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writes:HiI've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, I am pregnant also. He is besotted with me as I am with him. Last weekend was one of the very few times ever he went out without me, he came home at 1.42am, I know as I looked at the clock. He went out with work mates as it was his work mates birthday. Well, he came to bed at 2am, and was sat downstairs quietly with no tv, no stereo on for 15 mins. I woke the next morning and he had had a text from a girl who he worked with to say 'i want that slow soft kiss right now' sent at 1.58am. I confronted him, he denied it was for him. He told me he'd spoken to her when he got home to make sure she got home ok, however I cant find a record on his call logs so he obviously deleted this call after he called. Now a few days later, after trusting him that the message was meant for someone else, I find out that in his recent contacts for texting she was the last person he texted, with no mesages in inbox or sent messages. WHY would he delete these messages?I'm just curious asto what I should do, being pregnant and suspect is not a good thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): The message his.
Someday your child will tell you those cigarettes/vodka/pot aren't really his either. See he's just holding them for a friend.
This doesn't necessarily mean he cheated but its not good. He's at least been flirting way over the line.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 hmmm. this is a tough situation to be in. but to be honest hun, if it was truly a mistaken txt sent for someone else - why all the covering up? why the deleting and acting suspicious? i think that you should talk to him - and ask him for the truth once and for all. if it was me hun, i would be inclined to think that there is something going on with this woman. however, i dont really want you to be jumping to conclusions without more info from him. talk to him, and if this behaviour continues, i would consider the worst - he is cheating. i hope this helps hun, email me if you want to talk, good luck xxx
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 He very well could be cheating but witout proof it's hard to make accusations. I would just lay low for awhile and see if he acts suspicious again. I would silently keep an eye on his texting and phone calls. If he is cheating and he doesn't think you have a clue, then he will eventually do something to get caught. I know the feeling of not knowing sucks, but he will deny it to the grave so constantly questioning him and harping on him will do no good. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): We can make excuses for him or we can be honest and say that this text is indeed 'suspscious'. Always go with the gut instinct. I'm afraid my best advice is probably controversial but I would get hold of his mobile (sooner rather than later) just after working hours when he is home and I would text this woman. Maybe even send an empty text so it could be fobbed off as a mistake (sat on the phone etc) or something - keep hold of the phone and see if you get anything at all back. Failing this.... there is a device available on the internet from spy product shops which you attach to a mobile phone and it downloads the last say 30 or so deleted texts. You then upload them onto a PC for viewing. I would get to the bottom of this before it gets out of hand or you go insane with not knowing. You don't sound like the kind of person to let this kind of behaviour just go. Neither would I. Good luck - he should show you more respect especially with the baby.
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