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writes:I have a very low self esteem. I don't know what to do. I admit that some guys have a crush on me but no one makes the first move(no suitors). I'm often being teased in class with some guys but I just make a poker face because I know it's just for fun. Why is it always like that? Am I not approachable? Am I too reserved and simple? Is it because I have a low self esteem? I always tell my friends I never had a relationship and they don't want to believe me. *sigh* I just want people to accept me the way I am, not sociable, simple, reserve, few but loving friends. BUT I think being me sucks. Some girls envy me, I want to tell them they shouldn't, if they only knew my real situation, that no one makes the first move (no one courts me)... Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): I have a low self esteem: I admit some guys have a crush on me.
I have a low self esteem: Some girls envy me.
I have a low self esteem: When I get teased by boys, I know it's just for fun.
Your self esteem sounds JUST FINE.
Are guys turned off by low self esteem? Probably no less or more than they are turned off by too high of a self esteem. But every guy is different. I am sure eventually you will meet someone who likes you just the way you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): I suffer from low self esteem and yes most guys dont like it, especially if it affects you in the bedroom. but there are a few that Dont mind. Luckily ive found a guy that says he loves me, even for the issues I have with my body and my shyness and because of that hes made me comfortable to be with him and now I dont have insecuities around him and am more confident in the bedroom with him. Yes I still have the insecurities but because he supported me I dont have them around him and thats what guys care about
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): Yes having low self esteem is a huge turn off for guys how can you truly love someone if they don't even like themselves? The only guys who really bother with women like that have their own mental issues like white knight syndrome or they see the woman as one vulnerable enough to be used easily.
The problem with women with low self esteem is they are a damn chore to date. They're never happy, always complaining and that makes us feel like crap because we can't make them happy and believe it or not we guys generally need to know that we can make our woman happy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 December 2012):
 I have to say that someone with low self esteem is very unattractive to me no matter how attractive they are physically.
Self-esteem and confidence are sexy
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 December 2012):
Low self esteem is not attractive in anyone. Its especially detrimental to men, but not great for women either.
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