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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:The other day me and my gf hung out and we had intercourse. it was an amazing time but the problem is that i couldn't bring her to orgasm by oral or my fingers. I am only able to bring her to orgasm by penetration and it has to be for a long period of time as well. I have pre-mature ejaculation so that is hard for me. In the past I have been able to make her orgasm with oral and my fingers but lately it hasn't been happening. I try new things all the time but i think i don't have the skills for it. Plus, my size is around 4 inches which is fairly small. I have premature ejaculation, a small penis in my opinion, and can't make her orgasm with oral or my fingers anymore. I'm starting to feel as though im just not good at sex and its really hurting my pride.i need help in what to do. i went to multiple sites on how to use different techniques for foreplay and i have went to multiple sites on PE but nothing has changed so far. i need help. Thank You
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (21 December 2012):
You are rushing her much too much. And also causing you both unnecessary stress. Try relaxing and more gentle time together, just gently carressing if she likes it. You're learning that women don't just orgasm to order, no matter how much you rub it. There is a need to be in the mood and that is a difficult thing to come to terms with.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (21 December 2012):
My man, you are 16. Im surprised you can find your zipper at that age, never mind know the details of a womans orgasm.Experience - its your best teacher.
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reader, Warm-Inspire  +, writes (21 December 2012):
 First of all, going on websites to check the solution to your problem is complete pants.You need to discover and learn what things your girlfriend likes as an individual, websites can't tell you that.The best way to learn is to let her show and guide you through what feels good to her.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): You need to stop focusing on her orgasm and making that the end goal. Instead focus on how she is feeling and invite her to feel free to take over and bring herself to orgasm if she wants to have one there and then while you help her.
You're just making yourself unhappy and insecure and sooner or later you will make her feel pressured to fake it for your benefit so you wont be upset. If she cant make herself be dishonest she will feel upset that you're unhappy with her and are killing all the joy of the moment. That will turn sex into a dreaded "moment of reckoning " type of activity for her and you where each of you feel you have to perform and that the other will be upset if she doesnt orgasm. That will make it even harder for her to enjoy sex with you and hen you will feel even more worthless. And then you will resent each other and break up
So you need to stop this right now and not make it a problem to begin with.
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