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*angin
writes:What if you see this girl and you like her because of her drop-dead beauty, all the guys just keep staring at her from afar and then she added you on fb. She steals glances at you from time to time and you think she likes you. What's your reaction? Is it turning you off? Will you take her feelings seriously or just feel good about yourself? Will you flirt with her or try to communicate with her? Will you start a relationship with her?The girl is a hottie but shy and not sociable. She's simple and doesn't want to stand out, but she's always in the spot light. Since she's not sociable, you often see her alone or with her small group of friends...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): My advice to the girl would be to become more open minded, get a personality and not expect the world to revolve around how she/people in general look.
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reader, Hangin +, writes (19 December 2012):
Hangin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe was given a chance to be a commercial model but she refused since she has low self esteem. The only good thing she can tell of herself is that she's pretty. :( Of course she never tell that to people... Thanks for the answers... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): I think the girl you're describing sounds like an unemployed actress...I only hope for your benefit that you aren't talking about yourself.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (18 December 2012):
SVC - be a bit careful. You're generalizing quite a bit in your post. The inference that a man "worth anything" will want the "average girl with a great mind" takes quite a bit of poetic license.
First, I dont think a man's worth comes down to if he is attracted to a beautiful woman or not. There are plenty of very good guys who have very attractive wives.
Second, I dont think a womans beauty is not mutually exclusive with any other attribute she has. Ergo, there are more than a few beautiful women out there who are also intelligent, kind and personable as well. Not all good looking women are bitches and not all less attractive women are kind.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 December 2012):
 Most men will admire very attractive women from afar. If they are shy they will be perceived as stuck up and not approached.
and i agree with iAmHereToHelpYou. If you are talking about yourself it's clear why you are alone... you come across as full of yourself and think you are so hot that men will just want you for your looks.
Problem is men worth anything want a woman with substance in the mind and personality department and will bypass snooty stuck up pretty girls and go for the average girl with a great mind and a good personality before they have a serious relationship with a girl that's all fluff and looks but has no substance.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 December 2012):
True story - When I was in college, I was visiting my friend who was going to grad school at UNC Chapel Hill. Anyway, we were out at a bar, and walks in this complete knockout w a guy who looked like he starred in Revenge of the Nerds. I see him kiss her and walk to the bar, so my curiosity got the best of me. I walked over to her, made a little small talk, just came out with it. I simply asked her - "Dont take this the wrong way, but you are one of the most beautiful women Ive seen on this campus - please tell me what are you doing with this guy?" Her answer to me is one I will never forget - she blushed and said simply - "He was the only one who asked."From that moment on, I have never ever ever resisted approaching any woman because of excessive beauty. In fact, most 10's will appreciate your bravado and confidence. I have never regretted that decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2012): Personally, looks don't make the decision for me, its personality that does. So if I was in that situation I may look at her and think "She's quite appealing to the eye" but I wouldn't just fall to my knees in love with her because she could be bad news in the personality department.
I knew a girl once, she was so attractive to the eye but I noticed she never had any friends. Only when I got to know her better I realised its because she was an extreme attention seeker. She would befriend people (guys) not because she was genuinely interested in them, but because she used them for an ego boost, when she's bored with a particular guys attention, she will forget about him and move onto the next.
I'm not saying this is the case with this individual in question, but If its hard to understand why a person could be so physically and stunningly attractive, but unpopular at the same time, Its safe to say there's a good chance they're missing something in the personality department.
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