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reader, hyt  +, writes (22 December 2012):
Ignore him. You broke it off with him because he`s full of shit and he still is full of shit. Do not let anyone insult you.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (22 December 2012):
 I should also add that I was in a relationship like yours. For 4 years this dating site shit went on. He also put his photo up on the dating sites that he`d denied being on, after we broke up over it. Nothing different about him or any other dating site fanatics you read about on here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): You also know he was sexting women from these dating sites. There`s probably lots more that you never found out too. It shows the true quality of people on those dating sites really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): You kicked his ass to the ground for going on dating sites and lying about it. He now goes back to the dating site, and without any shame or embarrassment he shows his face to the world. He begs you to go back!! He is not what you would call the sharpest tool in the shed is he? Tell him, no thanks, if you ever want a guy off a dating site you will join one.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (21 December 2012):
If you make the mistake (accidentally on purpose) of joining a dating site whilst in a relationship, then broke up because of it. What would you do to win your ex and his trust back? Would you join it again and put your photo on? Of course you wouldnt!!.. His behavior is telling you that he is not going to quit dating sites. It is not negotiable.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (20 December 2012):
Whether he wants you back or not is of not important. He will be on dating sites regardless. His behavior has told you that.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 December 2012):
 I doubt he will change. He wants you back because it's nice to have a fall-back girl while looking for greener grass.
The fact that he flat out told you, this is none of your business because we aren't together kinda shows his attitude, it certainly doesn't say I WILL drop dating sites for you.
Drop the dude 100% let him go out there and "think" he can find a better girl.. His loss.. YOU at least can definitely find a better guy.
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (20 December 2012):
If he thinks there`s nothing wrong with being on dating sites when he is with you, then he wont think there`s anything wrong when he`s not. I think him saying he was on one for a joke is just trying to pull the wool over your eyes. He is a joke. Leave him on his dating site. He`ll be on it this time next year too.
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reader, somewhere_between +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Will he change? Yes he will change dating sites if the old one gets boring or a new one comes out.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 December 2012):
 No he won't change. And yes you CAN argue with him having his profile up, if he really wanted you back, he wouldn't be on there! Say farewell and good riddance. Let him have his dating sites.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (20 December 2012):
He asking bc he cant get easy sex anywhere else at the moment. That will change again at some point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): He is asking you to get back because no one else will have him. Dating sites are not exactly for people in demand are they? Why else would he be on one if he didnt need them? Tell him you are better than that. Do not even entertain any thoughts about going back to him. He is a loser.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (20 December 2012):
 He's a piece of garbage. Don't waster your time on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): He is full of shit. Do not think too much about anything he says or does.
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reader, Byron Temple  +, writes (20 December 2012):
Why should he change? If he was serious about getting back with you, then now would be the time he would make an effort to change. He hasnt. He doesnt even seem to think he did anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): I am male and his behaviour is not exlusive to males. Dont even think about getting back with him.
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reader, SumGuy +, writes (20 December 2012):
I cannot answer for him personally. To me it sounds like he wants you back because he isnt getting the success he had hoped for from the dating sites. Whatever it is, you would be mad to even think about going back to him. Will he change? You dumped him and he`s still doing the same, so that should answer your question.
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reader, Warm-Inspire +, writes (20 December 2012):
 It seems as if hes trying to use some sort of reverse physchology on you. Hes trying to make a statement to you that hes made himself available to other women on a dating website, probably in some attempt to make you panic and/or change your mind about the relationship before someone else shows an interest in him.
"Will he change?"
The first step to changing such behaviour is admittance to what you've done wrong and understanding why it happened. If hes still denying everything, then he probably won't change, since in his opinion, ("It was a joke") he didn't do anything wrong.
Until he can come clean with you, it leaves your trust on edge, so unless you can provide evidence to him about his behaviour, hes going to deny it until the end.
Good luck
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (20 December 2012):
 No he will probably never change. Do not even think about going back to him.
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