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writes:My boyfriend cheated on me three times. Twice in the first month, and then the third time was in the third month. We've talked about it all and it's been 8 months, and I still feel bad. He's a lovely boyfriend and I know he hasn't done it since, but I can't leave the past. It gets me so down because I wonder how he could do it three times when he knew it was my biggest fear. What should I do? leave him? or can anyone give me advice to leave it all in the past? thank you
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Nope~ THREE TIMES? This guy is not worth it and has not shown respect to you and the relationship you are in. Get out of that. Find a MATURE man who doesnt want to do any harm to you mentally, physically or spiritually. A person who cheats feels they wont get caught, that they will be the one to get away with it and most likely themselves have trust issues. Do be involved with that. There are too many good and honest men who want to cherish a woman he is with not be with other women getting his kicks.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (20 February 2008):
 If you had only known eachother a couple days was a committed relationship established? Because if not, then technically that's not cheating. It's not good by any means, but it's not cheating unless there was some kind of relationship/committment established. If he was confused about who he wanted to be with then he shouldn't have made any kind of committment to you. It's your call sweety. Keep in mind 16 is young and I have yet to know 1 16 year old boy who has been faithful and married his highschool sweetheart. I'm NOT saying that it's not possible, I'm just saying I don't know of any. He's already cheated, you need to decide if it's worth salvaging the relationship. Good Luck!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 three times is alot of times to 'make a mistake', i know its been a while and he hasnt done it, but its still something that would be very hard to get over. after all he did disrespect you more than once. yeah maybe he has changed, but if you cant get over it, then i suggest you try and move on. there is no point on staying with somone you cant trust and you cant forgive and forget. it just goes to show wat type of person he is, wats to say he wont do it again? if he cant do it 3 times, then why cant he do it more times? you deserve more than this hun, good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): hey, i found out each time from someone else. his ex, he had sex with told me. and she told me he kissed someone too. and then his friend told me about the third girl.hes only 16, and his ex situation was because he was confused about who he wanted to be with. we'd only known each other a couple of days
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reader, Serinity +, writes (20 February 2008):
It's disrespectful and degrading, why should you get over it? There are so many red flags here sweetie. First of all he knew it was a fear of yours yet he still did it, not just once or twice, but three times. 2nd of all by doing so he's disrupted the whole trust factor. Did he voluntarily tell you or did you find out from another source? If he didn't tell you then he probably would have taken it to his grave if someone else hadn't told you. Can you honestly ever trust him again?
If it were me, I'd leave him for sure, in fact I would have done it a long time ago. But I know it's easier said then done. If you feel that you can forgive him and trust that he'll never do it again, then kudos to you. But I think the answer is obvious if you're still contimplating the matter. There are men out there who respect women enough not to cheat on them. Good luck and God bless!
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reader, hello1 +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Three times is alot...personally I dont think I be able to get over that many betrayals, it just shows what type of person he is. But he may of changed BUT can you get over it? some people can't
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