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writes:Help im becoming obbsessed with going to my local pub where hoping to see my ex,and his mates i go at least once a week but im always thinking about going there, i sometimes go past the pub hoping to see my exs car, or even go and walk past his house to see if hes in., ive also started driving past the other pub in which he and his mates go most of the time to see if i can see him in there.He was my first ever guy and i just cant get him out my mindDO I REALLY NEED HELP,im not sure who else to talk to so plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Nah relax it's not that serious, let yourself deal with your reaction to the pain honestly and naturally. Let it run its course. Eventually, when you are ready and your heart is healed, you will move on. Don't force yourself to. Don't take the advice of people who say, "find a hobby, meet someone new," because if you don't let yourself deal with this thing fully, it will resurface in your next relationship. Cry a lot. Spend a few sleepless nights. Confront him. Gradually your heart will mend. But right now you just need to FEEL it. Let yourself experience the emotions, it's the only way to recover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): I have been stalking my ex. He cheated on me with his ex, they rekindled the relationship then broke it off with me again. I am very upset and I feel like all I want to do is make him remorseful.
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reader, Jiltedlover  +, writes (28 August 2008):
I feel your pain. I'm in a similar situation where I am having trouble letting go of a prior relationship. I have been stalking him too. But I guess I'm a pretty half-assed stalker because I can never actually seem to catch up with him. Wish I had some good advice to offer you. I tried dating other guys but whenever I look at them, I see his face. Don't pay attention to that last comment. I don't think the authorities can jail you for stalking someone unless they've taken out a restraining order against you. Happy hunting!
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reader, Serinity +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Yeah, you need to let him go. All you're doing is prolonging your misery. I know it's hard to let someone go when you love them, but sometimes we don't have a choice. The sooner you stop looking for him the sooner you'll get over him. As they say, there are many other fish in the sea and when you find your soul mate you'll wonder why you wasted so much time getting over him. Let him go, you can do it, I have faith in you :o) Good luck sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Think of it this way - if it was him doing the same to you and you didn't want him anymore - what would you do???Move on with your life!!! Go out, meet new people, go to NEW pubs and places where your ex won't be likely to be. You can't get him out of your mind right now cos you are goin around to all his regular and usual places he goes to in the hope of seeing him!!! Like Laura1318 said -- what would you do or say if you saw him??!?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Yeah! I think you are crazy! You can be jailed for stalking and harassment..LOL! You are becoming too obsessive and compulsive .
What will you do when you see him?
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