is over that it is going to be awhile before we see them again.
Just enjoy the time spent together, and when that time... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be with me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me!!!
Q. I want to get back with my ex boyfriend (lets call him S). We're good friends and we have sex, but he's made it clear that he want's to be single for a while, and doesn't know for how long. He wanted me to be exclusive to him because he got ...
A. 23 October 2006: Don't be as stupid as I was, I stayed faithful to my ex for a year and half with our relationship on and off he hated any other man coming near me and when they did he showed he cared about me and reeled me back on in giving it all the I love you ... (read in full...)
I'm eating loads but losing weight and my hair is falling out more than normal!!!
Q. I need help.. I have no idea what to do... I have notice that I have lost a lot of weight even though I'm still eating lots? My hair is also falling out- more than normal... but I'm only 17 years of age... what’s going? I'm scared! xx ...
A. 23 October 2006: Go see your doctor, I was losing weight and losing hair and it turned out I had an underactive thyroid and when it started again it was due to the thyroid levels being out and needing to change my tablets to something higher or lower can't remember ... (read in full...)
I went out with some friends now I'm getting emails from a guy that says he danced with me that night!!!!
Q. I sometimes go out clubbing on a friday /saturday night with 1 of my friends, but anyway i recieved an email back a few days ago and it said " i danced with u in town one night" from a male from the singles who click site. And i dont know this ...
A. 23 October 2006: Have you seen a picture of him to know for sure that you don't know him?
I would be very careful this is the internet after all he may well be a friend messing around for a laugh but he could also seen the town you live in and a picture of you and ... (read in full...)
I need some tips on what he is wanting me to do for him!!
Q. hi! my husband prefers to have handjobs without me retracting his foreskin i am not sure how to do this and he wants to ejaculate over my breasts. i want to do this for him but how?...
A. 23 October 2006: I agree, talk to him and ask him how he wants it done and get him to show you.
With the ejaculating over your breasts there really isn't alot you can do apart from supply the breasts.
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I've resenting found out he has registered on a site to meet a shemale!!!
Q. I have been married for 3 years and have two young children. We have a very happy marriage and I know that my husband loves me however i have recently discovered that he has been registering on certain websites in order to meet a 'shemale'. Having ...
A. 23 October 2006: You need to talk to him and possibly tell him about your snooping as you need to get to the bottom of this, I have a friend who realised only a year ago that he holds an attraction towards shemales and found it very hard to admit the fact to anyone ... (read in full...)
My husband works away and he's just informed me that he is having an affair!!!
Q. Hi my husband of 11 years has just informed me he is having an affair with a woman where he works, he works out of the country and has done for the last 2 and half years, he is away for 6 weeks at a time and only home for 2 weeks. I think the affair ...
A. 23 October 2006: Do you really want him back after knowing he so easily cheated on you? infact more than cheated on you once he is actually having an affair!!
If you want to win him back try thinking about the things that got him hooked in the beginning of your rela... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 22 October 2006: I'm single and I think it's a great idea although it does have it's good and bad points.. it's a great idea for those that are here on a regular basis and wanting to meet new people whether for friendship or love, people that aren't suffering ... (read in full...)
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