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writes: Hi everyone, well I have been here before and some very kind people have given me some very good advices. my story is very sad, it is like what it only happens in the films and I can't get over it, I think I am going mad.I married about six months ago, we had our problem even before but I thought she will change for better, but she didn't, she wanted everything her way and that was the only way. I was never appreciated in this relationship and everything I was doing it was my pure duty in her eyes and never was enough. This marriage was going no where and I could see it but didn't want to beleive it. It was all about her and only her.I started standing up my grounds, but then she insulted all my family and friends, and everything about me, everyday, and I honesty didn't know what was going on, but in fact all was part of deveil plan that she had in mind and well calculated, one night she tried so hard to make me so angry by shouting and swering at my family, she even physically pushed me, and I honestly did nothing but to listen and stayed calm, she then called the police, and acused me of hitting her!!, I never harm anyone on my life. Next I knew she went to the court and based so much lies got injuction against me!!! do you beleive it? I got thrown out from my own home based on the lies of this person, it has made me mad to see the justice system can do this to anyone. I am fighting back, but now I prefer to be away from her, I have done nothing wrong, but the whole experience has devestated me, and she was planning all of that as from one month ago, she had a second plan in her life, either to be with someone else or she used me enough, and now it was a time to move on.The problem which might sound crazy, is I really loved her, I cared for her, and I did everything in my power to comfort her, and I asking how can someone do this to me after all the love and care I put in to this relationship?? It has put a big question mark in my mind, and I just feel so foul that I married her in the first place.I have such a mix feelings, inside me, hate, love, anger, stunned, devestated, and cheated...I consider myself as someone who is honest, caring, calm, and respect people for who they are, in some way I am saying should I really fight back and teach her a leason legally of course to not to do this to anyone else (but this will cost a lot money and time) on the other hand I am saying is it worth it? and why should i? but also I am saying these are all dream and it can't be happening to me? I am also saying how about your principle, you should not let her walk over you, base on lies. what happen to me is total injustice.I just need to get some help and advice, to get over this, I just need motivation to put this behind me.please give me your inputs and advice, I will appreciate it.Thanks very much for your time
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 It is sad and really unfair when situations like this accure but we never actually know what someone is like or what they will do to us before we get involved with them.
I think sometimes you have to put things down to a bad experiance for you to be able to move on as trying to fight back is a long process where no ability to move on from as your time and mind is filled with what you can do next to win the fight.
If the house is in your name you have the right to fight to get that back, if it's in both your names you have the right to get your share out of it this and should be done the correct way and through the courts as this woman doesn't sound in anyway reasonable and make sure your name isn't left on anything in her possesion as you don't want to be paying for something she is benefiting from or her stop paying something that will then become your debt if it's something in your name and you want it back then you have the right to do so.
I know it's hard when you really love someone and they do everything in their power to strip you of everything you want and love but you need to let go of what she put you through as you are better off without her and need to be with someone that can love you back and want what you want from a relationship be cautious in the future but at the same time tell yourself that not everyone is like this or do things like this as there are people out there that are like you and just love without another agenda.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Ok sweetness,
I can tell this woman has really shaken your world up.
But I think it is important that you do fight her in the courts if you have the strength and the inclination, but if you only want to do it as a form of revenge dont bother.
Some people arent worth our time and it sounds like this minipulating schemer is one of them!.
Unless you have left a lot of your possesions behind and want to get them back then I would suggest that you keep well away from this woman and think yourself lucky to have got away before she really did you in!.
Sometimes we feel love in the strangest of situations and regardless of all the bad things people do to us we still see the love.
But I think you have learnt your lesson the tough way, dont be so trusting of people, really get to know them before you commit to a loving relationship. your wellbeing and health is the only thing that you have full control over in this world, so you need to look out for number one before you can meet your Number 2!.
Ok babes keep on trucking and you know whats best for you so look after yourself and start enjoying your life.
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