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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years. we have a 5 month old child together a he has custody of my other daughter. He has issues with intimacy and it has taken a toll on my emotions and the way i act towards him sometimes. I have never been with anyone like him before and love him with all my heart but i need and long for intimacy.I met a man who knows my situation and offers me things like body massages, foot rubs, cuddling and foreplay among other things, stuff i can never get my man to do. he doesnt even want to have sex, he just loves to please.Do i take the man up on his offer to ease the tension between me and my man? What do I do?
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reader, Geeo  +, writes (7 February 2008):
I'm sorry but it's an obvious NO you say you love your partner and the father of your 5 month old daughter so why are you even asking this question.
If you have problems with the lack of no intimacy then talk to your partner tell him how your feeling just be honest and maybe work something out "COMPROMISE"
(Can you let me know if this advice is any good it's the first question I've given advice to thanks.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): I think you really need to work out what you are looking for. How could you consider this appropriate???????
You have a 5 month old baby and another child, which I think you mean is not your current partners, but he is a stepfather?. But you want sex or foreplay with a "man, who knows of your situation", do you mean he is happy to cheat with you? That type of man. And you love your man but need intimacy.
When you look back over your post, I think your've got some problems. Is it possible that as your baby is only 5 months old, your partner has lost a bit of desire due to your pregnancy and giving birth? Possible. What have you done to discuss or resolve his lack of sexual desire. Does he not want to get you pregnant again so soon ans is feeling a little stress. You say he wants to please you, so he clealy is involved to some degree. But this isn't enough for you so you going to get another cock, which is willing. Your a classy bird! There are more options that you could consider without going down this road.
You have two children, a loving partner with a little bit of a problem at the moment and your answer to solving your selfish needs is to go elsewhere. Why.
You need to work out another way to handle your desires, this option is only worthy of a person who is prepared to loose it all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): Right, he just likes to please. Don't do it, and definately don't fall for his B.S. Lets say "hypothetically" he is serious about just wanting to do this to relieve tension. This behavior (his) symbolizes the same form of behavior you might find in a habitual sex offender. His offering this, without a relationship, is a method of fulfilling his own sexual desires, in a way that is abnormal. If I were you, even speaking with this person, tread lightly. I don't want to see a question from you where this person crossed the line and fulfilled his desire without your permission. I work in criminal law, and reading your question, his offer brought up mental pictures of inmates our office has been invilved with.Finding any form of sexual desire from someone other than your boyfriend is a form of cheating. Cheating is not just intercourse. I'll tell you too what something like this can cause. If I were your boyfriend and you took some guy up on this, I'd simply tell you to stay with him because this form of behavior would be against what I look for in a girlfriend. It's also something that NO excuse should be accepted.Work on your relationship from within, without going outside of it to fill this void. I don't want to hear you lost someone you love because of making a poor decision.Take care.RCN
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reader, Serinity +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hell no woman!!! Your married and regardless if he's not meeting your needs it's not right to look to another man to fill the voids. You need to try and work this out with your husband. Explain that his lack of intimacy is putting a strain on you and the relationship. Ask him if there's anything you can do to ease the tension between you two and maybe it will help him relax a little. Good luck!
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