Is there anything I can do?
Q. I've been dating a really great guy for two and half years now, he has a girlfriend, he say's were just friends but sometimes i feel like I'm getting mixed signals from him, sometimes i think he wants more then just a friendship, i know that i would ...
A. 26 May 2010: If he has a girlfriend and you two are "just friends" then you're not dating. Even if he SEEMS to want more, you shouldn't want any part of this. If he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON you too.
Because you obviously have feelings for him you ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like a woman because I have a small chest!
Q. I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I ...
A. 13 May 2008: More than a mouthful is a waste. You sound perfect to me!... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind about going on the pill?
Q. Hi all! me and my gf have been together for and 3 months now. We are very much in love and the sex is amazing. there is however, just one problem, my gf always forces me to wear a condom. She says that she can't risk getting pregnant and says tha...
A. 21 April 2008: The pill has lots of side effects, some of them dangerous. (I say this as a woman who was on the pill for 20 years, and they made sure I knew what they were.) So let me see if my memory holds. The side effects are
*weight gain
*irregula... (read in full...)
Can we get engaged without him getting divorced??
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for nine years, i would like to get engaged but the problem is that he is still married but has been separated for 15 years, could we still get engaged without him getting divorced just yet?...
A. 9 February 2008: Legally, yes. But I'm wondering why he hasn't divorced already? Or wanted to be with only you in the nine years you've been together. This might not be the case, but it sounds a lot like he's stringing you along.
Does he want to marry you? If... (read in full...)
How do I move on after seeing my wife cheating??
Q. My wife cheated on me last April. I walked up on it they where in the back seat on her suv at a bar. Im having trouble getting over it. At first she said they where just talking and a month after that i found out it was more. She tells me it was j...
A. 9 February 2008: Well, first of all, counseling, and lots of it. She still has her lumps to take. Before you know you can trust her again (and so move on) you need to know that she's (1) not still doing it, (2) not going to do it again, (3) and that she ... (read in full...)
How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married?
Q. How long should a couple date before getting engaged and then eventually getting married? We have been dating 3 years and 2 months. I am ready to get the show on the road. What is your opinion?...
A. 9 February 2008: It's hard to say without knowing your age and his. If you really want to be married and he doesn't, that's a discussion you should have soon. You may need to decide that marriage is more important than this relationship, and leave. Or you may ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 9 February 2008: So if you keep getting the same answers, why do you keep asking the question? ... (read in full...)
Why do guys think its so hott to make a girl have an orgasm?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex he tries so hard to make me orgasm, it feels so good and I want to be able to Orgasm so bad but I dont know why I cant? Is it the fact I'm afraid we'll have to clean up my mess? Whats wrong? I know alot of girls ...
A. 8 February 2008: Women don't usually "squirt" during orgasm. Very rarely, they do, but it's not the norm.
These might help...
A URL about what happens to a woman's body during orgasm:
http://www.whitelotuseast.com/FemaleOrgasm.htm
A URL about the Myt... (read in full...)
Do we all have a purpose??
Q. Do we all have a purpose? I wonder how can you explain,if your life doesn't go well?I mean if its a complete disaster. Is the best way , to think, it is happening for a reason? Or that you are punished? Or what is the best way to explain downfall? ...
A. 8 February 2008: Depends on what you believe.
Christians believe that we are here for God's pleasure [Revelation 4:11: Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were cre... (read in full...)
Why do guys think its so hott to make a girl have an orgasm?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex he tries so hard to make me orgasm, it feels so good and I want to be able to Orgasm so bad but I dont know why I cant? Is it the fact I'm afraid we'll have to clean up my mess? Whats wrong? I know alot of girls ...
A. 8 February 2008: We like it because it's a pride thing. We're THAT good that we can make you that excited. Reaffirms that we're great in bed, like we think we are, lol.
And don't you feel the same thing when you're going down on your bf? You have the ability ... (read in full...)
Do I tell the man I love that I'm not divorced?
Q. I met a guy 2 years ago whom I began dating secretly, I say secretly because I had just moved in with my boyfriend. He knew I had a boyfriend but there was an undeniable connection that we couldn't let go of. We saw each other randomly and ...
A. 8 February 2008: Wow. That's a lot of lying. It's hard to feel sorry for you, when I'm feeling so sorry for the two men you're with.
Your first step is to level with your lover and see what his reaction is. If he can get over it and still wants you, then you... (read in full...)
What are all these spots around my pubic area?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I just wanted to ask for some advice. I don't shave down there but it's always sore and has red spots everywhere down there and sometimes they even bleed. What do you think it is? ...
A. 8 February 2008: If you're not sexually active, my guess is that you've got some ingrown hairs or pimples. Yes, we all get those "down there" too.
If you're sexually active, it could be any number of things. In this case I would recommend STRONGLY that you... (read in full...)
Is this emotional blackmail?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relaitonship with a guy for nearly 3 years now but for the last few months things have been very strained. I was really worried about him and finally got him to go to the doctor who diagnosed him with depression. He is on an...
A. 8 February 2008: Antidepressants usually take a while to work, because the amount in the system works up to therapeutic levels. Two months is usually about when things start to change, but still, they'll change slowly. He still has work to do.
What you do with ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my body image issues ?
Q. I've always had body image issues, it's quite embarrassing. Ever since I was a kid I had bad self esteem, because my mom wouldn't let me wear my hair long (I had long hair up to when I was like 4 years old, but my mom got sick of me crying when s...
A. 29 January 2008: (1) Don't judge yourself by others -- you don't realize it, but that model in the magazine has a bad body image too. She'll look at herself and see flaws. We are made such that we each see our every flaw, but we don't see the others' flaws because ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know any good sex games to play?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we get on so well, i want to try and improve our sex life slightly by bringing in games, does any one know any good sex games to play?...
A. 24 January 2008: Get this book: "101 Nights of Grrreat Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun Loving Couples"
http://www.powells.com/biblio/62-9780962962813-0
It has tear-out sheets (50 for him and 50 for her and 1 for both) that you can then open to give you... (read in full...)
How can I stop my crush on a manager at work?
Q. im falling in love with a manager at work im 18 shes 23-25 and it hurt. I think about her as i wakeup and last thing before i sleep i try so hard not to i know itll be a stupid crush secondly it wouldn't happen and i wouldn't do that to her family ...
A. 19 January 2008: You need to get out and meet new people, so that you won't focus on the one that you CAN NOT go out with. Dating people where you work (especially the boss) is never a good idea. If the relationship goes south you could lose your job (or worse).
... (read in full...)
Will I ever get another chance to be a mother?
Q. When I was 21 I had to make the most difficult decision of my life, to have an abortion. Myself and my partner have been trying for a baby for over a year. Because I haven't conceived yet, we are both blaming ourselves as he suspects he maybe ...
A. 19 January 2008: Relax. They won't even refer you to the infertility department until you've been trying for more than a year. Sometimes it just takes time. And there are so many cases of folk who chose to adopt only to relax and get pregnant. Don't wind ... (read in full...)
I was just wondering . . . . ?
Q. i was just wondering how many people end up with a person that they went out with when they were younger??...
A. 19 January 2008: I dated my H.S. love for 9 years. We didn't marry, which was a good thing. Wonderful person, but as adults we didn't have the same ideas about how things should go. With the love of my life now, whom I didn't meet until after 30.... (read in full...)
Is soap a good 'lube'?
Q. is it safe to have sex in the shower when soap is used as a sort of lub...
A. 19 January 2008: It works but it's not great. It will change the pH balance of her cooch, which could lead to itchyness as well as other complaints for her.
There's a good lube called "wet" that works in the shower. I think you need to get the cleanser that tak... (read in full...)
My right breast is larger than my left - is this normal?
Q. I'm 17, and I've noticed that my right breast is bigger than my left one. Is this normal? It's not looads bigger, but quite a fair bit. I read a story in a magazine once about a girl needing surgery because one was significantly bigger, and now I'm ...
A. 19 January 2008: Yeah, it's normal.
About the only thing you can do is to build up the muscle behind the smaller one.
If it's only slightly, though, I REALLY wouldn't worry about it. No one will notice but you. And any guy will be so jazzed that he got to s... (read in full...)
What could be making my daughter so miserable? How do I through the parent/child barrier?
Q. Dear cupid, My daughter is 13 years old and for the past couple of months she seems to be really miserable, i've tried talking to her, i've even asked what is wrong but she always says nothing, my husband tried to find out why she is so miserbale ...
A. 4 January 2008: Ask her while you're driving in the car. That way you're not looking at her. Try to get her to go with you to someplace that's 30 minutes away, to give yourselves more time, then ask her.
"You don't seem as happy as you used to. You know, if... (read in full...)
Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 3 January 2008: Hey anon. Just a couple of things.
Get into counseling. If he won't go, go without him. You can't continue to bury so much of who you are to go along with his lack of drive. But the two of you are on a disconnect right now -- the only way to c... (read in full...)
Did this paedophile take my virginity?
Q. Well i've been with this man for 13 months, he's 22.. i think. im not goin to tell u how old i am but im not younger than 13. i always go to his house. we dont have PROPER sex.. we just like rub against each other, but we're naked.. you might tink ...
A. 24 December 2007: Without more information I don't know what the "white bits of stuff" could be anything from semen to your own secretions to bits of your hyman (cherry). Not all women bleed during their first time. It sounds like he put it in, you said "ow" and... (read in full...)
Did this paedophile take my virginity?
Q. Well i've been with this man for 13 months, he's 22.. i think. im not goin to tell u how old i am but im not younger than 13. i always go to his house. we dont have PROPER sex.. we just like rub against each other, but we're naked.. you might tink ...
A. 24 December 2007: Without more information I don't know what the "white bits of stuff" could be anything from semen to your own secretions to bits of your hyman (cherry). Not all women bleed during their first time. It sounds like he put it in, you said "ow" an... (read in full...)
I don't want to get him arrested - what should I do?
Q. there is this boy who is 4 years older that me we both love each other but both sets of parents don't approve n mine say if i ever see him again thay will get him arrested.i do want to see him again but i dnt want him to get hurt or arrested what do ...
A. 24 December 2007: Ask your parents if you can invite him to dinner (with them there). Give them an opportunity to get to know him. Once they know that he's a responsible guy that they like, they might let loose the reigns just a little. Right now he's just a g... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend is all over my new boyfriend, she flirts with him in front of my ex, and I'm starting to have feelings back for him, anything I can do without ruining our friendship?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend were going on 2 years, he broke up with me, and got back together with his ex. I got together with his close friend...for a very short while. I started falling for his friend, but now my ex's new girlfriend is all over my new ...
A. 24 December 2007: Be straight with him. Let the chips fall. If he can't hear it from you, then maybe you weren't friends after all.... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my boyfriend and his brother. What should I do?
Q. I have a confusing situation going on right now in my love life. It all started about 8 months ago at a party when i hooked up with a guy named John whom I knew but never really thought about it THAT way. After we hooked up, it was a little awk...
A. 24 December 2007: If you're no longer in love with your boyfriend, the kindest thing you can do would be to move on. However you will have to give up the idea that his brother and you will work out. Your best bet is to move on and put some time in between you. I... (read in full...)
Is my relationship over? Should we give up?
Q. Is my relationship over? We've been togethr for 12 years but my partner no longer finds me sexually attractive. We are and have always been the best of friends, our relationship has never been based around sex but now my partnber can't bear the ...
A. 24 December 2007: There are a lot of things that can cause a woman to lose her sex drive, and not all of them are hopeless. You and she should get into counseling (find a counselor who specializes in sex therapy, if you can). You might also decide yourself if you ... (read in full...)
Me and the ex are still having sex but I cant tell if he still loves me.
Q. I split up with my boyfirend four months ago. We still have sex with each other even though he has a new girlfriend. I still love him and want him back. How can i tell if he still have feelings for me? what should i do?...
A. 24 December 2007: Oh, hon, I'm so sorry. Don't let this guy touch you anymore. He's just using you for sex. If he wanted to be with you, he would. But he's moved on to his girlfriend. Like kenny said, even if he WOULD come back to you, since he's cheating on... (read in full...)
How can I make it tighter without stressing??
Q. I have a problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months now. Our sex life was awesome in the begining, but lately not so much. We have sex almost everyday, but I feel like i'm getting loose down there and I don't think he...
A. 24 December 2007: If you haven't had children yet, you're NOT too loose. And if he says even ONE thing about it, you need to leave him. Seriously, you don't want to get older with someone who's that shallow. You probably just need to vary the position. If it... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you're ready?
Q. my bf of 16 months acts like he wants to have sex but i don't want it yet. how can you tell if he's ready? how can you tell if your ready? plz help xx...
A. 19 December 2007: Your body, your rules. If he isn't mature enough to understand that, then he's not someone you should be with for your first time. You can always have your first time LATER, but once it's gone, it's gone. If you're not ready, then wait. And if ... (read in full...)
What to do over my drunken text messaging?
Q. I'm getting divorced, and felt low at the weekend. I drank too much at home alone so texted a guy that I fancy, and asked him to come over for a drink.... I didn't hear back, and am now very embarrassed about it. What should I do now? I bu...
A. 10 December 2007: As long as all you did was send an invitation, then there's no worry. You like him anyway, and you're about to be single.
The next time you bump into him, you might apologize for being forward and say that if he's not into you to, no worries,... (read in full...)
Is "giving head" and a "blow job" the same thing?
Q. I know this is stupid, but is there a difference between giving head and a blow job? And how can I do it so it feels really good for my guy?...
A. 10 December 2007: Yeah, they're the same thing.... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend is sulking?
Q. PLease help me. IS my boyfriend sullking? We have been dating for 2 months and he has been sleeping over and spending time with me and my 3 kids, 67a=nd 13. They love him already and they have a lot of fun. Just one thing bothers me, he drinks m...
A. 10 December 2007: I don't think I'm about to give you the advice you want, and I'm sorry for that. But I hope you will think about it anyway.
You don't want this guy around you or your children.
Good for you for not bring him home when he was drinking. As fo... (read in full...)
How can I address him about our Sex life lacking, without him getting annoyed?
Q. My boyfriend shuts off when I confront him about our lack of sex, he just says "I hate these conversations". He has admitted he has a low sex drive but I just want him to want me as much as I want him. I just want to show him how I feel about him by ...
A. 10 December 2007: Being able to talk about this is crucial. Seriously, it's the most important part of communication and it's usually swept under the rug.
Here's the thing -- don't "confront" him. You need to talk, but try to avoid getting him on the defensiv... (read in full...)
How long after coming off the pill does it generally take before getting pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone... My boyf and I are trying for a baby and I came off the pill in July of this year. How long after coming off the pill does it generally take before getting pregnant? ...
A. 10 December 2007: Since you can accidentally get pregnant while ON the pill, if you miss a pill during the cycle, I can't imagine that it takes very long at all.
But everyone is different, and stress can affect your cycle. You should count the first day of your ... (read in full...)
I really want to date my friend but don't want to make an enemy of my other friend.
Q. I have feelings 4 my best friend and i was planning to tell her soon but i found out that she likes one of my friends and they went out but they stopped cause he was actin like a jerk. She told me that she still has feelings for him and i am sure he ...
A. 15 November 2007: Take a deep breath and give it a few weeks. It sounds like she needs time to get over him anyway, and you don't want to be "rebound guy." In that time they will either figure out that they want to try again or she'll be over him. (Fingers crossed ... (read in full...)
How can I get to talk to her on her own?
Q. Hey, I'm 15 and i'm currently in a relationship with a girl my age. We've been together 2 months now and we still find it hard to talk to each other directly. We mostly hang around with her mates and i don't mind that but i think its stopping...
A. 13 November 2007: Ask her to lunch.... (read in full...)
Male in love with male teacher
Q. Im a bisexual and is madly in love with my male teacher. Im a male too. I am 15 and he is 28. I dunno if he is straight or gay but I love him. I just want to attract his attention, I feel very strong feelings; a burning desire to get him. I want him ...
A. 13 November 2007: If you truly love him, you must leave him alone. You could ruin his career or worse.
He CAN'T (legally) be with you, no matter what he wants. At best he'll lose his job; at worst he'll be in jail. This isn't something you want for someone ... (read in full...)
I'm a girl and I have a moustache - how can I hide it?
Q. I am a girl and I have a bit of a moustache above my top lip. I bleach it so noboby can see it. But it worries me because it makes me feel really unfeminine. Also, I was wondering that when you kiss someone, can you feel their moustache? Have you ...
A. 8 November 2007: Unless it's very long I can't imagine that we'd notice. Our own whiskers get in the way -- they're a lot courser, aren't they?... (read in full...)
Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 18 October 2007: I think this would be a mistake. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face. The two of you need dialog, and lots of it. If you start down this road, rather than start trying to work on coming to a negotiated agreed-to compromise about your sex ... (read in full...)
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