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writes:My family is kinda well off but my friends think that because were well off I'm spoiled and it's really hurtful to hear them talking about me behind my back and saying things that aren't true what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 these people are your friends? honey come on, friends don't call you names behind your back, and they dont care wat your background is or how much money your family have. if you want to stay friends with these people, talk to them and tell them that you really dont appreciate being talked about behind your back, do you do that to them? tell them to grow up and stop acting so pretentious. dont let them get away with this, also hun they are probably jealous!!! good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): These are not true friends, true friends, never diss their mates, ever. I have friends that i went to school with and they are still looking out for me, wishing that i would win on the lotto etc. You need to get rid of these and make some new ones, ones that really like you for who you are and dont diss you.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 You need new friends. Time to ditch these two-faced creeps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Friends? These aren't friends, dear. I think you should be seeking a new social group. These people who talk behind your back are gossiping about you. Gossip is gloating, and it's cruel. They tear others down to feel superior. These are ugly, empty moments for these people you call friends. Really think about hanging out with other people who view life in a happier way and like to do honest, caring efforts for others. Learn to assess and evaluate people who are good for your life...start doing that now. It's a skill many of us acquire through life experiences and growing. This is one of those experiences for you. I think people who gossip become basically 'nothing' by gloating about other people's lives., be it good or bad. Good luck sweety and be strong...don't put up with this.
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Ignore them. They're not really friends if they put you down and talk behind your back. They're probably jealous because they don't have all the things you have, and that's nothing to be ashamed of. You should be proud that your parents have established a financially sound life for you. If they're too immature to accept you for who you are and what you have then you don't need those kind of friends. Get you some new ones who appreciate you for who you are. Don't let them break you down girl! God bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): I agree with LJ001. I had a friend who talked badly about another friend of mine, and we all just shuned her. And it worked. Soon she came back asking what t=she did wrong and then to beg for forgivness. But she was just mean and never got anything through that thick skull. If I were you I would either shun them for a while or talk to them; the talking thing has never worked for me but you're you, so it could work for you. I think they just want you feel bad, most teens want others to feel bad to make them feel good. So you could also pretend it doesn't bother you at all, and maybe they'll stop. However, in this case talking could be better but you may end up losing the friends you have. But then again if they talk badly about you, do you really want them as your friends [sounds kinda old and worn-out, but it's true]? So talk, shun, or pretend it doesn't bother you. Those would be my options, and I would probably do the last one now that I think about it better. But that's my advice, it's there if you need it, it's worked for me, and i wish you luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): You could try getting up all together, and when everyones there, tell them that its not a nice feeling when you feel like everyones talking lies about you. They're your friends, you should be able to talk to them and they shouldnt be mean to you. Dont let them get away with this ok honey, good luck.
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