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writes:What is the true meaning of marriage? My wife wants us to remain married, but i cant have sex with her. I can touch her, but i can only get a kiss from her every once in a while. She left my for her lover and now is single and not dating. She said she wants me to stay loyal to her, and not get serious with some one else.She does not want to get divorced. She does not want me to marry again. Yet she does not want to make love to her either. What should i do ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2012):
 who cares what she wants.
I agree what you should do is get a divorce.
AuntyEm is right!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (21 December 2012):
I don't think I've ever been able to say this without a shadow of doubt, but there's a first time fore everything: DIVORCE HER IMMEDIATELY! Why in the world do you need anyone to say that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): "What is the true meaning of marriage? "You should have thought about this before you got married.It sounds like your wife wants to keep you around for security (maybe financial security or because she's afraid to be 'alone' in the house) while waiting for her lover to become available to marry her then she'll probably divorce you. She wants to wait until conditions are right for her to divorce you comfortably. "She does not want to get divorced. She does not want me to marry again. Yet she does not want to make love to her either. What should i do ?"What you should do is decide if you can be happy living like this for the rest of your life. If yes, then go ahead. If not, then you need to initiate divorce proceedings no matter what reason she gives for not wanting to divorce. Ignore them, override them. Most divorces are unilateral decisions, usually only one spouse wants the divorce and the other doesn't. You don't wait for your spouse to agree to it, marriage should be a democratic decision but divorce usually isn't because it happens as a result of dysfunctionality and dysfunctional relationships can't reach consensus. you need to just do it and she will just have to live with it and figure out on her own how to deal with it, which is not your problem.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (20 December 2012):
Cant add more than AuntyEm. You relationship is over, you need to make it official so you can be with someone who makes you happy.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Time to get divorced. There is no saving that marriage. Put all of your money into a hidden place that's not paying for her lover and her's dates. She's using you for whatever she thinks you can continue to provide her. Put everything you have into accounts far, far away, and then get the hell out...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Good grief!!! You need a divorce lawyer stat!!!
She left you, she was adulterous, She denied you your conjugal rights...She is HISTORY!!
Now she wants to dictate what you do with your life and wants you hanging around like a spare part????
Forget her!!!
What do YOU want?????
You are young, you have a LOT of life left...Don't you think it might be nice for you to meet someone else who will love you and care about you and be with you???
For pete's sake do yourself a HUGE (I wish I could make that bigger)FAVOUR and DIVORCE the selfish disrespectful cheating cow and go get yourself a life worth living.
I am rooting for you!!!!
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