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anonymous
writes: Hi all.I love this guy totally but he's married, so am I. Been trying to stop seeing each other for years.We been together 9yrs now. Each time we fail and whenever we do, we desire each other more and get closer. We have great fun, time and laughter together. We don't talk about spouses or their weaknesses maybe strengths, we just concentrate on each other. Any advice to break this? We know what we do is wrong but feels so right for us.
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reader, pieceacake  +, writes (18 August 2015):
what happened? did everything work out in the end, did you find happiness?
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reader, Marti +, writes (1 January 2013):
Your spouses dont deserve to be treated like this, you are making fools of them both....I bet he wont confess to his partner and leave her for you though, you're just his plaything.....and if she finds out and kicks him in to touch...you clearly wont be enough for him....he obviously needs 2 sex partners at a time.......it'll all end in tears. ...remember...karma kicks ass!....
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (28 December 2012):
Nine years? Sorry, but given your age, it seems like this has been going on since the day you were married, and hence its WAY past "breaking off" or any type of reconciliation.
Admit to your husband what you've been doing and let him go. Encourage the other cheater to do the same, then you two can be together. I can tell right away the two of you deserve each other.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): you obviously don't love your spouses that much if you're OK with cheating on them for so many years.
And you obviously really want to be together because your affair has lasted longer than most relationships.
why don't you two divorce your spouses and be with each other openly? although, it's possible that once you are together for real it won't be as intense because there won't be as much angst over not being able to be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): I know you are probably thinking these answers are really unreasonable because I think they are. I am currently going through an affair that has ended and I'm finding it to be very difficult.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (27 December 2012):
Just switch husbands and wives. You've been cheating on your husband for 9 years and he doesn't see that? Maybe you should have a talk with your husband, maybe he's doing the same thing you're doing.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 December 2012):
 9 years? You guys must be very ingenious. If you do ever divorce the old ball and chains, you could get a job with the CIA or Interpol or whatever. Just curious, do you guys EVER think about your spouses?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2012):
 why not divorce your spouses and marry each other?
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